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Tevion321 · 04/11/2024 22:48

I had to download a messaging app today and my dp has this app on another seperate phone he has. His contact came up on this app once I'd downloaded it but I don't understand why he has some woman's picture on his profile pic haven't a clue who it is and why. Would you find this odd.

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Tevion321 · 04/11/2024 23:15

I need to get onto his old phone and have a look

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AutumnLeaves24 · 04/11/2024 23:18

Tevion321 · 04/11/2024 23:00

No haven't asked I just can't get my head around as to why somebody would have a random person's picture on thier profile

It's random to you, not him.

If He was my DP I'd be snooping, deep.

best wishes for it being innocent.

UnusuallyUsual · 04/11/2024 23:21

What happens if you message him on his number? Does the message go to both phones? Can you see his messages on there? Who has he been messaging?

ciaopizza · 04/11/2024 23:23

Is it an old number? I have a friends old number on my WhatsApp. They left the country a couple of years ago and and it must have eventually been assigned to someone else as the profile picture as I noticed the picture has changed to someone totally different.

Tevion321 · 04/11/2024 23:23

UnusuallyUsual · 04/11/2024 23:21

What happens if you message him on his number? Does the message go to both phones? Can you see his messages on there? Who has he been messaging?

I don't know I've never downloaded this app before but I can't message him off mine I'd have to use a new number so he doesn't know it's me

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Opentooffers · 04/11/2024 23:23

More digging required. For reasons only he knows. Does it still come up with his name or a fake woman's name to go with the pic? Anyone would think it odd if Geoff had a profile of a random woman.

Tevion321 · 04/11/2024 23:27

It says Daves lycamobile but it's this woman's picture not his and if you swipe there is around 4 pics of her

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Morven7 · 04/11/2024 23:29

Ask

Cocoadoodle · 04/11/2024 23:34

Maybe screenshot the pictures of the woman and just say to him “Do you know who this is?” See what he says and his reaction.

Demonhunter · 04/11/2024 23:37

Have you done a reverse image search and see if the pics pop up anywhere? If he's stolen the pics for some weird reason for a profile he had to have found them somewhere. If they don't bring any results back, then they're probably pics he's been sent somehow. It really sounds like he's set up a fake profile but the question is why??

UnusuallyUsual · 04/11/2024 23:40

Has he a friend called Dave who works for lyca mobile? It sounds like Daves got his partner as a contact picture?
Please ask your DP and let us know... is he not home yet?

Shelby2010 · 04/11/2024 23:41

Surely anyone who upgrades their phone takes their number with them?! Otherwise it’s just buying a second phone.

WallaceinAnderland · 04/11/2024 23:41

Do a reverse image search.

amoreoamicizia · 04/11/2024 23:41

Google image search the photo.

Tevion321 · 04/11/2024 23:43

amoreoamicizia · 04/11/2024 23:41

Google image search the photo.

I've tried the Google reverse but no result

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Demonhunter · 04/11/2024 23:44

Tevion321 · 04/11/2024 23:43

I've tried the Google reverse but no result

Have you tried Tin eye?

JoMaloneCandles · 04/11/2024 23:44

Is his old number still the same old number? Or has he given that sim to someone else?

Tevion321 · 04/11/2024 23:45

JoMaloneCandles · 04/11/2024 23:44

Is his old number still the same old number? Or has he given that sim to someone else?

He still has old number

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JoMaloneCandles · 04/11/2024 23:45

Type his old number into Facebook and see if he has separate profiles, could try and connect some dots that way.

Tevion321 · 04/11/2024 23:48

He has his main phone that he takes everywhere with same number he's had for years then he has a spare phone with a lyca sim in that he mostly uses for calling overseas and which he tops up occasionally however I think he uses some apps on it.

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favledesire · 04/11/2024 23:50

InformerYaNoSayDaddyMeSnowMeIGoBlameALickyBoom · 04/11/2024 22:56

Yes, and I would automatically think that he was cheating with someone who's already in a relationship, so it looks like she's talking to a friend (been on the recieving end of that so maybe my paranoia speaking).

Obviously totally dependent on your relationship though, how are things generally.

Sounds plausible

Sorry op I have no better explanation

Demonhunter · 04/11/2024 23:52

Do the pics look like the kind you send friends and family on messenger or do they look posed like what you'd put on Social media profiles?

I think you're just going to have to ask. Say you installed the app and see his old number has the profile of a woman. Ask in a genuinely "isn't that bizarre" kind of way, rather than accusatory, you'll get a more truthful reaction.

FupaTrooper · 04/11/2024 23:54

Some men do this when their cheating partner is in a relationship so her partner doesn't catch on.

I've also heard of trans identifying men doing this as they basically catfish other men because they find it "validating". (barf)

4forksache · 04/11/2024 23:56

Whatever it is, it’s worrying and you need to delve further before you confront him.

valentinka31 · 05/11/2024 00:01

Tevion321 · 04/11/2024 23:00

No haven't asked I just can't get my head around as to why somebody would have a random person's picture on thier profile

so that when he calls her if she's with her DH it looks like a gf calling