Boyfriends kink

[Kneebonefuture]

So kind of a rude one, so I won't go into specifics. And he's not my boyfriend, he's an old fling who has been a friend for 15 years, and we were kind of thinking of getting together, but no idea how to word that.

I've always known he had a slightly kinky side, nothing mad just a little bit more adventurous than me. However he has recently revealed a kink/hobby? That i never knew about, he seemed totally ashamed and called himself a loser, a weirdo and dirty. Its really not my thing, but I don't like to judge, so just said it wasn't anything to be ashamed of and laughed it off. Hes since seemed to take that as a green light that I'm also into it. Constantly referring to it, bringing it up and fitting it into conversations that hold no relevance. And even sending photos. Should I just call things off with him, as it doesn't appear we are a match or just tell him I'm not into it, how would I even word that? Please no nasty comments, I'm a really shy and introverted person and get confused with boundary setting occasionally. Thanks 😊

PickAChew ,speak for yourself!!!!

Oh God, he's not a 'baby' is he?!! Or a fucking dog or something?!

Evenin all

On a separate note, I don't understand how anyone can be getting repeated unrequited and unmatched sex messages and not have already said "what are you doing? Stop it!" Why are you so worried about hurting his feelings when he's paying no attention to yours and deliberatelynot reading the room?
Unless there's a back story and you have been sending unrequited photos of yourself in a bath of super noodles or something. Which I doubt.

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I agree, i think it's the baby thing!

Is it pup play? 🤣🤢🐕

If you say what it is, people can give you an objective opinion as to whether it’s a kink, or whether it’s really beyond the pale. Especially if he’s called himself dirty/loser/weirdo - that is concerning.

People these days aspire to be non judgemental,
which is great. But there are certain things which actually you do need to judge for your own self protection.

What the heck is that??

Never mind. I Googled 😆

Perhaps that's exactly what it is. I don't know the term for it but degrading talk is a kink, being insulted, called every name under the sun.

Op if you don't put a stop to him, you'll end up as traumatised as this woman clearly is!

Not pup play then 🤣. Thought I’d cracked it!

Is it getting off on wearing pissy nappies? I saw that on reddit.

So many perverts. Bring back shame.

I would block someone like this. He's more interested in using you than checking in with you.

I would tell him the kink isn't your thing and you don't want to hear about it, but that you weren't originally judging him for it. However you don'y want to hear about it.

Shame!

It’s the giant man-baby thing? Must be.

Firstly, I think it's furries.

Secondly, I've been through this with a guy I was not compatible with but I stupidly loved him. He was into something and was amazed I didn't block instantly. I was polite about chatting about it because I enjoyed him paying me attention and being flirty but then it totally took over. He was obsessive and I took far too long to set boundaries. Don't be me! I look back with such an ick and I often wonder if he mentions it to women he now dates

Bondage - full leathers?

If it's the usual dogging, pegging, cross dressing, swinging, baked beans, calling him Margret type thing, I wouldn't be too concerned, just tell him you're not interested in any of that and don't want it brought up or mentioned again, your views will no change..etc, if he's able to respect those boundaries, great. If not, then you know the relationship can't continue.

If we're talking knife play, asphyxiation, CNC, minor role play type kinks, I'd honestly run a mile and not look back.

I had a friend that was into this. He tested the waters by telling me and I responded much like OP "Oh well, you do you" sort of thing. He then took this as the green light to ask he to partake and be his "mother" . 😑

Baked beans?