Please tell me if I am, honestly I dont know if I am over reacting or not.

[nappynoonoo]

On Wednesday DH and I had DH's best friend and partner over for tea. We were eating our pudding (Choc cake and Ice cream) when DH's best friend reaches over to DD and gives her some ice cream off the end of his spoon.

DD is 5 MO and exclusively BF. So not only is it un hygenic to feed a child from your own spoon, it is also rude to assume I would be ok with this.

I told him not to do that, and he said a little bit wouldn't hurt her. DH also told me to stop being so over protective. DD is my PFB but I really dont think I am being over protective in this situation.
I told them (DH and his friend) that it was not up for discussion. I know DH wants to start spoon weaning DD ASAP. But I want to wait till 6 MO to start BLW.

I have been seething about this since Wednesday. DH's best friend agreed with me that it is un hygenic but also said a little wont hurt DD.
I mean I know a small ammount wont hurt DD, but FGS she is not having anything other than BM until we start BLW.

What do you think? Am I being OTT and over protective with my PFB?

[hobnob]

I've not read the whole thread, but I would also have found it extrememly annoying. I do think the not-having-children thing is significant, though. Pre-DS I once bought my toddler goddaughter some of those bright pink and yellow twisted foam rope sweeties as a 'special treat'. If anyone had subsequently bought these for my DS I would have hidden them a high cupboard in horror(and secretly eaten them myself).

[ellingwoman]

The only thing I find horrifying about this thread is the OP doing all the prep so her husband can feed and change the baby!

You need to stop that NOW. You need to teach him.
He won't do it as well as you BUT he needs to start doing it. God forbid you had to go into hospital or something.

[VeniVidiVickiQV]

oh Almummy - i get that from my mum. "aww are you only giving them water?" like I'm depriving them. She just wont have it that they like, and are happy with water (most of the time).

Oh, and the other one "just add a bit of sugar to get them to eat it - it's what I did with you to get you to drink tea as a baby, and what my mum did to me and it didnt do any harm". Yes, thanks for that mum - that'd be my mum who has hardly any of her own teeth left in her head.

[UppsyDaisy]

that was really rather arrogant of him to argue with you I think, would have made me extremely mad, but being the person I am I would have just seethed and not been able to do anything properly assertive and useful.

[halogen]

No, YANBU, and if my partner had undermined me like that I would have been furious.

I had lots of arguments with my MIL (Oh, can't she just have a bit of sugar on her strawberries? NO, she can't, they're already ripe and sweet and she likes them lots just as they are, you idiot) but if she'd actually gone ahead and given my daughter sugar without asking me I have no idea what I'd have done. I'm not sure I'd still be speaking to her!

[BohemianLilly]

When DD was 5 months my DPs brother took DD into a pub to show her off to his friends (just for 2 mins) and when she came out she puked up, i said 'what have you given her?' he said 'oh, just a bit of WKD blue!!!' ahe had only ever been given breast milk and i was seething!!

So no, yanbu

[Elasticwoman]

Re strawberries for babies: I used to mash them up with a bit of ground rice and drop of boiled water from the kettle.

[cadelaide]

YABU

...but I would have been the same with my first.

Haven't read all thread, sorry.

[halogen]

I just used to chop the strawberries in half and give them to her to gum to death. She loved them (and still does and doesn't need sugar on them).

[nappynoonoo]

Wow, I go away for a few days and find that this thread has taken off.

Thank you to all of you who have posted in reply to my starting this thread. I'm glad to have had a wide range of replies, that is what I wanted.

A lot of you have hit the nail on the head when you said its more about the principle of what he did and of DH's response, than the actual action of what he did.

I know that the ice cream wont hurt her (She didn't have a reaction to it anyway so that was good) But why on earth should he get to give DD her first taste of something other than BM when I am the one doing all the work. I am the one who has had pretty much constant mastitis and thrush for the last couple of months and I am the one with norks like wet bags of sand. I'm doing the hard work I want to reap the benefits, if that makes me unreasonable then I suppose I am.

Yes maybe I was being PFB with regards to hygiene, but even I don't put something in my mouth before giving it to DD, so I really don't want DH's friend doing it.

DH really does do his fair share, he will get up with DD in the night and give her EBM without being asked. Granted DD usually sleeps through, but still....

To those who think DH is hard done by, he really isn't. But why on earth should he get to make the decisions with regards to weaning when I will be the one doing ALL of the work. I will literally have to cook and set out each meal with heating instructions etc for when I am not here. Not that he wont do it if he HAS to, but he would just buy all ready made food. He wants DD to have home made food (as do I) so I will cook and prepare all of her meals as HE (and I) want. So really he is getting a say in it.

[scottishmum007]

I personally wouldn't get upset about it as i'm fairly laid back about weaning and let my son try anything even at 5 mo (he's now 12mo). a little bit of everything does them no harm. however, you are the parent so it's your decision at the end of the day.