MIL only one not to say my baby looks like me

[TheAquaFawn]

My MIL never says my baby looks like me. Everyone else - friends, family, strangers, says he’s the spit of me but I noticed she stays quiet and only comments that he looks like her son / my DH and at a push, that he looks like both of us. It’s starting to annoy me, and wonder whether it’s a slight at me, am I being silly? DH isn’t insecure at all that people say he looks more like me and joins in.

In the unlikely event that this is real, don't be a dick. Babies all just basically look like babies.

Just ignore her. I had the same. The baby came out of you - she can never compete so just ignore her. Or if you want some fun, keep on commenting how everyone says you and the baby look alike.

But she is correct because blonde is a recessive trait (broadly, don't come at me geneticists), so for your child to be blonde they need to inherit that trait from your husband too.

When my children were born I thought they were the most beautiful babies imaginable, but looking at photos of them many years later, they looked like any other babies...

It may well be that she wants to see a connection to her in the baby. She loves her grandchild, she's reminiscing about her own children, there's nice reasons behind why she might be saying this.

None of my husband's family say my baby looks like me even though she's the spitting image of me and everyone else says it. We figure they're trying to be nice to my husband.

It doesn't bother me. I think it's kind of sweet that they try to spare his feelings at having a baby that looks absolutely nothing like him. The child was conceived via IVF so I'm in the clear 😅

Maybe she's deliberately trying to be horrible to you. Is that what you want people to say?

That is MIL for you. Just ignore and learn to laugh at it

I’d reply when anyone says any of my kids looks like so and so “they look like themselves” it really doesn’t matter, you know he’s your child. Doesn’t matter.

As gently as possible YABU, she sees her DC, who she knew as a baby, in her DGC. She didn't see you as a baby so she doesn't see you in the baby as strongly. Please don't take it personally. If you have DGC in the future you will probably look at them and see your own DC as a baby in them too. Xx

You're being silly. Maybe your baby does look more like you but he will look like your DH too and your MIL remembers what DH was like as a baby better than anyone- maybe to her he just really does look like DH?

Why?

I thought all babies looked like their dads? An evolutionary throwback thing so they know the child is theirs and it triggers instincts to look after them. Meanwhile no one could doubt who mum is. I can't produce any research papers to back me up mind.
I'd say until 4 or 5 my DD mainly looked like her dad, with echoes of my younger sister when she was little. But I would spot them, because I remember my sister little and obviously wasn't looking at myself all day to recall me as a child.
As others have said, your MIL knows what her son looked like as a baby compared to your child.

I was never so insecure that everyone should say babies looked like me. None of them did.

My dad told me that my daughter looks like William Haig, and everyone else tells me how much she looks like her dad (who is most definitely not William Haig) 😂. I wasn’t offended or upset by it because all babies look like potato’s for the first while. Let her and your husband have this one. It’s likely she is just trying to connect with the newest member of her family.

MiLs are not allowed to have any connection with their sons children on MN.

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YABU, perhaps she doesn't see it?!

My sister apparently looks like an aunt of ours, I've never seen the resemblance and think she looks like someone else on our father's side but I never mention it because it's clear lots of others think otherwise but I see what I see.

Just enjoy your baby, they change quite a lot in the first year so take lots of pictures.

I once read something along the lines of it being hard-wired into the father’s side of the family to look for confirmation that the child belongs to their son, because it could, technically, be any man’s child. The mother, of course, is never in doubt!

A prime example of someone looking to be offended. Does it really matter??

I didn't think our baby looked like either of why on earth does it matter? Do you think your baby was born of another woman and you were asleep at the time? No? Then seriously if this is the only thing you have to worry about then good

Our 3 children all look like my husband. I mean really like little clones of him, from day 1. I just did all the heavy lifting and birthed them. I’ve had a few
comments that they look like me, people being kind I think. But honestly, I dated my husband initially because he was handsome, so I’ve no problem at all that the children favour him. Someone once asked me if it upsets me that no one looks like me. Can’t say it’s ever bothered me.

My MIL used to do that too. "He is the spit of his daddy", "he's so clever just like his daddy".........I try not to take any notice.

I find it quite amusing. Both DM & MIL used to say each child, from the moment they were born, looked like great aunt Doris or their great, great, grandfather or some other random relative. Even now DM rabbits on about DD looking like certain relatives & drags out the photo album. I don't see the resemblance, but for some reason they are all desperate to claim looks ownership.

Maybe it's a biological thing. I just enjoy the show and if asked who I think they look like I just say 'themselves'.

When I was a child I had people tell me I looked just like my mother, and just like my father, two days apart. People see different things, and honestly I've never been able to pick who a baby resembled. You are being silly to waste one second thinking about this, why would you even care?