To find a lost wallet and keep the money inside

[FindersKeepers1]

Today I found a wallet on the floor in ASDA. A decent leather, heavy wallet with credit cards inside etc. I quickly handed it into a security guard who then handed it into customer services. Told DH and he asked if I kept the money inside? He was half joking but said that he would keep the cash as a “finders fee” and that it served the boomer right for dropping their wallet (it was a wallet of an older man)

Tried to talk to him, would he really keep the money he found and he would! Although he then accused me of starting a fight.

This makes me really sad OP. My DDad is 82, partially sighted, with severe arthritis in his hands but fiercely independent. He still likes to go to the shop on his own but has a couple of times gone to put his wallet in his pocket but fumbled it and dropped it but not noticed.

Luckily on both occasions kindly people have either given it back to him before he got too far away or handed it in at the shop where he's been able to collect it when he's realised what has happened.

The thought someone would take advantage of him by taking the cash out of it before handing it in makes me really upset. I couldn't have someone like that in my life or my DCs lives.

That is gross misconduct and cab result in dismissal

Money is the root of all evil.

The love of money is the root of all evil.

OP’s H is not only a despicable thief, but is an ageist prat, who is teaching his child to be the same.

I wonder if it occurs to him that he may be old one day and whether he will speak and think so unpleasantly then. He’ll probably be either on his own or in trouble with the law. I think his employers should know that he’s stealing from them.

What a despicable piece of work.

@FindersKeepers1
What values attract you to a partner?

For.me it is honesty.
Kindness
Empathy.

You husband has none.
Why did you ever get with him?

Sick of all this jealousy towards" boomers "
Boomers have worked hard . If your fella wants to feel resentment then save it for Governments past and present .

That is awful. I left my purse in train station toilets when DS distracted me - trying to find something in my bag.

I realised quickly - and on rushing back I saw a lady hand it to staff. Complete with cash. To do anything else is disgusting.

The only time I would keep money was if I found it in the street because there is no way I could ever trace the owner . Most finds in the streets are coins and single notes .

Absolutely not. That's theft, pure and simple

Does he not have a Dad or a Grandad, would he be happy if someone robbed them too?

Only a thieving piece of shit would keep the money. Hopefully if your DH handed the wallet in (after stealing the money,) the person who lost the wallet reports the money missing and he is tracked down on CCTV and charged with theft.

This. ^ The OP's husband sounds vile to me to be honest. I couldn't be married to someone like this.

I think I interpreted the voting differently from everyone else, judging by how few voted like me, compared to the high number of comments which seem to agree with me.

I said you would be unreasonable to steal the money.

Fuck me. Absolutely not.

No, unless I were absolutely starving. A friend in university dropped her wallet with her fortnightly pay in cash in it. She was on her way to the bank two streets over. She never saw it again. That money was for her flight home for Christmas.

I was thinking about this. It’s probably easier to stand by your morals if you’re not down and out and that’s not to say that impoverished people have no morals.

But if I were that skint mum or dad struggling to feed the family would I be tempted to keep the cash? I’d like to think I’d hand it all in.

He sounds horrendous as well as being a thief.

urgh What a horrible man but you reap what you sow so the universe will deal with him

At Tesco someone who was filling up their tyres with air had some money left on there when they'd finished. Came to tell us so we could take advantage. As she drove off I realised she'd left her purse on top of the machine. Took the purse into the Tesco garage. Even though this was two to three years ago I still think about it sometimes; hoping that she'd thought to call in at the shop and ask if it had been handed in. At the same Tesco someone had left their handbag in a shopping trolley park. Took that into customer services, hoping that they'd realise what they'd done and see if it had been handed in. The idea that you might not be caught stealing in these circumstances is something that simply wouldn't factor into what I did.

On a different note my husband had his wallet pickpocketed on a train. Shortly afterwards the wallet was posted back to him after being found in a bin (presumably address traced through driving licence). Of course cash and cards were gone. But the wallet held a Polaroid of our son taken on the day he was born by the staff in the baby ICU unit after a difficult 28 hour birth, so we could have that connection whilst we were largely separated from him. I was in a room on my own for nine days and could see him when I wanted, but that was limited due to my birth injuries. He was home and well by then but the photograph was precious. It wasn't in the wallet. Who would take that and why? We would never get that moment in time back. Some people are absolute shits.

My 72 year old friend dropped his wallet in Morrisons. Some git found it and kept it. He was so distressed at losing his cash and his cards that he had a huge stroke a few hours later.
OP, your DH would qualify as a grade 1 scumbag for doing something like that. How would he like his pension taken off him? Revolting.

Legally that is stealing and a real crime.

"Essentially has the attitude that everyone is out for themselves and if he hadn’t kept the air pods/pinched money from a found wallet-someone else would do it."
Bollocks

I think this thread has shown you he is wrong

I once found £30 on the pavement - I phoned the local police and they said that given it had no-one to identify it - they can't deal with it .Many years ago I found a purse with £100 in it - I took it into the police station. it was recognisable so they took it in.

I am astounded that some (SOME) people think stealing is OK. & I do think it is stealing. I have many different interests etc with Dh but basic honesty is a no brainer.

This. He's a real prize, isn't he? Not.

I’ve found a wallet a couple of times. Once I was food shopping with my dad and picked up a wallet thinking it was his and started playing with it - just opening and shutting it absentmindedly. It was only when he came to pay and got out his own wallet did I realise and was like whose is this then? We handed it in to customer services.
i once left my wallet in a taxi. I was a student at the time but the taxi driver managed to get in touch with the university who then got in touch with me. Nothing was stolen and I was so grateful