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DH family ruined my wedding

153 replies

Twinky1985 · 13/11/2024 09:37

My dh is close with his family, which is great but his two db's and mum ( my mil) always take over everything and have to be centre of attention and it pisses me off!
Even on our wedding day!

Examples include, on the morning of our wedding my mil had approached my dad and asked if he thought me and dh should be getting married (my dad told me later)

My dh had both brothers as his best men so they did the speech together, which was basically 10 mins of talking about my dh ex wife (she passed away) and very little about me and dh.

During my dh speech he presented my mum with a bouquet of flowers as she had contributed financially to our wedding, also my auntie as she had made the cake free of charge...and his mum, even though she did nothing, and she stands up and starts stating how she was glad to help!

During mine and dh first dance the two db's thought it was hilarious to burst onto the dance floor with us and start taking the piss out of us by swinging each other round and groping each other (which we weren't it was a lovely slow dance, which we were just dancing to) because of this all the videos were of these two clowns instead and me and my new husband.

AIBU to be pissed off by this?

OP posts:
Winesoup · 17/11/2024 22:41

Your brothers in law sound like dicks, and your MIL is a bit odd, but i think it's a stretch to say your wedding day was ruined, don't let them have that much power over you. They behaved badly, but altogether it was for 12 mins out of a 12 hour day, you still had the ceremony you wanted, celebrated with all your friends and family, and got married to someone you love. Don't let his awful brothers take away from this, and don't let them spoil the early days of your marriage.

You know how awful they are now, so you know to keep some distance.

Ilovemeggy38 · 18/11/2024 05:58

Marosanne · 17/11/2024 20:13

God it's YOUR day. Be as selfish as you want. Everyone else needs to get that and back the fuck off

It's actually THEIR day, last time I checked a wedding involves another equally important person by it's very nature 🙄

Edingril · 18/11/2024 06:07

Marosanne · 17/11/2024 20:13

God it's YOUR day. Be as selfish as you want. Everyone else needs to get that and back the fuck off

Yeah the groom is totally irrelevant

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