Old friend randomly blocked me

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For background purposes, I'm in my 40s now.
When I was in my 20s, I had a friend who I socialised a lot with (bars and clubs late 90's days) we had some amazing nights and were great friends, not super close though, mainly socially. As life progresses we both meet and marry, settle down etc. and lose touch, as sometimes happens in life. I know she's married with a son who I'm guessing is around 20 now.

Randomly one day a few months ago, I got thinking of her and could remember her Mums landline number (probably because we called each other so much back then before mobiles!)

I rang and spoke to her Mum. She remembered me and we had a brief chat. I asked for my old friends mobile and said I'd love to surprise her with a little WhatsApp and catch up on how she's doing.

I drop said friend a little message, along the lines of "hey old friend. Surprise! A little blast from your past. Ask how she's doing, tell her she had popped into my mind etc, explained how I'd amazingly remembered her parents home number etc. and just thought it would be good to check in all these years later now we're adulting 😊

She replies, brief, but pleasant asks how I am etc.

So I respond fairly briefly, tell her I'm married, where I'm living now etc. Casually say it would be nice to one day catch up for a coffee is she fancies it sometime.

That's it.

Stays on the grey tick. I got blocked. Obviously she never responded.

I can't understand. It's made me feel utterly crap. I'm obviously overthinking it, but who wouldn't. I've never done anything to offend her. I get that life moves on. Maybe she didn't fancy the coffee thing, but surely she could have just got around that by being vague and non committal (I can take a hint!) Just thought it was a nice little checkin to an old friend I'd lost touch with.

I just find people so rude. I thought it would be just a nice hi, was thinking of you and the fun times we has message - instead I come away from an innocently nice gesture feeling like I've been punched in the stomach (and also like a complete idiot!!)

She only lives about 10 miles from me, so I dread if I ever bump into her, I'd feel incredibly awkward now on how to navigate!

Anyone else had odd situations like this that fester in your mind?

Yup I remember my best friend’s numbers, my hairdressers, my dentists etc from the 70’s onwards. I was thinking this week I’d be stuffed if I lost my phone as I don’t know anyone's number now except my parent’s landline.

I asked for my old friends mobile and said I'd love to surprise her with a little WhatsApp and catch up on how she's doing.

Or

I did initially offer to give her Mum my contact info, but she just gave me my old friends

Which is it? Either way, you seem to believe that this woman owed you a certain type of response, and she didn't. She owed you absolutely nothing. And was probably miffed at her DMum for giving out her number to someone who is for all intents and purposes a complete stranger. Don't do strange things in future and people won't feel the need to literally block you out of their lives, it's that simple.

Back up your contacts then

We met up after 30 yrs. Lovely girl. Keep in touch etc she said. Bit weird as it had fizzled after secondary.. I reached out when her dad died. She let me know what days she off as does agency. Nothing. Agree with replies here prob best leaving it in the past.

Two of my best pals now are girls I was at school with who i got back in touch with/ bumped in to in later life. So it can 'work'.

Best to approach with low expectations though, and not take a rebuff too seriously.

She replies, brief, but pleasant asks how I am etc.

Maybe she didn't fancy the coffee thing, but surely she could have just got around that by being vague and non committal (I can take a hint!)

Take the hint then, you even said her reply was brief but pleasant. Not exactly matching your "blast from the past" energy.

I met an old friend 2nd time the other day. We said to see each other again in New Year. Later she text me the link for meditation we mentioned earlier. Then 2 days later she blocks me on everything. No reason No explanation. I really cant be bothered with such people. Real friends dont do that. Thats my experience. Blocking a friend for No reason is lack of respect or feeling for them. But if it happens from a fall out. Then at least you know why. Its No good keep chasing people and wasting your time and energy on someone who is not interested. Better to be with genuine friends then fake ones.

Quote: It was the 3rd time I met that friend not 2nd as I stated above. I cant seem to "edit" it. Thinking back now of meeting her. I didnt have a good time at all. Would been better off sitting at home in the warm. I had a better time yesterday around my local church with strangers. Says it all really. Unfortunately most humans are not honest. Thats why its a miserable society nowadays..Friends dump friends. Friend use friends. Friends can also be condescending or they got the big job, money think they are better then you. Then there are a few friends who are kind and genuine. It takes alsorts...Take care...