Put an AirTag in car

[Airtagging]

we had only one family car. I used to be the only driver for years until recently my husband got his driver license. At home, we usually park our car on street in front of our house but it may fully occupied sometimes so we need to park in the nearby street. I may not know where the car is when it is parked by my husband. So I put a spare AirTag in the car and share it with my husband so both of us can track the car’s location in our iPhones. But it piss off my husband. He said I’m stalker spying on where he goes everyday. But I only want to help us find our car easier. AIBU?

Up to no good 😁

Totally agree. it's shocking. out for dinner over weekend with friends and their friends. one of the mothers proudly told me every day she checked her 20 year old sons location ( he was travelling during summer break ) and would send him a pic with his location circled. I thought it was so creepy. his traveling was his freedom and great to do at that age. his mother didn't need to be " checking " every day

Why can't he just, y'know, tell you where the car is? Am I missing something?

Sounds like a really weak excuse to track your DHs every move OP. Don't blame him for being pissed off.

Dont lots of people track their whole families on their phones? How's this any different?

I think this fully depends on the dynamics in a relationship. If your not in agreement then just what’s app a pin location.

I have an AirTag in my car and on my car keys. I'm not stalking myself, I like to know where my car is and if (unlikely!) it's ever stolen I can track it. It would be up to dh if he wanted the same, but if we shared a car I would like it to have the tag in it, especially if I was used to it just being driven by me.

How does he expect you to find the car if he isn’t around to help you locate it?

There's this thing called a phone.

Yes, and you can use it to locate your car with fine my iPhone!

And if he can’t answer? Mine is on silent all day due to my job.

How do you get it to work? I have one so I can track where my car goes on driving tests but it always gets stuck 5 mins away from the original start point and never moves again

(Trying to explain my thinking)

To me this is an extension of the trust you require and the boundaries you jointly agree to in any relationship.

If I share a home and bed with someone, they theoretically have easy access to my most intimate belongings, my journal, my treasured possessions, my private paperwork, my electronic devices. However, I'm a private person, so I would only be in a relationship with someone who I can trust to be in proximity to these things and not violate my privacy by snooping. Other couples have different boundaries, and share more.

Similarly, I would only share a car (which we each use separately, and is often parked erratically, so needs to be located easily), with someone who I could trust to use the tracking to ONLY locate where the car is parked and NEVER to track my movements when I am using the car solo. Just like I'd trust them to never read my journal or snoop in any of my private things (even though they could).

If I can't trust them not to track me in the car, I can't trust them not to read my journal, or email, or, etc, and so the relationship has bigger problems anyway.

This is exactly what I find uncomfortable about tracking, if you don’t like it some people automatically view it as suspicious. What if the majority had these tracking apps, will people who don’t have them be viewed as dodgy in some way because they don’t have a way of proving their whereabouts?

Or he could just text her after parking where the car is.

Since he doesn't like the idea of the car being tracked, presumably he's fine with just telling her where it is instead.

We have an air tag in our cars in case they get stolen.

If he's getting that grumpy about it, I imagine he sometimes lies about his whereabouts.

I have a dashcam and have turned the audio off, they don’t need to hear me screeching along to abba if they ever have to check the footage

How do you get it to work? I have one so I can track where my car goes on driving tests but it always gets stuck 5 mins away from the original start point and never moves again

I don't get it either. We have one in a bag in the car that my partner uses if there's an emergency and it never shows up once they've left home. So how on earth do people track if their car/belongings are stolen?
I thought it was pretty useless!
Hands up to missing the point of the thread but I'm really curious!

Have you added the AirTag to your findmyiphone app? Is it an actual AirTag (I've had other types that didn't work as well)

Have you added the AirTag to your findmyiphone app? Is it an actual AirTag (I've had other types that didn't work as well)

Thanks for your reply and I did and yes it was an actual AirTag. Partner has an android phone but that shouldn't make any difference should it? (I'm a technophobe!)
When I Googled it, it said they had a range of 30m or something ridiculous, so how do people track things further than that?!

Sounds like a great idea. Your husband can track when you have the car so it's mutual. Why is he so concerned?

When I Googled it, it said they had a range of 30m or something ridiculous, so how do people track things further than that?!

It relies on other peoples iPhones passing by to detect it and relay the info (invisibly to them of course).

It could be that it isn't picking up any iPhones - and with your dh not having one it only will when you are near someone else who does - so it should still be traceable in a busy carpark for example.

It relies on other peoples iPhones passing by to detect it and relay the info (invisibly to them of course).*

Thank you!

It could be that it isn't picking up any iPhones - and with your dh not having one it only will when you are near someone else who does - so it should still be traceable in a busy carpark for example.

Ah ok. Told you I was a technophobe!

Sorry for going off on a tangent OP!

It's not dh who would be tracked though is it. Only the car. Presumably he's only in the car to get to and from places. Where he walks to will stay private.

It would do my head in to have to ramble around the streets looking for the car if he wasn't around to ask or was asleep

I actually think the complete opposite. I've started to carry one if I'm on a night out/coming home late on a train because I want my husband to know where I am. As a safety feature, I think AirTags are a game changer.