Dh has walked off and left me alone at 1am in the street. 2 miles from home

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Just that really. We were out with friends, going back to theirs. Dh refused to back to theirs but I don't know why. The others left in a cab. I couldn't leave dh alone in the pub. I I said I'm going home. He said OK. Followed me out in a fit and angry, cos he felt obliged to follow me. He's walked home. I'm 2 miles away from homre and sitting in the cold shivering
He messaged me to ask if I got an uber home. I said no, he said good we've spent £x on uber tonight.

He's walked home and I'm sitting on the kerb, 2 miles away in the dark, cold.

Are you still on the Kerb?

What a drama llama?
Hopefully you're sober this morning OP and can see what an idiot you were.

Her self-esteem is

What a load of drama about much of nothing. Wasting lots of time moaning and posting on MN instead of doing something positive. Didn't give reason why she couldn't call a taxi, call a friend for help or start walking. In the time she martyred herself she could have got home and been in bed by 2am instead of 3am.

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes I'm afraid OP. You acted this way because you wanted him to react a certain way and he didn't partake.

The way your DH acted wasn't great op and I know you did get home but by saying you are sleeping on the kerb for the night seems ridiculous. At that point you were in charge of YOUR actions and it seems like you were actually looking for the worst case outcome so you could then blame your husband.

Because he is well aware that you are an adult woman and perfectly capable of taking care of yourself.

Tbf your DH does sound like a bit of a dick; at the same time the only person you are punishing here is yourself. Go home and then deal with your arse of a DH in the morning.

You sound about 14

She'd look like a right idiot if she's still sat on the kerb saying to passers by "but he left me sat on the kerg and walked home"! So hopefully you've got off the fucking kerb and walked home yourself. Get some bloody therapy for your fucking stupidity.

What’s with some posters trying to psycho-analyse. The pair of them were clearly pissed. Walk around any town on a Friday night and guarantee you’ll see an equivalent scene to this sorry drama.

They’re not usually 51 mind.

No, I’m not excusing her behaviour. She needs therapy either way, she has attachment issues and I’ve already said she shouldn’t even be in a relationship if this is what she thinks is acceptable and they probably shouldn’t be together at all , but we don’t know why she does it.If she’s always done this sort of thing then he would have surely known before they got married, and if it’s a more recent thing, then why? Why did she not want to leave him alone in a pub? Was she frightened he’d cheat? She’s 51, the chances are they’ve been married years and things have gone on that none of us know about so I don’t think it’s fair just to pile on OP.

How do you what attachment issues vs side effects of a bottle of wine look like for a random on the internet you’ve never met?

What the hell did you drink to behave like this, at 51?

Wait, OP is 51??

Well, that manages to put a new spin on the traditiinal ‘Don’t mind me, I’ll sit in the dark’, and ‘cutting off your nose to spite your face’.

She's 51??!!

Drink would have played its part yes, but the whole repeated, ‘he doesn’t care about me’ 10000 x and the way the whole thing played out definitely says insecurity and attachment issues to me. I’ve never said her behavior is right. I’ve said I can see why it might have happened.

You'd be a great marriage guidance counsellor.

Why didn’t you just walk behind him….. not with him if he wanted to be on his own but abit behind so if you got into trouble he would be able to help you…..

Glad you got home safely OP.
It’s upsetting your partner behaved like that but you must look after yourself however upset you are with him.

I think you both need a hard long look at yourselves and your relationship when you're both sober.

Unless it wasn't safe at home for anyone on this thread, we'd all have got a taxi or legged it home, to limit the amount of time we were vulnerable.

sounds like you got in a strop as he wouldn't come with you to friends and then you were seeking attention from him. You both seem to be having in a very juvenile manner.

We won't know if there is a backstory or not, unless op comes back to elaborate. Unless he has a history of flirting or being unfaithful there's no reason why he couldn't have stayed in the pub if he wanted to. It's still controlling of her to expect him to follow when he doesn't want to? If she had been more reasonable and said please can you escort me home as I feel uncomfortable he might have done so but it's like she clicked her fingers verbally, unless he is a simp no one would put up with that shit.

"Attachment issues" "inner little girl", etc?!

No, drunk middle aged woman who should know better deciding to behave like an attention seeking teenager.

I have a friend like this, and I have to say that after 30 years of supporting her, I'm losing sympathy.
She always somehow manages to be the victim, it's always "Poor me, he doesn't care about me." She's always in floods of tears and saying "I was crying, and he didn't care!". Yes, that's because you're always bloody crying! This is with many different men, by the way. None of her relationships have lasted.
Sorry if I sound callous, but I've started to see it as very manipulative and perhaps abusive behaviour on her part. Yes, she is insecure, and she does have attachment issues, but she makes everyone else's life hell because of it.