Put an AirTag in car

[Airtagging]

we had only one family car. I used to be the only driver for years until recently my husband got his driver license. At home, we usually park our car on street in front of our house but it may fully occupied sometimes so we need to park in the nearby street. I may not know where the car is when it is parked by my husband. So I put a spare AirTag in the car and share it with my husband so both of us can track the car’s location in our iPhones. But it piss off my husband. He said I’m stalker spying on where he goes everyday. But I only want to help us find our car easier. AIBU?

I hate tracking or home cctv etc. I wouldn't have a dashcam as its unnecessarily pics up audio.

I imagine if roles were reversed and you didn't want an air tag but he did then it would be deemed as controlling

The air tag itself wouldn't bother me - handy if the car gets nicked.

I find your explanation as to why the airtag is needed a little unconvincing though. I do wonder if you are used to having the car and might want to supervise his use of it to make sure he doesn't dawdle bringing it back when you want it.

I wouldn't be keen either especially as sending a text or writing a note is a really easy, low tech solution to the problem.

Sometimes I take the scenic route home from work for some extra peace and quiet. When I was finding things tough, I would sometimes book a bit of time off work and just chill out in the library or a coffee shop for an hour. DH never knew. I would have felt I should have come home and done some jobs or something if the car was tracked, but it was my own little secret with no pressure. Totally innocent but I just needed that reset.

We also do have Life360 but I turn on tracking when it's helpful, I don't have it on all the time.

I'm so shocked by these responses.

It wouldn't occur to me to do this but .. .what possible reason could a partner have for objecting other than they were up to no good?

Isn't 'no secrets' the only basis for trust?

If there are things that you want to do that your other half doesn't want you to do, isn't the only mature way to deal with it to discuss it like adults and reach some kind of compromise (or not, if you feel it's a dealbreaker?) Not to pretend you're not doing it, or lie about doing it..

That's a shit relationship.

Totally unnecessary.
It's in the next street.
Take a photo
Drop a pin.
These trackers only work if you're both comfortable with it.
Neither of us have them.
We just don't need it

Is it so hard to just say where you've parked the car??

Wouldn’t bother me or DH, we also have each others phones tracked. No because we don’t trust each other but ease.

You can turn off the audio

Why do you assume posters are doing something and not telling their partner?

I just don’t want to be tracked. I’m not a child or an animal where anyone needs to know my whereabouts at all time. I’m not doing anything behind my partners back and I don’t care where he is. I trust him without tracking him.

Ease of what?

I don't have any secrets from dh. I don't do anything dh wouldnt want me doing. I just don't feel comfortable being tracked like I'm some kind of endangered animal. Ask me where I am and I will tell you, if you trust me that should be good enough for you. If its not then your trust issues aren't my problem 🤷🏻‍♀️

@GhostCicada and @Nicknacky but the OP isn't tracking her DP!

There's a completely valid reason for putting the airtag in ie 'I want to know where you parked the car' - it's weird that he has a problem with it in those rational circs.

Me too
Surely the car will be parked nearby

She's not trying to track his movements. 🙄She's trying to make sure they both know where the car is. Nothing to hide, nothing to worry about..

Is it valid though? She could easily just ask him and he tells her. It’s hardly a big deal to walk down a street and look for your car.

What am i missing?
What's easier?

Yes, I think it's valid. I think it could often end up being a frustrating 5 mins none of us can afford.

Equally I could say to you.. what IS a valid objection to your OH knowing where you are?

Unless of course...

What reason did your DH give OP?

Loots like her H manages to find the car easily enough if he doesn’t need it tracked?

Because it isn’t necessary. And that’s a perfectly valid reason, is it not?

It's weird and unnecessary. You just text each other - "I parked outside number 34 Fletcher St" or whatever and walk there.

Tracking the car is freaky.

It's a bit weird to suggest that this is about tracking OP's husband or his car, when it's actually about tracking a shared resource, the car that OP and her husband both use.

An AirTag seems a graceful practical solution to me, IF you're in a healthy, trusting, mutually respectful relationship.

IF any of those are lacking, then obviously it's a no go. As is the relationship itself, of course.

Separate cars or a different relationship are more appealing options than endless tedious communications about where the shared car was last seen.

It's all just protesting too much.

No-one cares unless they have reason to care.

Our shared car isn't that new by any means, but it has an app that you can use for things like turning on the heating 5 mins before you get in, locking it remotely if you forget etc. (it's an electric car so also used to check on charging progress). It's handy and both me and my husband are logged into it - I can't imagine this is unusual? I've only recently realised the app also has a location map so you can find where the car is parked.

My DH and I have 'find my friends' and don't care about tracking, but I wonder how many people are using these car apps not even realising they can track their other half!

We have a tracker in our car, doesn't bother either of us.

We don't constantly track each other, it's there incase the car is stolen

Meaning what?