To find a lost wallet and keep the money inside

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Today I found a wallet on the floor in ASDA. A decent leather, heavy wallet with credit cards inside etc. I quickly handed it into a security guard who then handed it into customer services. Told DH and he asked if I kept the money inside? He was half joking but said that he would keep the cash as a “finders fee” and that it served the boomer right for dropping their wallet (it was a wallet of an older man)

Tried to talk to him, would he really keep the money he found and he would! Although he then accused me of starting a fight.

He’s risking his livelihood and your family home for the sake of some post it notes?

What the fuck are you doing with this idiot? If he’s skint and that way inclined then having something off the back of a lorry is one thing. He’s no different than a grubby little shoplifter. I’d be embarrassed to have him as a husband.

Also admitted to pinching stuff at the self service tills in Tesco - scans most stuff but sneaks some stuff through. Came home a couple of years ago showing me a new wallet that he didn’t scan, was so pleased with himself. We had a huge fight and he made a big deal of coming home with groceries saying how don’t worry, everything has been scanned and paid for. Urgh.

Couldn't agree more.

I think there is a huge difference in being sent something accidentally by a huge corporation and an individual dropping a wallet.

Your DH is a thief. Plain and simple.

He’s not skint and we are fairly comfortable. It’s a huge turn off I know.

I was trying to work out what you AIBU is.

If it's 'AIBU to remain married to a common thief', the answer is yes, very much so.

Do you have children with him?

Be careful you're not tainted by association. You can tell a lot about people by the company they keep

I sometimes have questionable morals but I definitely wouldn't keep the money.

Exactly.

I couldn’t look at a man again if he was prepared to do that.
That’s somebody’s Christmas shopping money I would imagine. My dad used to go out with a wallet full of cash about now to buy gifts.
How would your DH feel if someone stole from one of his parents or grandparents?
With a cost of living crisis, and some people really struggling with heating, imagine stealing food and warmth from an older person?
It absolutely knocks me sick.
I know if my dad had lost his wallet and someone had handed it in he’d have wanted to know who had been so kind and knowing him knock on their door with a ‘few bob’ to say thank you.
My mum left her purse in a cafe once at this time of year, and a 9 year old boy had handed it in. She was so overcome with gratitude. And that was for an honest young boy.

Horrible attitude, I'd be so disappointed in my DH if he had said this.

My DD worked in a supermarket as a teen and forgot she had her birthday money in her bag on a shift the following day. It all got nicked, over £200. I can remember how devastated she was.

I won't lie...if I found loose cash on the floor, I can't be 100% what I'd do. Part of me would say hand it in, part of me would say it will probably never find its way back to the person so just keep it.

Finding a purse or wallet though...and opening it, removing the cash then giving it back...seems another level to me. Just flat out theft, he just as well have pickpocketed it.

In ASDA, you would have been on video emptying the wallet. Lots of high resolution video in store following you around.

You did the right thing.

Urgh! What a horrible husband you have!

I found a wallet full of money when I was a young teenager - must have been at least 20 £20 notes if not more. I walked to the local police station - handed it in with my details and about 2 weeks later had a letter delivered from the owner with £100 in thanking me for my honesty.
To do anything else is obscene - probably some poor old man's pension for the week
:(

He sounds like a horrible disgusting man. There's no way I'd be with someone who enjoyed stealing.

He is dishonest and a thief. Clearly not a one-off but a persistent thief who does it for kicks. How can you ever trust him?

Definitely would feel uncomfortable with this, but a part of me realises that security will probably take it if you dont!

Me personally, I'd have tried to find the person on LinkedIn or FB and tried to get it back to them personally

Morally bankrupt attitude to take. I'd be rethinking my relationship with someone who thought that was OK.

Even though no one admits it on here, when I've lost my purse and actually got it back, it's ALWAYS had the cash taken out of it so the majority of the public do take the money out. Would be nice if they didn't, but it's kind of a given. I was just grateful to have my purse and cards back.

I found a childs purse not so long ago with £20 in and posted it to a FB group and they were shocked I returned it, with the money still in there.

Ugh that's just so wrong. I think it'd change my view of him quite a lot, were he my husband.

Thank goodness most of us are honest. I always live by the rule to treat others the way you want to be treated. If your husband dropped his wallet would he want someone to pick it up and nick the money.

He’s the one I posted about where he encouraged our son to keep some air pods that our son found. Made out that I was a huge doormat, a nerd and pathetic for wanting to hand them in and return them to their owner. My teen called me a narcissist and vicious too, I told my husband that his behaviour is ruining our son but he’s used that as a weapon too - how I said he’s going to ruin our son with his terrible morals etc.

What a disgusting man your husband is. How would he feel if that was his dad? Or if it’s him in future?

I found a wallet in the disabled/baby changing loo in Asda once, it was stuffed with cash. It wouldn’t have crossed my mind to even take a penny out of it before handing it in