Honest opinions ... is a UK 14/16 seen as unattractive for dating as a 50 year old?

[lemonepisode1]

I'm online dating for a while. My face is decent and I'd consider myself relatively attractive in the looks stakes but it is my body that men seem to dislike.
As above , I'm that size, 5'7', proportioned except for a wide , flabby meno belly.Im 2.5stone overweight on the scales.
I weight train and walk and run over the week.. so I exercise every day. Look after my appearance/ clothes/ grooming etc but I really believe it's my body that turns them off .
Honestly, especially to men on here, is that size and body type unattractive to you on a woman who is 50?
What are your experiences and more so, what do you find attractive out of interest ?
Thanks.
Lemon

I don't think your spa is representative, given that the average size in the UK is 14.

And I've been selling on eBay for decades and literally can't give away clothing that's smaller than a 12.

Once in a blue moon, I sell a 10. And I'd say from the usernames that they're mostly quite young.

I’m assuming you’re a bloke.

They look like size 6’s to me

I find people tend to be bigger sizes than you'd think from looking at them too.

I lost 10kgs before I signed up to OD. I wanted to feel good about myself, and honestly, I wouldn't have fancied a man who was 10kgs overweight either.
I've been with someone for a few months now, we exercise together and it's really a great incentive to stay fit.
So I guess if you're not having any luck and you want to slim down anyway, you've nothing to lose.

I rarely see size 6 on the rails in shops anymore.

Size 8s and to a lesser extent 10s seem to be the ones left unbought too.

By all means focus on your physical health and making the best of what you have, but do it for yourself if it will make you happy, not to make you more ‘worthy’ of a stranger’s approval. I think dating websites encourage us all to be superficial and critical and treat people in quite a disposable way. I think a better way of meeting the right person is by pursuing your interests, joining groups that reflect who you are. Then you are more likely to meet someone more naturally in a less pressured and judgemental scenario than a blind date. There’s no winning age or body type, it’s all about chemistry between two people and it can happen when you least expect it.

I'm a size 6 waist. It's 24/25" and that's the size I am and buy in clothes fitting at the waist (my hips are bigger) I'm white, I'm average height, my BMI is 21 and as far as I'm aware I've got all my organs inside my body where they should be. I think size 14/16 women are attractive to men and are more representative of the population than size 6. But size 6 women are not unicorns or freaks. Just saying.

He isn’t. UK size 6.

You assume wrong.
I am very much a woman. A size 6 Caucasian one in my 50s
So, according to the last few posters, I don't exist. 🤷‍♀️

I'm 5'6" and a size 6-8 depending on brand. I don't know why that poster is going so hard on her point. I find clothes to fit me in lots of different places, men never comment on my 'skinniness', my bmi is in the healthy category, I run and do yoga so am fit and toned not some starved waif. I don't feel like my size is particularly unusual or that I stand out amongst other women as some kind of freak. I don't think there is a need to make other people feel bad about their bodies to make a point.

Divorced.

I wasn’t looking for anybody. She made the first move.

Parents, hers and mine, not bothered at all. Similar age gaps are common in both our families and friendship groups.

Indian. Indian women like Asian women can look fairly healthy at size 6, to the point where a UK size 6 is a medium in Indian stores.

I always love the MN hyperbole and extremity and misrepresentation rolled into one.

No-one said they don't exist.

I said they not representative!

The average size in the UK is a 14.

Since an amazing number of size 6 posters have turned up on this thread (well 2 so far, 3 including that bloke's wife) - if you fancy buying a Sisley plum coloured puffer coat on eBay for charity ..... Please do so, I think you're my only chance of selling it.

The women nearly 20 years older too?

Thought not.

Dysfunction leads to dysfunction, I suppose.

Do you understand averages?
Or humour?
I wasn't being entirely serious, as I clearly do exist.
🙄

Nearly 20 years older?

Yes, I got that dear.

You said she was in her 20s and you were in your 40s (if early 40s).

Do you understand averages?

I understood trying to sell clothes (for decades) ..... And I don't sell any size 6s or 8s. I sell lots and lots and lots of 12-14 plus clothing.
That is because most women in the UK are a 12 or above.

Being a size 6 as an adult female is, again, not representative.

I did, and you have made the assumption, incorrectly, that our age gap must be the maximum possible within that range.

It all adds to the drama I suppose.

No, I said "nearly" so I didn't assume your age gap was the maximum.

What drama?

You came on here and told a size 14 woman that you might be attracted to her, but not enough to date her.

That your wife is a size 6 and you've always preferred "slimmer" women.

But your wife's size is not remotely representative of the UK (or any developed country outside the Far East).and size 6 is not "slimmer".

Pointing that out is "drama" apparently.

You've also specified that you have a big age gap with your wife - whom you met when she was in her 20s and you were in your 40s ..... And that that is common in both your families... Referring to that is also "drama" apparently.

You came on here and told a size 14 woman that you might be attracted to her, but not enough to date her

I did. In response to this question from that same woman.

Honestly, especially to men on here, is that size and body type unattractive to you on a woman who is 50?

You could say the same for women too. I was single (and still am) in my early 40s.

There's nothing worrying about it. I split with my exh at 40. My brother got married at 49, he was happy living the bachelor life but then he met the right woman.

Not sure where this idea that people who aren't settled down in their 40s are somehow odd or have some deep seated issues has come from!

You could say the same for women too.

I wouldn't - because women are not men.

Things are still very very different for men and women, as this thread demonstrates.

What was your motivation is coming onto a female dominated forum to tell a 50 yr old, size 14 woman who's struggling with OLD; that you, a not even single man, would probably never date her (even if attracted to her), prefer "slimmer" women, and your (much younger) wife is a size 6??

I'm just wondering what your motivation is.

Can you see why someone might wonder what your motivation is?