Boyfriend has just unveiled an awful mustache?

[Celia24]

My boyfriend has a nice short beard with I suppose a mustache included but you don't really notice it.

He asked me a while ago how I'd feel about a mustache and I said I wouldn't be crazy about it and wouldn't really find it attractive.

Well today he told me he had a surprise for me for November. He's just sent me a photo - he's shaved off his beard and fashioned this god awful mustache. I dont like it and it immediately gives me the ick.

He's clearly looking for a compliment but I bloody hate it. AIBU?

@Needmorelego some people actually pull it off because their old fashioned style matches. I still wouldn't date them.

His style is not like this so looks more ridiculous.

I was thinking this. If you’d always fancied hair extensions or a pixie cut, or having long, colourful nails or fake eyelashes?

Everyone Most ppl on here would be telling you he was being a controlling fucker and you shouldn’t let any man dictate your clothing or other style choices. The fact that a lot of women don’t like moustaches is irrelevant - they’re naturally more likely to support you bc they themselves find them repulsive and wouldn’t want their OH to have one either.

If a man was posting on a predominantly male forum saying his gf had sent a pic of herself with those massive drawn on/laminated fake-looking eyebrows that were all the fashion a few years ago there would probably be loads of men on there agreeing how bizarre they look, as it was a fashion mainly for other women (as a lot of female fashion is) and a large number of men didn’t find it at all attractive and couldn’t understand why they were doing it.

Do moustaches ever look good? No.

Just hope it’s temporary.

I felt this way when an ex shaved off his beard (it was a short beard)

I was shocked how unattractive I found him thankfully he felt he looked better with a beard and I enthusiastically agreed

Oh I don’t know Tom Selleck 🥰🥰🥰🥰

He dyed it white?! Why would he do that?! 😂

God the double standards on here astound me sometimes.

If my dp told me he found hair I naturally grown on my body 'repulsive', he would no longer be a dp.

Same as my partner's. After reconsidering, I've just asked him to trim his right down. We kissed and it felt like actual spiders on my top lip

That is completely the exception to the rule. Also Big Tom S.

Meanwhile I'm on Ep7 and waiting for Danny Dyers to drop off.

@AdviceNeeded2024 he was experimenting with different colours.
He goes to football and watches various different teams so was doing it to match the team colours.
The white was odd.....

Those are your standards, not double standards.

I don't mind if a loved one states a preference.

If a man come on saying his wife's whatever, repulsed him, then he'd be pulled up on it.

Thank god someone finally said this!

It's his face he can do what he likes. You don't get to have a problem with him having/wanting a mustache just because you told him it was unattractive as if that is a carte blanche he just can't have one then because you said so.

If he tried to tell you what to do with your appearance everyone on here would be calling for blood in the vein if how dare he tell you how to dress/groom whatever!

I think it’s disingenuous to say you have to fancy your DP however they look because you love them.

I love my DP but when he shaved his beard off I felt like I was in a room with a stranger and felt tearful. Whether that’s ridiculous or not, that’s not how my DP wants me to feel. He wouldn’t do it again.

I could list hundreds of things I wouldn’t want him to do with his hair, clothes or body.

We have both expressed preferences.

He told me doesn't like a particular hairstyle of mine. If I proceeded to wear it more often, I wouldn't then expect him to find me as attractive.

@BalletCat I haven't told him to do anything. I've expressed a preference and said I find them unattractive. He's ignored that. His prerogative but there are consequences.

👏🏻

@K0OLA1D no I definitely HAD to tell my husband his goatie looked ridiculous and like Gary Glitter and it was repulsive. 😂
Couples in a good relationship should be able to be honest with each other about these things.

I've had dreads, shaved head, under cut, pixie cut, all colours and sure he told me he preferred it such and such way, but if he were to say I repulsed him? Nah. I'd be done.

Is it a Tom Selleck?

Yep.

Maybe he's auditioning for Rivals?

Maybe you should insist on a video call in case he's Photoshopped the pic for a joke.

I wish. But no. Its very real.

Facial pube topiary is temporary, easily changed, and carries no health risks.
(unlike many female facial fashion modifiers)

Talk to him.

Grow one yourself.