AIBU: to want my ds to use certain words and criticise DH for using others?

[Spidermummy]

I know that I am going to come under fire for this, but here goes...
I was brought up not to use certain words, such as toilet, couch, dinner, pardon etc and personally use loo, sofa, supper and sorry, instead. Have been trying to encourage my DS (3yo) to do the same, but he hears the former words at nursery, knows they annoy me and therefore uses them on purpose. This I can handle, just keep repeating the words I think he should be using and refuse to answer unless he does. The problem is that DH uses mostly the former as well, so DS is getting confused. I have tried correcting DH, which doesn't go down very well strangely enough, he thinks I'm being a snob basically. I try to be sensitive about it, but feel very strongly about this and refuse to compromise. My DH also uses English very badly in sentences, eg.'I was sat down' which is one of my pet hates. We were both brought up the same and it is pure laziness that he speaks this way, but it is of course going to cause more and more problems with DC's. Am I being unreasonable to keep correcting the both of them, or should I leave it alone?

and I make ds say 'what ?' despite everyone thinking it's wrong because 'pardon' isn't right to me

You married someone who uses a different vocabulary and is lazy on grammar, and he hasn't changed, so you can't expect your DC to speak differently.You will have to relax on the issue because your DC will bait you on the subject if he knows it is important to you! Language changes over time, it doesn't remain static. Your DC will find that 'toilet' or 'loo'is used at school, he will get teased with the word 'lavatory' which is rather dated now.

That's why I asked if U is allowed MM.

This is classic British snobbery at it's best. God forbid we use a foreign language because the way of the empire is always the correct way.

Lav sounds like something Bet Lynch would say.

oh my grandma said plarstic ! but that's the way she was brought up

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That's why I asked if settee is allowed MM.

This is classic British snobbery at it's best. God forbid we use a foreign language because the way of the empire is always the correct way.

Lav sounds like something Bet Lynch would say.

Never heard anything so ridiculous in my life. Your husband is a grown man, your not his mother. These words are commonly used everywhere and so you are only making trouble for your child by denying their use. Its not naughty to say them, you should concentrate more on the things that really matter in life!

You sound verrrrrry uptight. If I were your DH I'd probably use the offending words deliberately to wind you up, as it's such a trivial thing to get upset about.

'Toilet' and 'pardon' will be the least of your worries when your DS is at Secondary school and comes home speaking in psuedo patois.

it's odd that you are being labeled as snobby because in ireland your preferred words are used much more by the lower class while the ones you hate are more common in the upper/middle class.

OOH, I liked that quiz MMJ.

Loo and supper are actually both derived from the French, and sofa comes from Arabic.

You're going to have to try a little harder if you want to use "perfectly good English words".

Do you really think it's acceptable to ignore your DS when he addresses you???

God, my DH says settee and I HATE it. Go round saying 'sofa' under my breath to the kids when he does.

YANBU in your head but prob best to keep these things to ourselves these days

Didn't the lavatory go out in 1920? I think it's a horrid word. For some reason it makes me think of old ladies who smell of wee.

Spidermummy, are you also known as Spidermama? As in the Xmas thread about your child being poisoned by a candy cane?

Kate Middleton's mum said "Pleased to meet you" to the Queen, when apparently you're supposed to say "How do you do?" as it's a given that you are pleased to have the honour of meeting the Queen. So I have vowed in the (likely ) event that I do meet the Queen that I will smile sweetly and say "Pleased to meet you."

DaDaDa {grin] - The pseudo patois ! it makes me laugh -how does that happen,that teenagers develop that way of speaking ? God help ds if he does

FreddyTed: It's acceptable to ignore the kids when they are saying 'T.V on please PLEASE', isn't it?!! So polite, it cracks me up.

Looking at mildmanneredjanitor's list, do people still use 'looking glass' instead of 'mirror'??

I think only in Jilly Cooper

Nope, Spidermama isn't me. And I never use the word lavatory, not sure where that was picked up from. It's loo, sofa, sitting room, lunch and supper, sorry, what did you say? etc.
I don't criticise my DH in front of DS, just correct DS when DH is in the room, so he probably feels like I am criticising him.