To be SO fucking hurt by this

[BelleSauvage9]

Just been at a birthday party for my nephew in laws partner. At the end of the night dp made a big point of telling nephew to get up in the morning with their kids (because he never does). Dp NEVER gets up with our kids. Not on my birthday, mother's day, just never. I feel so unbelievably hurt that he thinks nephews partner is worth that effort and I, the mother of his children, his partner, the hub of our home, is not.

I expressed this to him. His response was that he tells me to wake him up. I've told him many times there's no point in doing that because if I'm awake enough to wake him, then I'm awake and I won't be able to go back to sleep. And it just feels like a bloody cop out, and puts the responsibility onto me. How the hell does being responsible for your own lie in make you feel valued and appreciated and cared for. I just despair :(

Yes just worked out tje quote ppst. Her husband ppsted im responding to him.

Are you drunk?

Babe, you need to:

Use a spell checker.
Invest in a Delorian (to time travel back from 1950).
Quit the booze.

Not necessarily in that order 😁😁😁

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Urm no .

Of course I'm not her bloody partner!

I was joking that YOU must be him because nobody else would be arguing that she should be concerned with letting him look good in front of his family by acting like he's a brilliant partner and dad when in reality he does bugger all!

Read the thread, im loving this morning so far.

You are funny.

Is it school holidays? 😁

Why do you write like that?

Think our point may not be hitting the mark.

Yeah, you're right about that. Good grief.

No, what's unkind is to advise another man to make sure he gets up with his children and gives her wife a much deserved lie in from time to time in front of your wife when you know damn well you never do that for her.

If he wants to get the credit for getting up with his children and letting his partner have a lie in, the solution is actually really simple. He has to actually DO IT. And then he can show off about doing it.

We can agree to disagree but no i dont use humilation to control or encourage behaviour changes. Its actilually crazy that you do. Been there done that left.

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He won't leave her, because if he did he would actually have to take care of his own children during his contact time. She might end up leaving him if he doesn't pull his weight though.

Urm yes its ppssible to look after your children and work. Its hard to be unhappy and humilated. His life gets easier if he leaves. He wont because he is not with her because she provides childcare. Like have some self respect.