Put an AirTag in car

[Airtagging]

we had only one family car. I used to be the only driver for years until recently my husband got his driver license. At home, we usually park our car on street in front of our house but it may fully occupied sometimes so we need to park in the nearby street. I may not know where the car is when it is parked by my husband. So I put a spare AirTag in the car and share it with my husband so both of us can track the car’s location in our iPhones. But it piss off my husband. He said I’m stalker spying on where he goes everyday. But I only want to help us find our car easier. AIBU?

I find it suspicious that so many people are so desperate to track their partners. If you want to know where the car is ask them to send you the address or a photo. Why so desperate that you try and manipulate people with the if you have nothing to hide you would just let me track you. Own your insecurities.

I think all those saying just walk down the road looking are BU and have never been in op's position. If you have no off-street parking and are carrying stuff in the morning, plus children to ferry along, and live in the middle of a straight terraced street it's very hard to see more than say 3 or 4 cars on one side. Add a van or 2 in and then you're needing to walk out into the road to look for your own indicators flashing in response to frantic key fob pressing.
Then on your return, hungry kids after school, lunch boxes and artwork to carry but hold on children, wait there - oh darling can you run back to the car I forgot what number we parked outside. Eurgh.

I quite like this idea. I often forget where I’ve parked when I’m out and about.

It’s not a problem if you both trust each other not track you and only use it when you’re actually going to the car.

This was a big part of my thinking too when activated the ‘find my friends’ feature.

DH and I have lived in several countries overseas, only one of which is as safe as the UK. I actively wanted him to know where I was and had been a lot of the time.

That is probably at least part of why I like to have an AirTag in the car and find my friends on my phone.

Did you tell him before you put the airtag in the car, or after? I think it's wrong to track him without his consent.

I can see where the OP is coming from... my DH and I have the same issue (no driveway, on street parking) and although we do speak and share car whereabouts verbally, it does sometimes feel like one more thing added to the mental load to juggle. It has also been an issue if one of us has been in a meeting or gone for a walk (for e.g.) having forgotten to mention where the car is (leading to either slightly frantic messages or having to wander the streets looking)!

Thankfully we don't have to park out of our street regularly, but if we did I'd definitely consider a tracker like an air tag to make life easier. I certainly wouldn't be bothered about DH seeing where I am or vice versa.

Love this. Thank you for the idea wexone. I am so going to do this with my son when he’s older.
MWAH HA HA 😈🤣🤣

I don’t want be tracked but I have nothing to hide. My life is relatively boring, my other half knows where I am. We communicate well. Fortunately neither of us feel the need to track each other. I don’t feel comfortable with being tracked by technology purely for the purpose of another adult knowing where I am. If he wants to know, he can phone or text me or wait. He knows usually. “I’m going to the cinema and dinner in X with Y tonight, see you later.” No need to have technology checking in on me. I am where I said.

I don't understand how this makes you safer.

"Don't attack me I have an air tag in my pocket"?

Find someone quicker after an attack or accident

I'm actually embarrassed for you asking that question. It's really not rocket science:

If I call to say I'm on my way home, my husband will know I should be going from 'A to B'. However, if the AirTag doesn't move for hours or ends up at 'Z', for example, he'll know something's up and be able to get help to me before any harm is done.
It's literally the point of a tracker.

Exactly. Or before. I can't quite believe it needs to be explained...

And if you're attacked on the way home and your phone thrown into a bush miles away? He'll be able to see exactly where you - and it - are.

It's not about not trusting you. It's about someone caring that you get home safe.

Before? This is getting too science fiction for me 🤯

You’re tracking the car though, not him.

My car has an app so I can track it anyway.

Still don't get it. In that example, he would be able to go to the location but only after the thing had happened

Before something potentially REALLY bad happens. Obviously.

Judging by your updates, I'd wager you need an AirTag more than I do! 😂

Not necessarily. Like I said, could get there before something really bad happens. We could split hairs all day about the details. Point is, he WOULD know where I am.

If you wanted to spy on him, you would have put a tracker on it (you can get ones that don't alert him) and you wouldn't have told him

Agree that he would know where you are. Disagree that it's a safety game changer.

Dh takes a photo and sends it to me if he can’t park in our normal place

It wouldn't bother me or my husband and your reasoning is for practicality but some people are very sensitive about it and if your husband doesn't want it in the car then I don't think you should put it in as others say, its only fair if everyone agrees.
But perhaps you need to make sure he shares the street he's parked the car in when he parks it away from the house as a compromise.

Of course he cares about my safety. I am an adult though and I don’t need to be tracked for my own safety.

Why can't you just tell each other where you've parked the car?

My car comes with an App. We (husband and I who share it) can always see where it is. Very useful if it gets nicked. I don’t understand why someone in an honest relationship would object to you knowing where the car is. If yours came with an App, would he want to disable it?