Boyfriends kink

[Kneebonefuture]

So kind of a rude one, so I won't go into specifics. And he's not my boyfriend, he's an old fling who has been a friend for 15 years, and we were kind of thinking of getting together, but no idea how to word that.

I've always known he had a slightly kinky side, nothing mad just a little bit more adventurous than me. However he has recently revealed a kink/hobby? That i never knew about, he seemed totally ashamed and called himself a loser, a weirdo and dirty. Its really not my thing, but I don't like to judge, so just said it wasn't anything to be ashamed of and laughed it off. Hes since seemed to take that as a green light that I'm also into it. Constantly referring to it, bringing it up and fitting it into conversations that hold no relevance. And even sending photos. Should I just call things off with him, as it doesn't appear we are a match or just tell him I'm not into it, how would I even word that? Please no nasty comments, I'm a really shy and introverted person and get confused with boundary setting occasionally. Thanks 😊

Honestly OP you just need to say that whilst you are OK that that is HIS thing, it sure ain’t your thing.
And that is a cue for everyone to just move along….

OP, can you drop some clues? Turn this into a game of ‘who am I’? lol

Butttt, definitely back away. I was seeing a guy who sent me pictures of his bum until I eventually blocked him. It was such a turn off and I definitely didn’t ask for constant arse spam. He was testing the waters.

buttpluggery

It sounds like it's something pretty out there, in which case he's being disingenuous about thinking you're into it. He knows you're not, he just doesn't care.

When I was in my early 20s I dated a long time friend who, it turned out, was into the furry stuff. It's sickening enough to me that him being into it put me off - and I was seriously obsessed with this man. When he told me I wasn't judgemental about it, but I didn't say that I was into it, so he never once tried to involve me in it or bring it into the bedroom.

All sexual things you introduce in a relationship require explicit and enthusiastic consent. The more out there the kink, the more explicit enthusiasm is needed. Any man who doesn't care about this isn't worth your time.

Yes its a role play kink.

Its an odd one as ive known him a long time and I've known about his other kinks, but this one is a new one to me and I dont think he actually does it with other people.

Yep

I was dating a guy once and for a joke on the third date I joked about being spanked by a paddle. It was, I thought a funny joke about something i would not even ever want to do. It was a complete throwaway comment that I didnt think twice about. Next date he brings me a lovely gift bag with a proper paddle for sex games. I was mortified and gave it back. We were, I then found out sexually imcompatible as he was into really kinky stuff and I discovered I am quite prudish. We broke up shortly after . The moral is that you need to be honest with him and yourself as to where your boundaries are. If whatever his kinks are you will not ever participate in then tell him and he can make a decision as it might be something that is important to him sexually. You can tell him you respect his choices and have nothing against them but you do not want to ever participate. Then you can both decide if you want to continue. Honesty is key here, for some reasin he has the wrong idea and you need to set him straight

This thread. Christ I feel so lucky that my partner just gets off on seeing my tits.

I’m sorry OP but some of the suggestions to what might be the kink are fantastic 🤣.
I’ve recently noticed something. I work in a medical setting let me just say some of the admissions due to shall we say “kinky play” that gone wrong are on the rise.
Literally sometimes I think you have got to be f*ing kidding me. However each to their own, what I don’t understand is when the admission is accompanied by the wife/partner/significant other. Most times they sit there prim and proper, as if a broken glass bottle inside a rectum is normal.

Thats the bit I'm finding creepy. The fact he's brought it up several times and not once have i replied enthusiastically. O its really pushy. I'm aware there was absolutely opportunities for me to shut it down.

Same 😂

That's the kind of bloke I've been used to.

A role play kink? It can only be a baby with a dummy in his mouth and shit in his pants.

I got such a clear image of the long suffering wife

I think he’s got very excited that he thinks he might potentially be able to do it with you.

and/or one of his (seemingly many!) kinks whether consciously or subconsciously is pushing boundaries, and probably just talking to you about it, sending you pics, etc is a big turn on for him maybe even more so if you’re not that into it.

Toilet brush handle up the old back eye. Or a barbie doll.

Eugh thats really giving flasher vibes

You've been used to the kind of bloke that gets off on seeing @Courgettesandonions tits?

😁

I wish that was the only role play kink. Honestly that one isn't really that bad in comparison.

That was in reply to @Pisssflapps
For some reason the quote didn't work

So when he sends you a photo and asks if he looks good, what do you say?

I'm wetting myself!

Hmm, something from the kitchen I feel, like a carrot or cucumber (depending on experience obvs)

Oops don't want to turn on the boyfriend

You need to tell him 100% no.

A friend in similar situation, she just giggled when he showed her & talked about his kink, which was just on display in his bedroom she did this on on few occasions.

Then found herself in situation where she felt SA. Bbut instead of speaking up, she giggled and found self in situation didn’t want be in.

Really, why?