Boyfriend has just unveiled an awful mustache?

[Celia24]

My boyfriend has a nice short beard with I suppose a mustache included but you don't really notice it.

He asked me a while ago how I'd feel about a mustache and I said I wouldn't be crazy about it and wouldn't really find it attractive.

Well today he told me he had a surprise for me for November. He's just sent me a photo - he's shaved off his beard and fashioned this god awful mustache. I dont like it and it immediately gives me the ick.

He's clearly looking for a compliment but I bloody hate it. AIBU?

Years ago I had an ex shave everything off and it was weird and not so attractive. But I coped.

The pornographic mustache is different.

Don’t go anywhere near him and when he tries to kiss/sleep with you say no thanks it’s a huge turn off for me!

As someone suggested, say “see you in December”

Which style is it like OP… I’m guessing the Chevron?

@Celia24

calm down love. He's probably just doing Movember & using it to wind you up. A bit immature, but hey ho.

Don't over think it. Play along with it for 4 weeks. If it's still there on Sunday the 1st of December, tell him it's gone by Monday morning or he is. (If you haven't grown to love it!!)

a million years ago when it was a new thing, I was living overseas from my Dad & mid Nov he video called (dial up on laptop!!) me with this proper big fat moustache, I was shocked he had been 'monks hair' for years by then I was shocked & thought it looked dreadful!! After about an hour he told me about Movember & his intention to get rid on 1st Dec. I think if he hadn't my Mum would have done it for him.

i don't think it's shallow. Looks come into it for most people. Very rare not to care about how physically attractive your partner is to YOU.

I don't like thin men, I do like a nice 6 pack & am also attracted to a Dad Bod. I don't mind a man bun on the right man, but if my 60yo bloke suddenly decided to grow his hair he'd be told instantly to stop being so daft. Likewise if I started dying my hair like a 🦜 I'd expect him to say the same. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

I get the view that it's your body/ hair you can do what you want with it, but you can't make your partner stick around if they hate it.

@AdviceNeeded2024 it's a cross between the Walrus and the Horseshoe.

Truly awful.

😳 Oh No!!! The worst two 🫣

I’d be turned off by it as well to be fair, very ‘I’ve come to fix the fridge’ 70’s porno.

@Celia24 could you accidentally set fire to it?
Or spill a bottle of Veet on it while he is sleeping?

@AdviceNeeded2024 his uncle had a similar mustache before he died. I feel like he's doing it in tribute or something. If he actually is for a month I can cope.

Beyond that...no.

Maybe he’s just winding you up and is aware of how ridiculous he looks?

Did you reply yet?

Maybe watch Aidan Turner in Rivals and see if you can get on board with it first. I’ve re-evaluated my position on terrible moustaches after watching 😅

@OriginalUsername2 yes I've asked him if he's doing it for Movember.

Now I wait...

@Nosleepforthismum I'm actually in love with Aidan Turner but that's beside the point.

A friend just recommended Rivals to me, so I should find out!

He wants to keep the ‘tache legacy going… I know where you are coming from I love a well groomed beard or stubble but I don’t think most men (not all, some can) can carry a moustache off… especially not a big thick one!

Have you told him you would prefer him to grow his stubble back by the end of November?

"Oh darling, is that for Mo-vember? How funny that Mo-vember coincides with No-sex-vember!"

You guys love each other for your personalities right? Just thought I would check……

@Westofeasttoday personalities are one thing.
Tache's are.....a totally different league 😂

If you really hate it but don’t want to say it again, tell him it’s okay, but that you love the beard, and want him to grow it back.

Must admit I saw that video of Timothee Chalamet showing up at the lookalike contest - and he's got this mousey little moustache that is really unattractive (I assume it's for a role).

OP I agree with PPs who say you should reply with something like, 'haha very funny, roll on 1st December'

It's his choice not yours.

He replied 'nah not for Movember, I was just thinking about my uncle as inspiration'.

He then said 'it'll make my beard look better when I grow it back in December' so I can only assume he's keeping the monstrosity AND growing the beard back.

Yes! But looks matter a bit.

@Celia24 my husband is going through some kind of midlife fashion crisis - terrible t-shirts, weird necklaces. He even got his stupid ears pierced.
That I can (just about) put up with.
But the weird looking goatie beard that he dyed white. He looked like fricking Gary Glitter.
That HAD to go. And I firmly told him this.
It went.
Thank goodness.

Sorry forgot about the exceptions. Thank goodness they don’t apply to pregnancy weight, grey hair, bad skin breakouts, period bloating, menopause weight, alopecia, braces, glasses etc. 😂

@Westofeasttoday tache's are a sub culture of terrible looks all of their own.
They only look good if they are a fancy handlebar style and the tache owner wears a matching top hat and rides around on a penny farthing (there's a chap in South London who does that....).