To find a lost wallet and keep the money inside

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Today I found a wallet on the floor in ASDA. A decent leather, heavy wallet with credit cards inside etc. I quickly handed it into a security guard who then handed it into customer services. Told DH and he asked if I kept the money inside? He was half joking but said that he would keep the cash as a “finders fee” and that it served the boomer right for dropping their wallet (it was a wallet of an older man)

Tried to talk to him, would he really keep the money he found and he would! Although he then accused me of starting a fight.

That depends how badly I needed money.
its easy to be moral in the abstract, but the fact is if I needed to feed my kids and there was money there that could feed them, I think most people would take it.

My nan once found £20 on the road and went to take it to the police station and the policeman said they had no way to get it to the owner but "I'll take it" my nan said "no you won't!" and donated it to charity instead.

I remember going to the beach with a friend for the day as a kid and I left my purse at the pub we had a meal at-I remembered half way home but it was too late to turn back. My mum called the pub later and there was no sign of it. It only had like £6 in it but I was gutted and felt really bad for my mum that Id lost her money. I'm sure it was obvious it was a kid's purse as well.

I know I definitely wouldn't take it. I've handed in bags as well as straight cash that I've found a number of times without thinking about it.

I couldn't be with someone who stole from others. I've heard others talk about keeping stuff they find and I just look at them differently. I just assume they're someone not to be trusted who will take from you when you're not looking and will happily save themselves at your expense if it came to it.

What a disgusting man

That would really shake my opinion of him as a trustworthy person. Has he dodgy morals in other areas? I fully expect so.

and the victim may also be on the breadline too. A victim may not be able to heat their home or eat. A victim may not be able to buy their prescription of essential medication.

stealing from a personal wallet is much much worse then stealing from a big faceless supermarket corporation which makes millions in profit (not that I agree with that either).

@M3ganne true, someone could justify anything in their head because "I need to feed my kids" still doesn't make it right though. It's someone else's money, it's so worrying that even needs to be pointed out!

I would not keep cash from a wallet or purse 100% no, if I found cash alone on the floor.

When I was about 19yo I went to buy something at a deli and realised my feet felt wrong. I looked down and I was standing on so much money . I picked it all up and said to the guy who was serving me , someone must have dropped this, maybe I should take it to the police and he said no,no they will be back for it.
I am actually an intelligent person supposedly. That money went straight in that guys pocket for sure. It would have been thousands ( and this was in the late 80's). Banged my head against the train window all the way home . Dude didn't even ask for my name or phone number. Stooooopid.
I could never have taken it though. I just should have taken it to the police like I first thought. Sorry to whoever it was that it belonged to.

No, they didn’t. But this was 1998.

Back in the early 90s I found £80 blowing about on the street, I was 17yo. I took it to the police station and it was claimed that day. It was an elderly man who had withdrew his pension and was beside himself apparently due to thinking he wouldn't be able to buy food that week, pay his rent. I am so glad I handed it in.

@ Daniela Dressen Absolutely. You never know the situation of the person who has lost the money. Do as you would be done by. My daughter when a teenager once found a wallet on the street - we found the contact details of the person it belonged to, and he came to pick it up, and gave my daughter a tenner for her trouble, which I thought was very nice of him.

Thats just so wrong.

No morals at all.

So I spoke to DH again today. We were in a cafe and I asked him, hypothetically, if we were the only ones in here and the staff were nowhere to be seen - if we found a wallet on the table with money in it and ID - would he take the money?

He said again - not if the person was next to him. I asked him - would he take the money? He said he couldn’t possibly answer that until he was in that position himself. I couldn’t pin him down - he said he would like to think he would hand it in or put it in a post box but couldn’t possibly predict what he would do in the moment?

Surely something like that needs no thought?

I think we've established that he's morally bankrupt. Why are you asking him about it again? He's not going to suddenly be a different person.

Oh wow.

I lost my purse last year, someone found it and used my card for several contactless services. Luckily nationwide were amazing and funded it back. I had to phone the police, replace licence etc it was a pain. Even more devastating if it was cash taken too.

I would question his morals and trust tbh if that's his attitude.

OP, everything in this thread and your ear pod one, point to your husband being absolute scum, the real dregs of society, determined that his son be the same.

Why on earth are you surprised at anything he says that shows him to be consistently scummy in his behaviour?

If I find anything these days I notify the premises & leave my phone number for when the person comes looking for it … years back I found a piece of jewellery on the floor in a restaurant. And I just didn’t want to hand it over to the waitress or manager. I wanted it to be returned to its rightful owner … and it was. By me.

What an evil way of thinking.

Don’t keep it. Be a nice person and hand it in. Many folk can’t afford anything these days and that money is all they have for a shop.

Not theft related but there’s so much other stuff that’s inappropriate- he has terrible road rage and the names he calls people in front of the children are vile- for example - “move you fat b!£ch” “Get out of the way Ugly C?!t” and racist comments such as ching-Chong(I’m so sorry if this offends anyone)

A lot of his comments are directed at women and Women’s weight - “get your fat gut out of the road” etc. It’s like he says the most shocking stuff possible (not to peoples face)

I don’t drive so his answer is I can’t tell him what to do in his own car and I have no clue as I’ve never been in that position. He speaks about women like some are not even human calling them “It” or “thing” or “cretin”

Sorry, hugely off topic I know but it’s like he says the most inflammatory/most offensive thing possible to get a reaction from me.

There are some disgusting vile people around, sounds like you married one OP.

Ok but what are you getting out of repeating it all here? It's not like it's going to change anything.

My daughter found a wallet on the train yesterday. Saw it belonged to a German guy probably on his way to the airport. She has already posted it off to the address on the ID card in it. She could have just handed it in. Your husband sounds a really unpleasant person. Not sure how you can stay with such a knob.