To find a lost wallet and keep the money inside

[FindersKeepers1]

Today I found a wallet on the floor in ASDA. A decent leather, heavy wallet with credit cards inside etc. I quickly handed it into a security guard who then handed it into customer services. Told DH and he asked if I kept the money inside? He was half joking but said that he would keep the cash as a “finders fee” and that it served the boomer right for dropping their wallet (it was a wallet of an older man)

Tried to talk to him, would he really keep the money he found and he would! Although he then accused me of starting a fight.

Wow! That’s a horrible attitude your husband has 😡

What a cheap thief he is! I pity you having to live with him and his guttersnipe attitude. What an example for your children, too. And so free with his insults - boomer, indeed. He'll be a little pup himself one day.

Yes, am wondering that. Don't understand why OP is remotely surprised that her husband has sticky fingered tendencies in light of her revelations about his general personality.

You can leave a marriage for ANY reason, OP. Don't have to justify it to anyone. But in this particular case, he's such a nasty bastard the only wonder is why you'd stay.

That's a disgraceful attitude to have.

He just gets more and more attractive the more you drip feed us, OP.

This is awful. Did he not stop to think that the in his wallet could be all they have for their food shopping?

Have you filed for divorce yet? 🤔
Sorry, I thought that was the stock MN reply...

It could have been all that man had to live for the rest of the month, to pay rent who knows, not very endearing trait.
Once my son had saved to buy a bike and lost his wallet on the way, someone handed it over, was so grateful DH took flowers and chocolate to the person who handed it over, it is fortunate not everyone is like your DH.

You sound almost proud to be married to such a disgusting vile specimen. Why are you encouraging his behaviour?

There arn't different degrees of honesty

Eh?!

Your husband is a thief....

Also...... AIBU to find that anyone who uses the word "boomer" is always a total arsehole?

It serves the Boomer right

What a delightful generation you lot are 🙄
He’s clearly wrong and a total bastard. You really don’t need to ask mumsnet for advice.

When I was about 18, 40 years ago, I left my purse in a phone box in my hometown city centre. Me & my friend went to the police station about an hour later and it’d been handed in. All my money, about £50, still there.
I was so surprised and grateful I can’t tell you. I’ve never forgotten it.

A lot of people in this country have lost their moral compass. It possibly starts with taking items from the stationery cupboard at work for use at home, then moves on to just adding a few quid onto expenses (on the basis that they were probably owed that anyway by the company for going the extra mile), then progresses on to adding a bit extra onto an insurance claim (it's a victimless crime right, beside everyone does it these days), then putting in a dodgy claim for holiday insurance, after all the holiday companies make millions and remember I did feel a bit dodgy on the 4th day.... you get the picture. It's all just theft and people try to normalise and hide the fact of what it is... in the case of your DH he's called it a 'finders fee' because theft is an ugly word.

You haven’t read her other posts have you? Just the first one eh?

You need to read Finderskeepers1 posts... she's not happy, that's the entire point of this thread.

When I was younger my family lived week to week. My Dad got paid weekly in cash in a little brown envelope. One Friday he came home and the envelope was gone, dropped out of his pocket on his way home. I remember my Mum sat at the kitchen table crying while my Dad retraced his steps in the hope of finding it without any luck. A couple of hours later a stranger knocked on our door. He had found the envelope. We lived in a small village where everyone knew everyone. The man was visiting family and found the envelope and his relatives told him where my Dad lived. The memory of my Mum hugging the stranger, crying with pure relief has never left me. I could never take someone else's money.

Absolutely not.
You never know what that money means to the person who owns it.
That food would stick in my craw, I'd never be able to eat it.

Has he suffered a head injury, OP?

Surely he can't have always been like this or you wouldn't have ended up with him in the first place, given your disgust with him.

Is he very stupid? Most of the stores are covered by CCTV and they'll see him stealing the money.

Boomers?

He's clearly rubbing off on you

What are you going to do about your son?

At risk?

It should be dead in the water

I won’t flame you! I’d do the same. Memorably I once found a fiver floating in a fairly busy swimming pool. I kept it. But a wallet is different.

That is known as theft by finding and is an offence

This. No way could I do that, I'd hand it in, intact.
I hope he was joking.