If your Dh owned this coat, would you make it mysteriously ‘Disappear’

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I hate it!

He has lots of lovely clothes, new coat this winter, but always pulls this horror out. A hillbilly, scruffy, donkey jacket.
I realise it’s up to him what he wants to wear and he’s a grown man and it would be wrong for it to mysteriously‘Disappear’

But…would you make this coat mysteriously disappear?

I’d give to someone with a cat or dog, it would make a cosy bed.

No, because that would be nasty. I understand the temptation though.

No, because I'm not abusive or controlling.

I would undoubtedly want to make it disappear, but no I wouldn't. I don't ask my husband's permission/approval of what to wear (and certainly don't look an oil painting all the time LOL), so I grit my teeth and bear his worst bits.

Except when he comes downstairs in e.g. checked trousers and striped shirts. Then I send him back to get changed. 😂

Would I try to control what clothes another adult chooses to wear?

No of course not.

I'm surprised you have to ask.

Del Boy? I wouldn't make it disappear, no.

My DH has about 10 really old scruffy shirts. I am tempted to throw them out but I don't.

Yabu I’d be furious if dh threw away or hid things from my closet.

I’d put it away at the back of the wardrobe and position all nicer coats in front of it.

@Boing98 Oh ffs, slightly dramatic…I’m not abusive or controlling, I just have aversion to this coat

I wouldn't do it but I'd want to... much like my DHs beret which often gets pushed to the bottom of the hats/scarves basket. It was found again recently and tragically appears to have been a delicious snack for a moth. (hasn't stopped him wearing it though ffs).

@ClaudiaWankleman I do that 😂but he digs it out

It will come back into fashion one day. No id not make him get rid of it. Thats wrong

I actually quite like it 😂 but yes I have thrown a couple of bits away before, namely scruffy trainers that he won't get rid of!

Men do seem to get attached to (fearsome) ancient garments. DH also has many lovely clothes but favours a rather grubby Aran sweater. ( I dread how it would dry…)

He doesn’t get any dinner when he is wearing it though.

No, I'd call him 'Del boy' everytime he wore it though.

It looks quite cosy

oooh that looks warm I would wear that

I just grit my teeth. He WFH so has definitely got much scruffier. I have a deep aversion to a couple of his shirts but I wont throw them out ( though I could probably get away with it).

I agree! Not abusive or controlling OP. I've "hidden" an awful item of clothing my husband wears. He burst out laughing when he found it. I also stopped wearing a coat he didn't like so fair is fair!

No. I wouldn't make it disappear and nor should you. I'd be beyond furious if my DH did that to something of mine. 😠

I don't see what's wrong with it. It's not a style I would personally choose but if he likes it then it's surely fine? I actually quite like it.

Personally, I really don't care that much about the clothes or coats that my DH wears and he barely notices mine either. That's how it should be.

No. We don't lie to or deceive each other. My husband would be furious if I deliberately and sneakily got rid of his stuff.

On a completely different note, I don't know why but those coats always look like they smell bad.

No idea why, but every time I see someone wearing them I associate them with a bad smell.

Perhaps way back in my childhood someone smelly used to wear one? 😳

We've developed a Code which basically goes, I think it's time for the disposal ceremony...for anything that has had it's day. He does the same to me.

we keep our most active use coats by the back door and other coats in a closet. Dh’s awful coat got put in the closet when I was putting away some other coats. For him it was out of sight out of mind. It’s now at the very back of the closet and he hasn’t touched it in years.