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Sara Sharif case - update - horrifying

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amIloud · 13/11/2024 12:21

This case is just beyond the realms of horrifying,

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cgl461xwg3do

This poor child.

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Allergictoironing · 13/11/2024 14:14

BananaSpanner · 13/11/2024 14:06

Great but a forensic ondontologist uses dental samples to compare against bite marks.

Yep, and they can use the 3d print from the scan in exactly the same way as a copy made from a physical mould. If anything it will be more accurate, as there won't be any "blurring" from movement whether inadvertent or intentional.

CocoDC · 13/11/2024 14:16

Investinmyself · 13/11/2024 14:13

I doubt they will ever disclose why.
History of controlling behaviour towards women. Sara was female.
Belief that physical punishment is acceptable (his letter when he fled uk)
Child from previous relationship scapegoated and not treated as a child of family.
Race element perhaps - she was mixed race.
Seeing her mother’s traits in her and taking it out on child or ‘correction’ so she doesn’t end up like her mother.

She has a full sibling that he also has custody of and who, apparently, all of them treated like gold.

Investinmyself · 13/11/2024 14:21

It’s definitely part of a bigger conversation.
If the family court had concluded she couldn’t live with mum or dad where would she have gone. There’s a massive shortage of foster carers. Move away from institutional care (all the issues of historic abuse) The council locally to me are trying to move to in home care set up so normal 3 bed homes with 2 children and staff and coming up against planning objections (we don’t want a childrens home here)

desidi · 13/11/2024 14:22

I don't think it's racist to acknowledge that there are cultural/religious commonalities in these crimes.

purplepandas · 13/11/2024 14:23

I too am horrified, I don't even have the words.

sre123 · 13/11/2024 14:23

I'm pretending that this is all made up so that I can go on with my day

desidi · 13/11/2024 14:24

I remember police/politicians in the Rotherham case saying they couldn't acknowledge that it was specifically Pakistani men committing these crimes. So the crimes continued..

Plastictrees · 13/11/2024 14:24

This is absolutely horrendous and so tragic. We really need to get better as a society in recognising and preventing child abuse.

user47 · 13/11/2024 14:26

The family courts do this ALL THE TIME

Lisanoonan · 13/11/2024 14:27

Bless you Sara. We are crying for you. I'm sorry this happened :(

Investinmyself · 13/11/2024 14:28

I think it’s reported the older teenage sibling is male.

Lisanoonan · 13/11/2024 14:31

It just awful seeing her little face and thinking of him making her every day a misery.

Ilikeadrink14 · 13/11/2024 14:35

I have just been reading this. It’s unbelievable.
I feel physically sick. R.I.P Sara. You are loved by those who didn’t even know you. We all feel for you.
A blunt carving knife should be used on this apology of a ‘father’. Perhaps then he’d understand what pain is!

CocoDC · 13/11/2024 14:36

desidi · 13/11/2024 14:24

I remember police/politicians in the Rotherham case saying they couldn't acknowledge that it was specifically Pakistani men committing these crimes. So the crimes continued..

They also ignored social services reports of the sexual abuse they committed within their own families.

AnneShirleysNewDress · 13/11/2024 14:36

Sara was completely let down by all the adults in her life. What she endured is horrific to read, God knows what it must have been like to live with. She deserved much, much better.

JudgeJ · 13/11/2024 14:37

Wherearemymarbles · 13/11/2024 12:47

As PP said, he could well be protecting the others.
there is the question of bite marks and ms Batool refused to give permission for a cast.
she could certainly have been fully involved
they should all be done for murder

If she is jointly charged with neglecting this poor child then she should not have the right to refuse, maybe the imbalance of 'rights' needs to be looked at again. All those who lived in that house colluded in the murder of this child, if only by inaction.

SabrinaChic · 13/11/2024 14:39

desidi · 13/11/2024 14:22

I don't think it's racist to acknowledge that there are cultural/religious commonalities in these crimes.

I mean I agree, especially with "honour" killings

Nothatgingerpirate · 13/11/2024 14:40

Ilikeadrink14 · 13/11/2024 14:35

I have just been reading this. It’s unbelievable.
I feel physically sick. R.I.P Sara. You are loved by those who didn’t even know you. We all feel for you.
A blunt carving knife should be used on this apology of a ‘father’. Perhaps then he’d understand what pain is!

Edited

Slow rope would be better, in my opinion.

VeganStar · 13/11/2024 14:41

That poor innocent little girl. Suffering at the hands of the people she should have been able to have trusted to love her.

I hope they all get sent to prison each and every one of them and while they are there to suffer a hundred times more than that poor beautiful little lamb did.

Harsh I know but I feel so angry and full of pity for a little life lost through the actions of monsters.

I used to tell my DD that there’s no such thing as monsters.
Oh but there are.
They walk among us and the horror of it all is that you usually can’t tell them apart from others. 😡

Rest in peace Sara beautiful little one. 🥹💞

LeoOakley · 13/11/2024 14:43

I have wept over this - and won't read anymore because it is clear what happened to this poor darling girl.

I sit and listen to my own 10yr old dd as I type, chatting away with her sibling, and I wonder what evil must lurk within a person that takes over to the extent that you can beat a child to death.

To beat a child must require a deranged level of malfunctioning and while I don't support the death penalty, I support specific prisons built and allocated for this type of crime.

Child murderers should not be afforded any dignity whatsoever. A hole for them to exist until their last breath, starved of basics and any human contact beyond whatever it would take to keep them alive.

The trio involved in this should never see the light of day again.

And yes, race and religion is a factor in this case.

MojoMoon · 13/11/2024 14:43

CocoDC · 13/11/2024 14:05

I’ve heard the mum was abusive too which is why social services got involved but the school was supposed to be monitoring her and contact them regularly which they obvs failed to do as she was going in with bruises and nobody thought to make the call

The school did make reports to social services.

In response, Sharif withdrew Sara from school and said he was home schooling her a couple of months before her death.

The school did exactly what they could do. It is not that "nobody thought the make the call"

localnotail · 13/11/2024 14:44

I'm also thinking of other kids in this family. Even if they were not abused physically, they still must be massively traumatized by living in the house and seeing what happened. I mean, Sara died on a bunk bed - I assume there was another child sleeping on top bunk?!! And now they have been taken away to another country, without any protection from anyone. Poor kids.

Abitofhassle · 13/11/2024 14:44

CocoDC · 13/11/2024 14:16

She has a full sibling that he also has custody of and who, apparently, all of them treated like gold.

Reminds me of the little boy in Edinburgh, Mikaeel Kular, he was the only child his mother abused and eventually murdered.
It seems so strange to feel such hatred towards any of your children never mind systemically torture one of them.
It’s so distressing.

Pa2313 · 13/11/2024 14:46

Lisanoonan · 13/11/2024 13:41

I'm sick of hearing about women getting beaten to death by men in that religion.

Men of all religions and no religion can do child abuse. But it's definitely a problem in his particular religion

Oh wow your racism clearly shows. Nothing in ‘that’ religion approves beating up children.

RedRidingGood · 13/11/2024 14:46

Wherearemymarbles · 13/11/2024 12:47

As PP said, he could well be protecting the others.
there is the question of bite marks and ms Batool refused to give permission for a cast.
she could certainly have been fully involved
they should all be done for murder

Why would he protect the others though? Sorry I'm not being goady, genuinely wondering what could motivate him to do that.

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