Dh has walked off and left me alone at 1am in the street. 2 miles from home

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Just that really. We were out with friends, going back to theirs. Dh refused to back to theirs but I don't know why. The others left in a cab. I couldn't leave dh alone in the pub. I I said I'm going home. He said OK. Followed me out in a fit and angry, cos he felt obliged to follow me. He's walked home. I'm 2 miles away from homre and sitting in the cold shivering
He messaged me to ask if I got an uber home. I said no, he said good we've spent £x on uber tonight.

He's walked home and I'm sitting on the kerb, 2 miles away in the dark, cold.

To be fair, it is a lot safer with her husband than walking on her own. Walking on her own at 1am on a Friday night for 2 miles isn’t the safest thing to do

How is this danger lessened by sitting still on a kerb?

We were supposed to get in a cab to friends house. He refused but don't know why. Friends left
He told me to go with them
But I wasn't going to leave him alone in pub at 11.45pm. Friends left. I then said I was going home. He got the arse and felt like he HAD to follow me
I said don't bother if you feel like that
I've Been sitting on the cold kurb for an hour
He has walked home and messaged to day he's home if I need him. (He's drunk and can't drive to get me )

Sorry, posted at the same time you explained

Yeah you’ve said all of this already? Are you going to turn in for the night on the kerb then? Is there a patch of grass to lay your head?

I'm now sleeping the night on the kurb
He can see my location my clearly doesn't care

Enjoy your night just sitting there for… what? To make him feel bad? He doesn’t care.

Sweet dreams 😴

Sounds like you're both a bit worse for wear, just get yourself home as safely as possible. Reflect on it all tomorrow and find out what was going on in his head then. Call a taxi/uber and just get yourself to bed.

@loropianalover 😂

So he came out to walk home with you but you sat down on the kerb so he left?

Stop being so bloody silly and go home. Call a cab or walk.

OP, don't use up your battery on Mumsnet. Use your phone to book an Uber a.s.a.p.

He has left me in the dark and alone

I appreciate you are upset, a man shouldn’t leave their loved one along outside at this time of night. But get yourself home in a taxi, and have it out with him tomorrow if you want.

What point are you trying to make now?

I've Been sitting on the cold kurb for an hour
Why? Are you incapable of getting yourself home?

are you drunk?

You should have a flashlight button on your phone xx

OP, hes a dick but youre being dramatic. Go get an uber somewhere - if not home, to a friends house.

So you couldn't leave him alone in the pub - but then you did cos he had to follow you out. Go home or to your friends.

load of complete lies this thread, enjoy your night on the kerb.

This is all kinds of messed up.

You should have gone to your friends. You say you didn't want to leave him alone in the pub but you then wanted to go home and he wanted to stay in the pub, which would have been leaving you alone.

It is not normal behavior to sleep on the street in winter because your husband had a strop.

Sounds like he was a bit unreasonable and there is doubtless a massive backstory but your current behavior makes no sense. Take responsibility for your own safety and well being. Do not sleep on the kerb to score some kind of weird points off him ffs.

Do you often say things like 'Don't bother' to get a rise? If you do, I think he's probably just thought 'Fuck it, all right then, I've had enough.'

I mean, he was really unkind to do this but if he was a bit drunk then it might have had the effect of silencing his conscience.

Just get yourself safe now and try to talk next time, rather than saying something that could blow out of proportion and end up hurting you.

This is how drunk people die of hypothermia OP.
Get up and get an Uber or start walking but stop sitting there .

Like others say, don’t just sit there stewing. Get a cab or Uber and go home. Sort out your argument in the morning. He’s been a dick, but there’s no resolution to be reached whilst you’re just sitting outside alone. It’s silly and it’s cold (well, it is where I am) tonight.