ExH brought his dog in my house without permission

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ExH just dropped off his dog in my house. For me to look after, even though i had said no to looking after him. The dc let Exh and dog in when i was out. They love that dog and of course had no knowledge of anything.

ExH is gone now for two weeks. Abroad. He just walked out and took off to the airport, leaving dog behind.

I've got two dc and two cats and work long hours. The cats have never spent a night/day alone in the house with this dog. He is kind and mellow, but a large breed. Size of a wolf.
I've contacted a dog shelter and might have to go to go through rspca.

Posting to tell someone. This is just one of many many ways he always finds a way to use me or control my life. I didn't want any of this. And now im left here calling shelters (which im asked to pay for), calling womens aid, calling rspca, figuring out how to do this without upsetting the dc, texting exH to sort out care if he doesn't want me to take this further, posting here for support, trying to figure out tomorrow with sorting out the kids, my work, other stuff, business meeting and my actual day job. Honestly?! Wtf!!!

He should have arranged somthing for the 2 weeks and paid like other people do.
Tell him send money and you find a place that can take him for two weeks or you are going to report him as abandoned at his home.
As really that's what he has done. You can't look after him .

I was going to suggest this. Leave it at his house and phone the rspca to say he’s away for two weeks and abandoned it

To leave the dog alone? That's not fair or kind to the dog.

You should be aware that the RSPCA/another rescue will not take someone else's dog from you - you don't have the legal right to sign over ownership to them which is what they will require. I used to work for a shelter, we had to scrupulously check for proof of ownership before accepting a surrender as we would be open to legal action from the dog's legal owner if we took a dog and rehomed it without their permission.

Even if you claim the dog is abandoned, many shelters still won't be able to take it as the legal requirement with an abandoned dog is to notify the local authority dog warden who may have their own contracted kennels for holding - they hold dogs for 7 days after which they are free to dispose of it which may include euthanasia. You could try calling the local dog warden and seeing what they say but it's likely they won't consider the dog abandoned and won't see it as their problem.

I'd also remind you that shelters/rescues are charities, they are not free boarding kennels for people having domestic disputes.

If you can't or won't care for the dog, you either need to pass it on to another friend or family member of your ex's who can, or put it in a boarding kennels and send your ex the bill. As out of order as he is and as inconvenient as it is for you, this isn't an underfunded under-resourced shelter's problem to solve for you.

I would google husky owners/rescue organisations and go from there.

It might be tricky if you don't know the dog's vaccination status, but it's your best chance of getting some help from people who will know how to look after the dog properly, and hopefully be happy to help. You will have to pay for it, but try and get the cost back somehow.

Sorry you got involved with such a selfish arsehole. Maybe you might forget who has the dog in two weeks time..!

Wow, it's one thing dumping a dog on someone who hasn't been consulted and didn't want it, but a completely different thing when the dog is a Husky. They are beautiful dogs but can be so much work, especially if they haven't had a lot of time spent training them (and I will assume that hasn't happened as time spent training would mean be cared a lot about the dog and would make suitable arrangements for it when going away). They can be neurotic, noisy, escape artists, strong willed, need a hell of a lot of exercise and mental stimulation and they can be tone deaf when it comes to recall.

That is very different to a 10yr old well behaved Cavalier/Labrador/Shih Tzu that just wants to snuggle up to someone warm.

I think this is good advice. He is a horrible horrible man - that dog needs rescuing from him long term.

I think look after it tonight - it is getting h on. Then leave it in his house tomorrow with some food and tell him what you have done. Then it is up to him to arrange things.

Much as the dog probably would be better off with someone else - once again, this is not something rescues can legally do. Rescues cannot just take people's dogs. They would need the dog to be signed over by someone who can prove they legally own it.

It's not ideal, but could you leave it at his house and send the DCs round to walk/feed/let it out twice a day?

If you end up muddling through for the next two weeks he will do this again and again. I agree warden or rescue.

They might help out for two weeks out of sympathy to the dog? 🤷‍♀️

When I found a stray dog, I took it to a local vet's.

I'll bet he's feeling really smug and pleased with himself for sticking you with his dog.

It's one of the most dick moves I've ever heard.

It definitely needs to go to the dog warden as an abandoned dog. Just tell them the owner has gone on holiday for 2 weeks and just left it, which he has.

Most rescues - especially breed rescues - are run on a shoestring by volunteers and have lengthy waiting lists to intake dogs. They are not free boarding services.

And in be tempted to message him and say “sorry, he couldn’t stay in the house as he bothered the cats so I let him out the front door, not sure where he’s gone”.

im NOT saying actually do this but let him panic!

No i appreciate that. Someone in my village runs a breed rescue and to be honest she probably would take the dog in for two weeks, though she’d be furious with the owner. But if the OP can’t keep him what does she do? I couldn’t have a strange husky with my cats. If i couldn’t find a rescue or warden I’d have to take the dog to the vet to be pts 🤷‍♀️

I can see why he is an ex.

I’d speak to the dog warden and ask their advice. If they say they can’t take the dog, say it’s either that or you’re letting it out and leaving it outside. They will collect then.

What a POS your ex is.

Omg that is such a dick move. I can't believe he did that.
What a nightmare for you. I think your option of returning the dog to the house during the day is the best one. His house will be trashed but not your problem

Poor dog. I would take him to a boarding kennels and give your ex's details.

The vet isn't going to just PTS someone else's dog for you either! Apart from the ethics, they'd get their arses sued off.

Duty of care to the dog?

You can't leave it alone all day! It's intelligent and loving and will feel punished, even tortured. Not even for one day is this acceptable.

Your children love it and presumably it remembers and knows them...can they step in till a shelter or rescue does?

At the very least please get a dog walker or sitter for that day, and bill the presumptuous user who is your ex.

I agree

He will never pay me back for anything. He left only about 3 days worth of food as well. Im really skint this month too! Scraping the freezer and cupboards for meals as to avoid shopping.
Dc are not old enough to look after the dog by themselves or move into his place.

I have a small side hustle business with a booking for 8am tomorrow. I have to go straight to the office for my day job straight after. Was going to do a longer day to make up for the hour missed in the morning. Kids are sorted. But the dog? Take him to exhs house at 7.30 am and get back to him at 6.30 pm?! I fucking hate this. I always knew he doesn't consider me as an actual person or the fact i have a life of my own. He is vile. In so many ways. And now im sitting here again using my energy on his shit!