Put an AirTag in car

[Airtagging]

we had only one family car. I used to be the only driver for years until recently my husband got his driver license. At home, we usually park our car on street in front of our house but it may fully occupied sometimes so we need to park in the nearby street. I may not know where the car is when it is parked by my husband. So I put a spare AirTag in the car and share it with my husband so both of us can track the car’s location in our iPhones. But it piss off my husband. He said I’m stalker spying on where he goes everyday. But I only want to help us find our car easier. AIBU?

I have nothing to hide but I'd still hate it.

It's not an alarm bell at all. It's a basic human right to not have every movement tracked. Like I said me and my DH are fine with it, but it certainly doesn't mean someone is up to no good because they don't want tracking. Each to their own, and that's ok.

Extremely odd overreaction. We do the exact same thing as we have one car, street parking and in and out during the day. Can't even remember where I parked at times and this is so helpful. Unless op is giving him an inquisition I can't understand why he's so upset unless he is up to something.

You have to both agree to the air tag, and you must never question eachother's movements based on the location information. The second either of you do that trust is breached and you're in controlling behaviour territory.
Have you commented even in passing about where he's been based on the air tag location? If so I can see exactly why he'd be unhappy with this.

but then the biggest tracking device is your phone, just that its not your other half that does the tracking etc

A text? 'Car is along in X street'

So simple. Don't be tracking people it's weird.

And that's a choice we all make if we want a phone or not, isn't it? If we didn't want to be tracked we wouldnt have that type of device.

I hate how tracking is gradually becoming normalised. I don’t have anything to hide but I would never let anyone track my car and would rethink my relationship with anyone who wanted to do this.

Same here. It's not normal to need to track someone and it should not be normalised.

I wouldn’t like it either to be honest.

Bunny boiler vibes

I didn't realise air tags had that long a range. My ex husband gave the kids and me one a few Christmases ago. I put mine on the dog collar. I wonder if he was tracking me and wondered why I stayed at home all day. 😂

When we shared a car we would just message each other or tell each other where it was parked.

If you told him in advance, you did nothing wrong and he is not wrong to disagree with you either. However, agree with PP being tracked is opt-in and if one of you says no, it's a no.

(For what it's worth, DH and I share our location in Google Maps though I might very occasionally turn it off. Not having an affair! Maybe buying him a gift or so. Or going to a hair wax place.)

If you did it without being upfront about it, what is wrong with you - I'd be livid.

true

yet the govt, or google, Gchq etc do that each day with your mobile phones

I can't find my own car parked by me! I'm going to get an Air Tag and put it in for this very reason, car parks, large events, when I'm chatting too much to concentrate.

Anyway, if he's not on board, he's not. It's being interpreted differently than how I would see it but that's up to him.

they track off any nearby iphones, so as long as it's in a place there's an iphone nearby theoretically it's unlimited

Why is everyone behaving like the OP is a bunny boiler who is going to be tracking her DH'd movements 24/7? She just wants to be able to find the car, she doesn't want to stalk him. Why don't people want their OH to know where they are? I don't get it at all.

iM bEiNg mOnItOrEd okay where you going huns? Work, the gym, the supermarket? You get home and your husband says ‘what have you been up to today’ are you replying ‘don’t monitor me! What an intrusive question!!!’ get a grip. OP has a legit reason to want to have an AirTag in the car, she’s not asking him to give her a constant rundown of his whereabouts, the people who immediately jump to ‘intrusive’ and ‘invasive’ make me suspicious.

Me and my family and a couple of friends have each other on find my friends. It’s so useful. I think putting a tag on the car is a good idea incase it gets stolen. Seems weird to me he would care.

And while I don't agree with that either at least it's not a husband/wife keeping tabs on where a spouse is. Tracking has to have consent otherwise it's just creepy and I would 100% leave someone who ever did this to me or my car.

Good job, it's not a modern car, my wife can see what temp my car is at, how fast I'm going, what songs I'm listening to, where I am in the car etc. etc., But I also have find my friends on anyway, and airtags as I lose my shite all the time. so no big deal.

imagine how differently the madeleine mccann case would have gone if she'd had an air tag.