AIBU - Mother in Law's dress at my wedding.

[MumofHennHals]

My mother in law ( mother of the groom ) has sent me a picture of the dress she ordered today, asking for 'honest opinion on if it's appropriate'

However when I gave honest opinion, she didn't like it and is rejecting anything I say.

We are getting married in August, in Spain... the very is a very citrus sevillian orange feel...

I've decorated it with bright orange flowers, grape fruits, my bridesmaids are a creamy yellow, my husband to be will be in beige as will his groomsmen, my father and his father.

His mum has decided to wear a black dress, similar shape to mine WITH A TRAIN!!!!!!!

Am I wrong in saying 'can we keep it a little more summery, light and shaped less BRIDAL?'

I don't mind what other guests wear but she will be in a lot of the family group official photos, I've put a lot of thought in my wedding colour palette to want the photos to be vibrant.

I know MN hates wedding talk and I'll probably be slagged off - but hey ho, ultimately AIBU? I'm so chilled in every other wedding aspect.

Sorry but we NEED to see the dress in question

Sorry just saw it and nearly spat out my tea.

that is AWFUL and SO inappropriate

It’s a fabulous dress, more if a ball gown, though, is she trying to out do you?

Did you not read where OP said MiL asked op her for opinion?

I couldn’t have cared less or noticed what people wore to my wedding. The wedding was about me and my husband getting married and that’s it. Honestly why are you bothered, what difference does it make really?

I was already in agreement of you before you posted a pic of the dress. Oh my.
Now is when you'll find out if she really does like you or if she's harbouring some secret resentment towards you for marrying her son! Tell her it's a Spanish themed wedding, not hot Italian widow themed. I really wouldn't blame you for gently putting your foot down on this one.

Don’t do ‘official ‘ photos - ok one with the DPs but have lots with friends, and the bridesmaids. No one wants photos of in-laws on their wall -do they??

Omg that dress is a million times worse than I imagined, and everyone knows black is a no no at a wedding

It is literally a wedding dress

This ⬆️ with bells on!

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If she does wear it, she's going to look like the absolutely desperate attention seeking MIL that she is in this instance! The dress is gorgeous but one million percent inappropriate for a MOG. I would tell her (especially as she asked your opinion) that it really isn't appropriate for the MOG to wear a dress in the same style as the bride to her son's wedding - it's just weird.

OP- please let us know the outcome!

I would suggest something similar without a train and in a peach? Maybe put it next to your grooms suit so she can see it would make a lovely picture! Good Luck OP!

The dress is beautiful but not for MIL. I said yes to my MIL wearing the colour she chose even though I was thinking wth and it rankled for a while. Just in my head mind.

The dress is stunning & if she is as described no doubt she will look stunning wearing it. I am ambivalent. Part of me thinks it would be lovely to see similar shaped dresses one in black one in white with everyone else in citrus bright colours,lovely in photos too. Another part of me is thinking I don't want upstaged on my wedding day. Having said that you could have a sister who is a bridesmaid & looks like a stunning super model so would she have to wear something unflattering. It's definitely a dilemma. I imagine the train part won't look as obvious if not spread out. If you are comfortable that you wouldn't feel upstaged then if mil feels good I'd let her go ahead.

Everyone who thinks “let her crack on with it” has not seen the photo of the dress. There is no way anyone could think that wearing a black wedding dress as the MOG is in any way appropriate.

ETA: I don’t believe anyone would be fine with that at their own wedding. It’s easy to say “it will be fine” when it’s not your special day.

@LookItsMeAgain I assumed it was from the Freemans catalogue or similar 😹
I think it's horrible and looks cheap in every meaning

Her son needs to tell her she's being a weirdo wearing black to a wedding. "It's not a funeral or halloween, mum, please choose something else."

Wedding colour pallet 😂

If she wears black it will look like she is in mourning about her son getting married.

I would find it amusing if I was a guest but would also feel very awkward for her.

I would say I think more summery colours would look better and I'm not sure about the train but it's up to you. Then leave her to it. If she looks ridiculous then on her head be it. She won't be in all your photos as it will be just you and the groom in some. I think there will always be someone looking strange in a group photo.

Count yourself lucky.

My mil wore a see through dress at my wedding!

I don't think it's the colour that's the problem! It's because it's an actual wedding dress. Maybe put the bridesmaids in the same so it draws less attention away. See how mil likes that. 😉

What!

Are you walking down the aisle to the Jesus and Mary chain?