Dh has walked off and left me alone at 1am in the street. 2 miles from home

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Just that really. We were out with friends, going back to theirs. Dh refused to back to theirs but I don't know why. The others left in a cab. I couldn't leave dh alone in the pub. I I said I'm going home. He said OK. Followed me out in a fit and angry, cos he felt obliged to follow me. He's walked home. I'm 2 miles away from homre and sitting in the cold shivering
He messaged me to ask if I got an uber home. I said no, he said good we've spent £x on uber tonight.

He's walked home and I'm sitting on the kerb, 2 miles away in the dark, cold.

I'm pleased you realised that sleeping on the kerb was not the most sensible option.
I think some posters have been quite mean. We all have had silly drunken spats that seem much more serious in the moment than they do in the cold light of day.
Your dh shouldn't have left you alone but you should have found a way to get yourself home quickly and safely without all the kerb dramatics. Hopefully you've learnt your lesson.

Well nobody comes out of this well do they?

DH walks off in a huff and is 'happy' that OP hasn't ordered a cab as they've paid out enough for them for one night. Then leaves her to it.

OP sits on the kerb instead of turning tail, walking back into the pub and asking them if they could either help her order a cab or at least keep an eye on her whilst she waits for a cab as she's alone and been let down for getting home. Most bar staff will happily help or have cab numbers on the bar. She'd have been able to wave at him as she passed him on the way home. Instead she sits on the kerb as she doesn't want to walk home as it's cold and dark - obviously the kerb is thermal warmed, protected by a bubble so no-one can harm her and lit up like a sunny day! As for not walking home in case she's attacked - no, it's obviously much better to make herself a nice, literally sitting, target. Just to prove DH is an arsehole and to make him feel bad (he won't, not if he's an arsehole). Still had to get home somehow as he couldn't/wouldn't collect her.

And her friends are happy to 'wonder what is up with DH' when she texts them the tale rather than saying ' stay where you are, a cab will be there asap' and ordering one from their end. If they knew she didn't have enough cash, a small whip round would have covered a 2 mile journey.

So OP, you've got a DH and a friends problem here. Both sets of people were happy for you sit on a kerb at 2am. In future, make sure you are safe before continuing the drama. Having an 'I'll teach them and will make them feel bad' attitude only ever hurts one person - you.

She’s still controlling and I don’t think her behaviour is at all acceptable, let me make that clear. All I’m saying is, I can see how it might have happened and none of us know why OP ended up like this. They’re likely to have been together/married for years if she’s 51, and she’s still behaving like this so likely something is wrong in their relationship. That was my point. It’s usually not the case that one person in a long term relationship has issues and the other doesn’t, as the one without issues leaves as soon as they realise that the other is toxic. I doubt that he is innocent either.

Am I ok to laugh now? 😆

People do occasionally become overwrought when drunk.

My advice...take yourselves out for brunch and write the ending of the evening off as a mad lot.

You seem to be very dependant how he reacted to you putting yourself into a poorly advised situation. Why would he come back for you, when you make all these decisions?
What you really need to do, is to look at both why you acted this way, and why he acted the way he did. You may well find there are much deeper problems with both of you in this relationship.
I'd also wonder whyyour "friends" left you to it. Perhaps they can see problems with how you acted, and how he acted, but know that there is no point in trying anymore.

Me too and I also appreciated the correct spelling of the edge of the pavement, not curb, not kurb but kerb. Keep your enthusiasm in check!

No, I totally agree with you! She needs therapy.

Blimey, what a drama...

Then leaves her to it.

Which is what she told him to do, had he imposed himself onto her for the walk home she would have still been moaning that he was disrespecting her wishes!

I expect he knows you to be a drama queen and couldn't be bothered with it.

He wanted you to have a good night, suggested you go off with your friends, but you chose not to.

He offered to walk you home, but you threw it back in his face because you felt he was offering out of duty? (we'll probably yes, but that was kind of him. He offered to go something he didn't want to do, simply fit your benefit).

What did you do or offer to do to support your DH tonight?

You decided to just sit on a kerb on the cold at night and told Mumsnet you were going to sleep the night there (which I doubt you were going to do, and have in fact not done, but you wanted to create some drama).

I hope you got home ok and have slept alright and are not too hungover this morning. But your DH seems to have done nothing wrong and I seem pretty high maintenance

You both need to grow up, get a grip and stop drinking if it makes you act like idiots. You shouldn't have sat on the kerb in the cold for so long and he shouldn't have left his wife. Think you should both look at your decision making and your relationship today.

I've nearly forgotten how to spell kerb by the end of this

😅

The moral of the story is… you both need to ‘kerb’ your drinking and your arguments

Just to add, if you have an iPhone and say ‘lumos’ to it, it lights up, like Magic.

Are you 12 or a grown woman?

Take some responsibility for yourself.

Quite.

This sounds like you are both throwing tantrums op.

Just get a taxi and go home .

More fool you for sitting on a kerb for an hour. Very silly behaviour.

You sound very dramatic.

Anyway it's your own fault you ended up sitting on the curb for an hour or whatever it was anyway.

Why can't you leave a grown adult in the pub at 23:45.

He told you to go with the friends.

You didn't do either, then expect him to hang about for your drama.

Should have got a taxi instead of attention seeking in the cold and dark

What an utterly embarrassing thread. Everyone involved in this situation needs to knock the booze on the head if it causes them to behave like this

So this was all some dirt of weird test for him?! He didn't want to go to your friends, he choose to, and wanted to, be left alone in the pub. You insisted you were staying with him even though you wanted to go to your friends..... Then walked out saying you were walking home?! He followed you but is annoyed with you and doesn't want to talk to you, rightly or wrongly who knows, so why didn't you just let him walk but you walk in the same direction to? Then ye are out of each others space but he s in close proximity if you were to encounter any weirdos. Sitting on the side of the road as a test for him to see if he comes back isnonsense

Juvenile drunken buffoon 😂😂😂😂

Why are were sitting in the cold. Why not just go home. Its freezing

No decent person, man or woman, would leave anyone, man or woman,alone and drunk at 1 in the morning. No matter how annoying they were being, you pour them into taxi and get them home.

I'm glad you got home safely in the end, OP. He shouldn't have left you alone. Please, please consider getting some therapy to understand why you are prepared to harm yourself in order to make your point. You deserve to treat yourself with kindness, and to be treated with love and kindness. No man is worth endangering yourself for, especially one who hasn't got your back. Take care of yourself 💐