AIBU: to want my ds to use certain words and criticise DH for using others?

[Spidermummy]

I know that I am going to come under fire for this, but here goes...
I was brought up not to use certain words, such as toilet, couch, dinner, pardon etc and personally use loo, sofa, supper and sorry, instead. Have been trying to encourage my DS (3yo) to do the same, but he hears the former words at nursery, knows they annoy me and therefore uses them on purpose. This I can handle, just keep repeating the words I think he should be using and refuse to answer unless he does. The problem is that DH uses mostly the former as well, so DS is getting confused. I have tried correcting DH, which doesn't go down very well strangely enough, he thinks I'm being a snob basically. I try to be sensitive about it, but feel very strongly about this and refuse to compromise. My DH also uses English very badly in sentences, eg.'I was sat down' which is one of my pet hates. We were both brought up the same and it is pure laziness that he speaks this way, but it is of course going to cause more and more problems with DC's. Am I being unreasonable to keep correcting the both of them, or should I leave it alone?

I do understand your point, I truly do BUT you can't train your DH. He's not the three year old child and so has the right to speak as he wishes as long as it is appropriate (i.e. no swearing or inappropriate subjects in front of your DS).

Pardon me but I'm off to the toilet, after which I'll be having my dinner whilst sitting on the counch

Umm - I clearly can't spell (overcome with sarcasm perhaps?) - I meant "couch"!

what difference does it make.

A sofa is still a sofa by any other name etc etc

or sommat

I thought you were being OTT when I realised that I hate the words

Ta
Knickers

and alway correct DD by saying oh I say thank you and pant... etc. I would not tell her she was wrong to say the other words tbh and I would certainly not correct DH in front of DD if he said anything I didnt; like (apart from swearing).. he is an adult and does not deserve to be told off....

We have the tea/dinner/supper debate in our house. I am fighting a losing battle.

Agree with tmmj.

I (sometimes) correct pronounciation but not words.

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Tee hee, I sometimes have to leave the room when my mum is speaking to the kiddies due to her complete inability to use articles - "what did teacher say?" "do you want to play game?" "would you like sandwich?" - but as she is in her 50's I would consider it absolutely pointless and pretty rude to correct her! Luckily my two don't seem to have picked up the habit ...

I really don't understand. What is the problem with those words? They are official words in the dictionary, aren't they? (Should I have said 'are they not' there?)

Tbh, I'm from South Africa and know most things as different words to what they use here in Scouseland (I realise Scousers aren't the best rolemodels for the English language ).

But we all understand each other and if I were to be pedantic about what things are called, I wouldn't have any friends. I would be a druling wreck in the corner from the bother about these words.

I think you're making it harder on yourself. BUT, if you could maybe explain why these words annoy you so much, I'm prepared to listen

sorry but words are just words, and the words you list above are particularly inconsequential. Toilet, Loo, they're just things you poo into, there are much more important things in life to get worked up about. Have you seen what's going on in Zimabwe for instance?

Zimbabwe, sorry.

Wasn't Kate MIddleton's mother in trouble for saying 'pardon' to the Queen?

I think I read that in my MIL's Daily Mail I seemed to be equivalent to weeing on her in the social gaffe scale.

Fair enough to call me a snob, I've been called worse , but it's not really about that. \I don't really see why it's necessary to use French adapted words when we have perfectly good English words for these things. I also think DS stands a better chance at getting on in life if he can speak gramatically correctly.

Correct the grammar. Leave the vocab.

I hate ta, specially when other people refuse to give my toddler something "until she says it". Erm, actually she never will!
Also shudder at lounge, toilet, serviette, portion and prolly more.

But I'm a single parent so can inflict my poor baby with whatever I choose most of the time. Could you explain to your Dh that it may be your failing and a stupid hang-up but ask him to indulge you on this?

Hmm let me see

Bog, settee, nosh and eh?

Sandy I have seen what's going on in Zimbabwe and having lived out there for two years, and having a sister and many friends who are still there I am taking great interest

We went through a bottom/bum debate. I gave up correcting DS1, when his response was "but the teachers say bum!"

I think you are being a snob over these words, but agree re the poor use of English gernerally. My DH insists on saying "off of" e.g. if you keep hitiing your brother with that toy I'll take it off of you" drives me mad, so if there is a cure, I'd love to hear it.

"Toliet is annoying me at the moment actually , but that's becasue DS pronouces it "toilit" which sounds soooo Essex, so I'm a snob too.

well then you'll have a good idea of what's actually important in life!

YABU

Presumably his grammar hasn't undergone a massive change since you married him?

Get a grip because if you carry on, your children will take the mickey out of you in later life.