To ask nursery not to let my child play outside when it’s dark out

[Singlema99]

I collect my child from nursery at about 5pm, often children are playing outside however this time of year it’s almost black outside from 4pm and at home my child knows he can’t play in the garden after dark the same way I wouldn’t take him to the park in the dark.

would it be unreasonable to ask the nursery to keep him in from 4pm

mainly because the message is confusing but also often he’s not adequately dressed to be outside not wearing gloves and hat and has been happy but freezing several times picking him up.

Nursery is not an extension of your home. Presumably you don't encourage your child to nap on a mat on the floor or do circle time at home.
Just be grateful they're getting that extra bit of fresh air which will help them sleep well. Preferrable to an over heated room full of kids with winter viruses.
Also, how do you suggest they staff your request if the other children are outside?

I dropped my daughter off at a club one evening and took my son to the park opposite and a friend came with her daughter, we ended up chatting and the kids played whilst it got dark. It’s one of my son’s favourite memories and he will often say remember when we played on the park in the dark.

Why on earth can’t your child play outside when it’s dark?

4pm is 4pm if its dark or not . Send him in appropriate clothes for winter

It’s nearly winter you should dress your DC accordingly, best several layers which can be taken off if too hot. Label all clothes, even under ones. As for the dark of course people go out in the evening and in the snow.

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What’s the issue with him playing out in the dark? They won’t be unsupervised. Every time we’ve had decent snow I’ve taken my daughter back out to play in the dark right up till bedtime to make the most of it. She’s always had an amazing time and no harm ever came of her.

Extremely unreasonable. Why not? They will be supervised as ever.

You’re not teaching your child to be scared of the dark, you’re teaching him to not play out in places which could be harmful if left alone - the dark has got nothing to do with it. Does that mean you’re going to keep him in for bonfire displays? Will you not let him see the Christmas lights? Presumably he’s not in the playground on his own so just let him play out with everybody else. if you’re worried about him being cold, give him more clothes to wear. YABU

This. It’s your responsibility how you dress your child.

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I taught my children to love the dark. It’s a great place to hide. If you keep moving in the dark they can’t get you.

Op never came back assuming she didn’t like the answers

I don't know how your school is staffed but when I worked at a child care center there wasn't extra staff to be able to cater to just one child. Another issue I came across was children not having appropriate cold weather gear when the parents knew we would be outside on nice winter days. Your child should be ok if he's dressed warmly. The kids really need to run off some of that energy!

You said he's happy when you pick him up so obviously enjoys playing outside with the other children.
If he's kept in on his own that's going to be very confusing and unfair. Kids need some fresh air they're obviously supervised so I can't see the problem.

I'd rather our DC are outside and getting some fresh air than cooped up inside any day. Take a big coat in, it's not a problem. They run about and have fun, what's not to like? Sorry I really don't get this type of question at all.

You are the mother, you can put your view across and express concerns …