Dh has walked off and left me alone at 1am in the street. 2 miles from home

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Just that really. We were out with friends, going back to theirs. Dh refused to back to theirs but I don't know why. The others left in a cab. I couldn't leave dh alone in the pub. I I said I'm going home. He said OK. Followed me out in a fit and angry, cos he felt obliged to follow me. He's walked home. I'm 2 miles away from homre and sitting in the cold shivering
He messaged me to ask if I got an uber home. I said no, he said good we've spent £x on uber tonight.

He's walked home and I'm sitting on the kerb, 2 miles away in the dark, cold.

What a drama queen. You're going to feel like a right prat when you sober up.

What have I just read?

Way too much drama from you both.

What a messed up view.
He would be enabling her shitty behavior.

Absolutely bat shit

You probably feel a bit mortified this morning but maybe this will make you realise you need to grow up. We all learn tough lessons in life, this is one of yours.

When OP reads what she's posted , she'll want to change her username

Unnecessary drama and sounds a bit attention seeking tbh. How old are you both that he couldn't be left alone in the pub and you wanted to sit on a kerb freezing on mumsnet rather than getting an uber? Look after yourself in future rather than getting involved in childish games that could have had serious consequences.

This doesn’t make any sense. You say ‘I wasn’t going to leave him alone in pub’ but then say once your friends left you said you were going home and for him not to bother following you out, so you were going to leave him alone at the pub and walk home alone anyway. If you didn’t want to walk home alone why did you tell him not to bother com8mg with you as you left? More holes in your story than in a colander and sounds like you were spoiling for a fight!

Congratulations, OP, you really showed him!

He’ll think twice about walking away when you tell him to walk away in future, now that he’s experienced the terrible consequences of sleeping in a warm bed while you sulk on cold concrete and rant drunkenly on Mumsnet.

I’m sure the friends will be gutted that you didn’t come back to theirs, and instead decided to message them with your manufactured drama to interrupt their night.

The embarrassment when you wake up is going to be hard going; have a bacon butty first, and some orange juice.

Absolutely crazy behaviour.

I didn’t say he should enable her behaviour at all. I said he probably isn’t helping her to feel secure and that’s brought on the shitty behaviour. Completely different to enabling it. It is possible to make people feel cared for without enabling them so they don’t feel the need to be manipulative in this way. My point was even though she acted like a dick and her behaviour is her responsibility to get help with, it’s unlikely that he is an innocent party and I don’t think it’s fair to make that assumption that it’s all her.

Thanks for the back story. personally I found the OP rather all over the shop. I think she isn't thinking straight at all.

Ah but look at all the drama and blame fodder the OP will have banked to guilt him with! 'REMEMBER WHEN YOU ABANDONED ME IN THE DAAAARK!!! I HAD TO SLEEP OUTSIDE ON THE GROUND'

Agree. What clapp. No wonder men don't have respect for women sometimes.

Instead of feeding dolly mixtures to your inner little girl, OP. Find your inner GI Jane and channel women that have gone into war zones.

What a silly comment! Because predatory men! Yes there are men that do this. There are also women that do this. FYI her sitting there on her own shivering is more dangerous than her walking home on the off chance a predatory man is lurking about. Jesus

Yeah, cos apparently if you sit still on the kerb alone predatory men can't see you.

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It is possible to make people feel cared for without enabling them so they don’t feel the need to be manipulative in this way.
Completely disagree and think this is still highly manipulative and controlling. That's still a 'its your fault she needs to act like this'
Would you say the same to a woman in a physically abusive relationship? 'Oh its possible for you to make him happy so he doesn't feel the need to batter you!'.

That's the one. Done it loads of times. Works like a dream.

Now that did make me laugh!! 😆

I agree, she was at higher risk of hypothermia in that situation than from anything else. This was the kind of behaviour I saw from people in their late teens let out for the first time, not actual adults with children.

Maybe he'd had enough of your game playing.
You should have just walked with him or got a taxi.

You just scream drama when drunk. Mental that women nowadays have the mindset of entitlement. No he shouldn't of left you technically he has a duty of care as your husband/partner. But considering your old enough to drink put your big girl pants on walk home safely then discuss in the morning how it's inappropriate for a women to be left alone whilst drunk 2 miles from home in the middle of the night. If you was hoping he'd feel any shred of remorse and come flying to you on his noblesteed as a white Knight more fool u. Should of got an uber 🙄

This whole thing seems very inner child with daddy issues. She is expecting unconditional love which explains why she is acting like a child....'you don't care about me and you left me in the dark blah blah blah'
OP I recommend some therapy. You can't expect your life partner/husband whatever to parent you.