Dh has walked off and left me alone at 1am in the street. 2 miles from home

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Just that really. We were out with friends, going back to theirs. Dh refused to back to theirs but I don't know why. The others left in a cab. I couldn't leave dh alone in the pub. I I said I'm going home. He said OK. Followed me out in a fit and angry, cos he felt obliged to follow me. He's walked home. I'm 2 miles away from homre and sitting in the cold shivering
He messaged me to ask if I got an uber home. I said no, he said good we've spent £x on uber tonight.

He's walked home and I'm sitting on the kerb, 2 miles away in the dark, cold.

Did you get home Ok?

I don’t subscribe to this at all I have no fear of men. But but if I did really it’s no safer sitting on the kerb than walking is it?

I'm glad you're home but completely baffled as to why you didn't just get a taxi or an Uber home or to your friends immediately that he walked off. Sitting in the cold to teach him some kind of lesson is nothing more than childish dramatics.

What a bizarre thread !!!

Glad you are home safe.
P.S. It's kerb or curb . Sorry but it was driving me irrationally angry . Sleep well.

Wait what? Why didn’t you get a taxi?

Oh hun I understand this so much. I would have done exactly this with my ex, because I felt so unprotected by him. It awakens your inner little girl, doesn’t it, and you just want him to show up for you.
be your own strong protector. Never again put yourself in a vulnerable position so he’ll protect you or take care of you, because he won’t.
this is a small sign of a big problem. There’s something you’re not feeling secure about in your relationship, and this is just a symptom of it.
I’m so sorry. I know how much that hurts and how a person can just get stuck.

please take good care of yourself FIRST, moving forward.
the more you take care of yourself, the more you show that neglected inner part of you that you are worth it, that you are worthy of your own love and care. And the more you heal, the less you’ll be able to tolerate his bullshit.

NO MAN - in fact no person at all- is worth putting yourself in danger for.
hope you are ok.
fuck that cad.

Thank goodness you're OK!

It is a full moon tho-which might explain things!

OP if you were too stubborn to move I'm not sure what you expected DH to do-drag you home kicking and screaming?

The op is not a child, this is twisted

I think this is a prime example of 'play stupid games, win stupid prizes' or as the kids now say 'fuck around and find out'.

Bet this isn't the first time you've sent him away, told him 'don't bother' etc and then expected him to fuss around you trying to make you happy is it!

You could have walked home with him.

You could have gone with your friends, at the time or got an Uber or taxi there later.

You could have got an Uber or Taxi or walked home earlier...

Instead you chose to sit on the pavement in the cold and dark, waiting to see if he'd come back looking for you.

So yeah im not surprised he thought 'fuck this shit' and went to bed!

This is absolutely fuckin unhinged, by the way. A fully crackpot diatribe from one pavement lounger to another. If you’re already in therapy its not working and if you’re not you should be.

" Inner little girl?". Bleugh.

I don't even know where to start with this claptrap.

You are being absolutely ridiculous. Instead of walking 2 miles home you’ve sat on a kerb for an hour and now you are going to sleep on the kerb. You can’t be that concerned for your safety.

You are both drunk. Completely irresponsible with a child that relies on you. I hope you got home safely. Dh should never have left you op. Was the babysitter leaving? And he had to get back for your son?

What’s more shocking to me than throwing a tantrum and sitting on the ground all night is that people like this have children!!!

because someone walking at pace and with purpose is so much more of a target than .someone sitting on a kerb, presumably pissed.

Yeah, no, this just means you need therapy for daddy issues

She'd called his bluff and lost.

She chose to put herself in danger, she could have walked behind him if he wanted to walk home alone. She told him to go, he went! Seems that he can't do right for doing wrong!

He left her in a huff to punish her for wanting to do something he didn't want to do.

He knows it's not safe. He doesn't care.

So now you know he doesn't give a shit about you. Think of this revelation as a gift, not a disappointment. Clarity is always preferable to confusion.

However, you now need to go somewhere to warm up and sleep.

Call an Uber and go home or go to your friends' house.

But do not try sleeping outside in the cold.

Lying on the pavement for an hour rather than just get a taxi home?
What happens in the morning? a big fight over 'you left me alone in the dark' this is madness.

think I would have just booked a hotel and turned off my phone 😬