Husband won’t replace his wedding ring

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Am I being unreasonable??

My husbands wedding ring came off his finger in the summer on holiday in the sea. We spent hours looking for it but it had gone.
I’ve asked numerous time for us to go together to replace it, make a day of it, or even buy it online. But he just keeps saying it’s not his priority and he’s too busy.

I trust him completely and it’s not a case of worrying about him looking single on a night out. But it’s what it represents and the symbol of it that’s important to me.

Is he in the right or me??

Similar happened to me. My husband lost his wedding ring 3 months after we were married and didn't want to replace it. I didn't want to either in the end because the ring he lost was the one that was blessed for our marriage.
Also, it's his hand so his choice to wear one.

I can't remember when my husband stopped wearing his ring (we;ve been married several decades ), but I don't think it's unreasonable if you have never worn a ring to find it inconvenient or even dangerous and therefore to stop wearing it. Maybe it's just the circles I move in, but I have heard more tales of fingers being ripped off because the ring caught in a piece of machinery than the "ring which saved the fingers from being crushed" story an earlier poster recounted.
I never took my ring off until it had to be cut off last year........ so now I wear HIS ring instead!
I think OP and her DH need to have a serious discussion in which she explains how she feels and he can then either decide to get another ring (which they could have blessed or make some other significant gesture over to imbue it with meaning) or he can explain why he doesn't want to and she will have to respect that..

I’d think replacing it is a waste of money tbh

It is, if they don't want to.

Trying to force someone to do what you want that they don't is always controlling.

We're not "cool wives" we're just normal non controlling women.

We don't care if our husbands wear wedding rings and we don't care if they have female friends.

You have serious issues.

I think my husband has worn his ring about 4 times since we’ve been married. Doesn’t bother me at all. There are more important things to worry about IMO

My husband quite often doesn’t wear his because it catches on flight cases when he’s loading and unloading his equipment. I’m not terribly bothered, but I do like to see it on him.

Why don’t you buy him one for Christmas?

Cool wives 🤣
I've heard it all now!

My husband lost his at work donkeys ago. I lost mine after having our 2nd 4yrs ago because my fingers swelled so much. We never bothered buying another it hasn't been a priority not that they cost alot to begin with think they were like 50 quid in Argos almost 17yrs ago. Now to replace them is much more than we would like to spend on just a symbol that isn't that important, it's our actions. Saying that it does mean something to you and it's poor for him to say it's not a priority when it is for you. If it's not a priority to him and you have the spare cash laying around, then he needs to make it a priority. It means so much to you and no big deal for him to make you happy by wearing a ring he wore before. I'm sure if it meant so much to me, my hubby would do the same and if it meant so much to him, then I would. We would much rather spend the cash on other things

This is possibly one of the funniest/batshit crazy comments I’ve read on here 🤦‍♀️
no words at all. As if someone would question their marriage over this.

if you’re feeling that way about it then I’d already be questioning your marriage to be fair. You’re acting like taking a ring off is instant divorce! Very untrustworthy response you’ve got there

Have you considered that in his mind a replacement ring wouldn’t mean anything to him ? He has lost the ring he received at the time of your marriage - that ring will have had special significance. He could well be thinking a replacement is just a piece of metal with no significance or meaning.

Ask yourself why it seems so important to you ? What is the significance ? He may just have an opposite view which is not unreasonable

Also- cool wives is hilarious! Why can’t a man and woman be friends??? Don’t tell me your husband doesn’t go anywhere without you, doesn’t have any female friends and isn’t allowed to wank if he wants to because he has you so why should he.

I only wear mine on special occasions as I break out but my husband has never took his off. Doesn't bother either of us at all

What would he say if you took your rings off?
I had a long-term DP who said that he would never wear a wedding ring. I said that I liked the idea of wedding rings but, if it was important to him that WE not wear them, I would be content to go without.
Which forced him to admit that he would be uncomfortable with me not wearing one.
He wanted me 'bagged and tagged' and wasn't prepared to openly display his own commitment.
We did not get married.

To be fair OP I’d be devastated. But I’m in a similar situation. DH took his ring off due to a broken wrist. It’s upset me for years that he didn’t wear it. Suddenly he put it on for our 25th wedding anniversary. I was so happy. He’s taken it off again and I feel so low. All his married friends wear one - only his non married friends don’t.

Hmmm, that tells me your DH wants to present to people (women mostly) that he is single. 🤔

Why is that I wonder.........? ❓

😂 this brings back memories. Dh lost his gold Tiffany wedding ring and instead of telling me he replaced it with a cheap 9ct wedding band with a dodgy hallmark. He also lost this on a stag do. What a dick! He hasn’t replaced it since. I don’t really care tbh as it’s costing him. I was bothered when he lost the Tiffany one and failed to tell me, twat!

What a lucky escape for you!

I guess it’s very much a personal thing but it’s not something I could lose too much sleep over. When we bought our wedding rings it was kind of a ‘oh I suppose we’d better….’ sort of thing. Mine was more expensive than his but still both inexpensive and he can’t even wear rings a lot because it’s a hazard at his work. Our house was robbed and his was one the of the things stolen (because he wasn’t wearing it!) but we’ve never replaced it. It’s just not a priority in any way and he’s just not into jewellery. We are husband and wife and don’t need a ring to prove it. It was an accident your OH lost it and if he’s not that bothered about replacing it and doesn’t feel he can can prioritise it then so be it. If you feel differently then by all means push it with him, personally I don’t think it’s a big deal.

My husband never had a wedding ring..not even at the wedding. I borrowed my mother’s for the ceremony, then gave it back to her…though I’m not sure why I even bothered…maybe I thought it was the done thing and felt I should conform for the ceremony. I wear rings, I like diamond rings that I never take off on my right hand, but my OH would never wear any ring

Haven't read all posts.
Do you have a significant anniversary coming up? If so, maybe you could get matching rings in celebration, you wear both yours, he wears his new one. We got matching ones for our Golden Wedding anniversary and we both wear them as well as our original rings.