Put an AirTag in car

[Airtagging]

we had only one family car. I used to be the only driver for years until recently my husband got his driver license. At home, we usually park our car on street in front of our house but it may fully occupied sometimes so we need to park in the nearby street. I may not know where the car is when it is parked by my husband. So I put a spare AirTag in the car and share it with my husband so both of us can track the car’s location in our iPhones. But it piss off my husband. He said I’m stalker spying on where he goes everyday. But I only want to help us find our car easier. AIBU?

It's not a legit reason at all. Op could do easily just message to say the car is outside number 23 or they could just walk the street and look for the car. It is intrusive - so intrusive. Where does tracking end?

Why do you care if your partner knows where you are?

Oh for goodness sake. So we've already moved onto tracking sleeping children just incase they're kidnapped. Madness!!!

I don't really get the handwringing over tracking generally. DH and I both have it enabled in Find my Friends and find it useful sometimes. I don't think either of us are particularly creepy!

This wouldn't bother me at all but we don't have the kind of relationship where the other would care about it or would see it as 'spying' or use it in that way (mostly because I don't think either of us go anywhere interesting anyway!). I find it a bit weird someone would get so upset about their wife seeing where their car is but I guess different strokes for different folks!

Because I'm an adult and I'm entitled to go where I want to go without question.

Why do they need to know? My partner has no idea where I am when he’s at work unless I tell him and that’s how it will stay.

I have an AirTag in my car too. I put it in there after DH and I came back from holiday and couldn’t find our car in the multi-storey car park. It turned out that we were on the wrong floor as we could (eventually) hear the car beeping when we pressed the button on the remote key. But that took a while and we were convinced it had been stolen.

We both have ‘find my friend’, aka ‘the stalker app’ on our phones though so we don’t have a problem with stalking the car.

Don’t see the problem. If it’s your car, you decide how much monitoring on the car usage you require.

Ooooh check you out on your cheeky covert tesco trip. Rebel

Brief Encounter - I just use the train and Waterloo Wetherspoons when meeting my 'friend'

DH hasn't got an iPhone but when I bought 4 AirTags he asked for one in the car so I can see where he is when he goes off and runs marathons, he sometimes takes it round with him, sometimes it beeps as it is away from my phone and it has also come up as a lost AirTag on others phones. It picks up other's iPhones as he drives home even though he hasn't got one.

Petulant and immature to not want to be tracked? To believe in consent? Strange opinion. Why does it matter to you where I go? Morrisons - highly thrilling. The library - wowsa. The fact is that consent is consent. I don't want anyone tracking me. It really is that simple and I'm entitled to that.

I think the only reasons you’d have a problem with this are a) you’re married to a psycho stalker, in which case, make plans to leave. b) you’re shagging around or buying drugs. c) you have a mental disorder where you feel paranoid about ‘people’ ‘knowing’ you went to Tesco.

It doesn’t matter if the person is only going to Morrisons. If they don’t want to be tracked, that’s perfectly acceptable.

Now it's just getting personal so I suggest you stop. You wouldn't say that face to face.

I think he's unreasonable not to allow it, unless he can come up with a failsafe method to communicate the car location to you. I'd be wondering what he was hiding. But then we're a family who all share our locations permanently by choice (including 19yo DD) and I find it strange that people are uncomfortable with that.

None of those things apply to me and I can still not want to be tracked

Surely he could just, you know, tell her? That’s pretty failsafe

Why do you think it’s strange not to want tracked? I’m uncomfortable that it’s becoming so normal that our children, particularly daughters, won’t see the signs of a controlling partner who is doing it for other motives.

One of our cars has this function as standard. I bloody love it at airports / field parking type events as I've had "issues" in the past misremembering where I parked after 8 hours at an event.

Also handy for swapping cars at work depending on who needs what (big campus and DH could well be unable to get to a phone). Yes dropped pin could work but too easy to forget to send it then you can't find the car...

Yep, DH knows if I've stopped for a cheeky McDonald's (so I go to the one by Asda for deniability) but beyond my lack of self discipline around junk food we have nothing to hide and convenience outweighs any irritation about 'checking up'.

I know people who’ve had their cars stolen and only found it due to a (hidden) AirTag.

for that reason Yanbu. It’s never occured to me to use it to track my husband though! Nor vv.

I wouldn't be a fan of it. I don't do anything even remotely interesting but I'm a really private person and I just don't like the idea of being tracked, same goes for ring doorbells and the like. If you want to know where I am or where the car is text me and I will tell you.

Depends where you live. In a modern estate with crap parking you could well be one one of a number of roads and a lot of times families are on a tight schedule to fit life and work around school pick up times... Losing 5 minutes playing hunt the car could easily double my commute time (5 minutes late makes the traffic so much worse - out the door at 0730 = desk by 8 out at 7.35 = desk by 8.35