Need a hand hold part 2

[Imbluedalale]

Hi it’s Laura ,
Just wanted to add a new thread as I think my other thread is getting full xx

I know @Munchyseeds2, ex likes to buy his way through life . He earns a lot in Liverpool so it’ll be peanuts to him not that I’ve ever seen any of it xx

I predict that he will phone the school on Monday and lie that your son is ill.

@Imbluedalale there's nothing he can say that will stop the school speaking to you. If he had raised any concerns I'm sure you would have heard by now. As @Apolloneuro pointed out you have evidence in the services you are engaging with. It will be OK ❤️

Thank you @Apolloneuro , I’ll get all my information ready over the weekend and present the school with it on Monday . I’m going to ask for a meeting too I can’t have ex letting son have time off like this xx

The school will have an attendance officer who will be all over this, I promise.

Do you really think so @Apolloneuro ? I really hope so. I can prove he’s lying with my hospital notes for the injuries but how can I prove everything else?How can I prove I didn’t just leave and that I was kicked out?xx

Just to play the game a bit (although it’s true, of course) focus your attention with school on him missing school, rather than being kept away from you.

Ok that’s reassuring to know , thank you xx

you have your correspondance with your MP that proves that you were kicked out xx

As you say, you’ve got your medical records, the police and all your mental health workers.

I don’t mean this to sound off, but the school won’t particularly care whether you were thrown out or ran off with the milkman. They don’t care about you in that sense. Their focus is on the children and what they need.

@Imbluedalale Laura they will believe you. Please don't panic. As @Apolloneuro said just stick to facts. You haven't given permission and then you can explain your circumstances. They shouldn't need to see your paperwork but you have it if you want to disclose it. I'm sure one of your support workers could speak to them if necessary.

Great advice @Apolloneuro and schools are well versed in dealing with children whose parents have split under all manner of circumstances.
There is so much information to hand of all the people supporting @Imbluedalale including the MP, MH team, medical doctors etc as well.
Why any school would support someone taking a child out for two weeks at this time of year I have no idea!!!!
That is a lot of work to catch up on!

Oh I really hope so . My son had 2 days off school at beginning of year with viral infection and the attendance officers came to address to check he really was poorly so I really can’t see the school agreeing for 10 whole days off xx

They haven’t authorised it, I’m sure. School will be very grateful that you’ve put them in the picture.

Thank you @nornironlady , there’s nothing I can do right this minute so I’m going to try and not get worked up about it . I’ve had to have a word with myself as was tempted to ring ex and ask how he’s done this but that will be the most stupid thing to do ever xx

Please don’t phone him. It’s what he wants.

anything you find yourself wanting to say to ex you can always just dump here to get it out of your system xx

Yes your right @spoonfulofmustard , I have a lot of correspondence if I need to use it or if they want to see it , I knew he’d make it hard for me but he doesn’t realise he’s punishing the children Aswell xx

Thank you @Apolloneuro , I’ll speak to the school on Monday and tell them that I don’t authorise my son being taken out of school to sit in a bar for 12 hours a day xx

Thank you @PeggyMitchellsCameo , I know and especially to sit in a bar from 11am - 11pm . I can’t imagine any school agreeing to that . I’m so worried about the work he’s going to miss out on and him falling behind xx

I won’t phone him I promise xx

Ok thank you this is what I want to say so here goes …
Ex you are the most vilest person I’ve ever met in my life . You are a first class twat and I wouldn’t piss on you if you was on fire . I hate your guts and everything you stand for . You will not beat me and you will never lay a finger on me again.
I hope you get threadworms and Nora virus and I hope you get so constipated afterwards that it feels like your shitting a hedgehog out .
Your mother should have swallowed you.

Shall I write him an email 😂

Dear Dickhead

Although it has been evident for years that your brain is, in fact, even smaller than your minuscule manhood, I am still shocked that you would stoop so low as to put our son’s education in jeopardy.

Under no circumstances are you going to manipulate me, our child or the school. I have compiled a list of professionals who are all waiting to advocate on my behalf.

On Monday, the consequences of your latest stunt will fall upon your bald head.

I suggest that you remove yourself permanently to the other side of Fuck Off and wait to live a lonely life. One day, our son will be an adult. I will wait. He will see you for what you are.

If you persist in these games, one hundred thousand wooden spoons are going to insert themselves into all your orifices, courtesy of an army of warrior women.

Yours faithfully

Laura will do better, you will never win, Spoons.

@Imbluedalale oh god that really made me laugh😂😂 Keep that up Laura. The Spoonies are behind you 🥰

@Imbluedalale let that anger push you through! ever a list maker myself, would it also help you that when pulling together the professionals that have been involved you also bullet the roles they played. You had a great timeline i remember from your original letter for the mp, it may be helpful to get this all down on paper so its documented clearly and on hand just in case needed. It will also be beneficial for the future while its fresh in your mind. i know ive shut a lot out of my memory now from my past, which is a good thing, but it just may needed xx