Honest opinions ... is a UK 14/16 seen as unattractive for dating as a 50 year old?

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I'm online dating for a while. My face is decent and I'd consider myself relatively attractive in the looks stakes but it is my body that men seem to dislike.
As above , I'm that size, 5'7', proportioned except for a wide , flabby meno belly.Im 2.5stone overweight on the scales.
I weight train and walk and run over the week.. so I exercise every day. Look after my appearance/ clothes/ grooming etc but I really believe it's my body that turns them off .
Honestly, especially to men on here, is that size and body type unattractive to you on a woman who is 50?
What are your experiences and more so, what do you find attractive out of interest ?
Thanks.
Lemon

There is nothing wrong with that gap, it js the same as mine (17 years). It all depends if your purposeful only went for somebody much younger, or you happened to just fit! If my husband was only seeking out because I wasn't even 25 and he was 40 then that would have been a complete turn off tbh. My H says similar to you, he does not mind me ageing, which has been a worry of mine as it is with many women whose husbands are significantly older than them, but he does say he will not be attracted to be if I get fat. Reality is me and your partner will most likely be widowed young and be carers during our golden years. But life is unpredictable and sometimes the risk is worth it.

I am in my early 60s.

Genuinely well over six feet, not overweight, fit, all my own teeth, a full head of hair, and no known health conditions. I’m not into fishing. I do own a bike but have only ridden it twice in the last year.

My H says similar to you, he does not mind me ageing, which has been a worry of mine as it is with many women whose husbands are significantly older than them

I don't get this. You are young enough to be your husband's daughter, but you are the one worrying about ageing?

but he does say he will not be attracted to be if I get fat.

What conditions do you set on his physical attractiveness?

She is slightly above average height and a size 6.

6??

She must be extremely thin and/or tiny.

Also extremely unusual.

I sell on eBay and there's no point in trying to sell anything under a 12.

8 and 10 items lie unsold for months, if not years.

I wouldn't expect to sell a size 6 item to anyone but an older child.

I have always preferred slimmer women

Size 6 is not "slimmer".

I doubt most clothing brands even make size 6 clothes (unless they sell to tweenagers and teenagers like Quiz or somewhere) and that wouldn't be a recent phenomenon.

I don't think a man whose partner is a size 6 and "also preferred slimmer women" (wrongly calling size 6 as slimmer) is really the person to comment on a women's dress size/figure.

You're not representative at all.

I'm a 12 (10 when skinny) and I've lost count of how many men have commented on my thinness "there's not a pick on her", "eat something!" (when I couldn't pull a sailing dinghy up a slope easily). Their wives are size 14/16 or so.

I'd say they're more representative.

@Tulip2478 ... and you think that this is normal in a couple who are meant to love and respect each other???? Let's
Hope you don't get sick and or change physically for any reason eg surgery, disease, disability. You seem to accept this in a man who is meant to love and honour you . Mind blown 🤯

I guess she must have a strong stomach

There are all sorts of reasons people get into relationships with significantly older people. We're not a party to those reasons.

Myself and my dd's Dad would have run you off, with that age gap, at that age. You wouldn't have been dating my DD, not a fucking chance. I wonder about her parents.

Reading all of this has made me love my two cats even more.

So he’s allowed to not be attracted to you if you got fat while you, presumably, will have to pretend to be attracted to him when he’s shitting and pissing himself? I’m not being unkind here but it’s obvious you’re either a troll or extremely naive and he was probably attracted to your vulnerability as much as your looks at 25.

My H says similar to you, he does not mind me ageing, which has been a worry of min

How very lovely of him. Does he also say that he doesn’t mind you breathing?

We got together when she was in her 20s and I was in my 40s (just).

How come you were single in your early 40s? Most people are well settled by that age.
I'd be wondering very deeply why you were weren't, if I had been your partner's parents.

In conjunction with you going for someone so much younger than you, instead of the many women closer to your age.

How rude. A proper non-vanity sized size 6 lady is likely to be a woman of colour. In some races like my DH’s size 6-8 is normal and looks perfectly average

Each to their own but in my 50’s I’m really enjoying my freedom now my DS is an adult and I can’t imagine spending my time caring for a man old enough to be my dad. Or even pottering around garden centres etc while I’m still fit and healthy enough to be enjoying a really active social life.

A proper non-vanity sized size 6 lady is likely to be a woman of colour

You do realise "women of colour" includes women of sub Saharan African origin??

Size 6?

6!!

I found dating to be extremely shallow and most men not looking for any commitment so it's more because of that that you'll get a lot of rejection, don't take it personally. When you find the right man he won't care how old/heavy you are, he will just like you for yourself.

Best bit of advice I was given: hide your profile and only message those you like the sound of. Sifts out the players.

In some races like my DH’s size 6-8 is normal and looks perfectly average

What race is that? Asian?

The op.is presumably Caucasian.

So (Far East) Asian body types are completely irrelevant to this discussion.

The man arguing that size 6 is "slimmer" and referencing his size 6 wife has not specified that she/they are Asian. If would be a huge omission if she is/they are.

I obviously cannot speak for all men but speaking from my personal perspective, the answer is no. I have a bias towards women older than me (I'm nearly 47) but what stimulates attraction in me is complex and cannot be pinned down to specific physical traits. Often it is things like a warm personality, shared values and interests that stimulate attraction, when it comes to physical looks I'm genuinely very open, and if a woman had the personality qualities mentioned above, she would have to be VERY physically ugly to turn me off.

Disclaimer: I have always been hopeless with attracting women and have only managed one short-length relationship so far, so judge for yourself whether what I say has any value.

How rude

It's not remotely rude.

It's a fact that size 6 adult women in the UK (of Caucasian origin) are almost non existent.

It's a fact that it's not representative.

Unless he’s talking about a US size 6? Which would be a UK 10-12

he does not mind me ageing

That's terrible good of him, given he himself is aging. And is already considerably older than you.

It's a fact that size 6 adult women in the UK (of Caucasian origin) are almost non existent.

There are a lot of really really really slim women at the spa I belong too. I spend a lot of time looking at them wondering how all their organs fit inside them. They look like size 6’s to me, they don’t look skinny just incredibly slender.

He's on a British forum.

If he's too obtuse to specify that he is American and referring to American women's clothing sizes on a British forum, I'm not sure why anyone's listening to his input.

12 years later his absolute fuckwittedness still makes me chuckle 🤣 I swear I couid have written a book on OLD creeps