Dh has walked off and left me alone at 1am in the street. 2 miles from home

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Just that really. We were out with friends, going back to theirs. Dh refused to back to theirs but I don't know why. The others left in a cab. I couldn't leave dh alone in the pub. I I said I'm going home. He said OK. Followed me out in a fit and angry, cos he felt obliged to follow me. He's walked home. I'm 2 miles away from homre and sitting in the cold shivering
He messaged me to ask if I got an uber home. I said no, he said good we've spent £x on uber tonight.

He's walked home and I'm sitting on the kerb, 2 miles away in the dark, cold.

Agreed.

I think she was too drunk to be rational.

This is such a silly situation.

It's ok he didn't want to go to friends. You could still have.

It's okay he wanted to stay longer, you could have stayed or gone to friends or got a taxi home.

All the posts saying the same thing about being cold, sleeping on the kerb, etc are immature. You could have walked home behind him if you didn't want to walk together. You'd not have been alone.

i did the maths too but it does take me (an average height woman) 40 minutes. Probably would take longer if I was drunk to be fair.

You're 51 😂😂😂😂😂

What a thread.

I don’t think you have to be rational to be emotionally manipulative. She wanted him to behave a certain way and tried to teach him a bizarre lesson. Maybe if she was sober she would have gone about it differently.

😂😂😂

Fuck me. More issues than Vogue.

Yes, the OP is being childish, but I’d hazard a guess that her DH has a habit of being quite selfish and acting as if she doesn’t matter. This comes across to me as some kind of test of how much he cares for her. She wanted him to stay and sort their differences and make sure she got home safe. Yes, it’s toxic and completely the wrong course of action, but it’s OP’s way of saying ‘show me I matter’. If her DH was a decent man, this sort of behaviour would be far less likely to happen.

So long story short, you’re both pissed and making childish decisions. You’re as bad as each other. You sound like teenagers not adults with a child.

She told him to leave. Its not her husbands fault she cant communicate like an adult.

Or maybe the OP often behaves this way and he’s finally had enough.

This.

Also why have you got a tracker on your phone? Have you got his password too? Another sign of an unhealthy relationship.

@Teanbiscuits33 Alternatively, the OP could have been this pissed up and ridiculous all night and the DH on his last nerve. Or he could also have been pissed up and ridiculous. We'll never know his side of the story, it's pointless making assumptions / wild guesses.

She told him to leave to see if he actually would, then she would have the proof that he didn’t care. I know it doesn’t make sense rationally but people who feel insecure don’t always say what they mean.

In her mind, he should have cared about her safety over taking her at her word. I’m not saying she isn’t in the wrong, she definitely is, but things are sometimes more complicated than just simple communication. If more people could just communicate clearly, life would be far easier than it is.

It’s exactly the same reason why people push people they love away, it’s like proving to themselves they were right and they weren’t ’good enough’ for the person to stay.

Why did you not get an Uber or Taxi?

There are homeless people who risk their lives every night by sleeping on the streets . Many don’t have a choice so glad you saw sense & went home ( although getting a taxi would have been more sensible)
Maybe think about cutting down on the drink if it’s causing you to behave irrationally . What would you say to your DC if they were behaving like this ?

You’re correct she could have been, but this is classic insecure behaviour.

If it takes you an hour to walk two miles you need to work on your fitness

Then she needs to speak to a therapist, not lie on the pavement and start mumsnet threads

Crazy that as a grown adult anyone would just sit on the curb rather than ring a taxi or order an Uber, madness

I know she does. I didn’t say she didn’t, but the constant ‘he doesn’t care about me’ is a bit of a give away here as well.

So you're alone outside and instead of going home you post on mumsnet?

I love the phrase “play stupid games, win stupid prizes”.

The pair of you sound a. Drunk b. Like teenagers.

glad you’re home. Hope you both sleep it off and apologise to each other tomorrow. Pair of idiots.

Two pissed people walk into a bar. One says to other…

Wait that’s not right.

Two pissed people walk OUT of a bar. One says to the other “you’re a big fat meany for leaving me alone despite me telling you to. I was freezing outside whilst I updated MN for an hour on the cold curb. Did I mention it was cold”.

Yawn.