Wibu to pull my daughter from certain classes

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My daughter's year 3. I wrote a post recently regarding ADHD.. to cut a long story short, I've been bringing ADHD up to the school since March 2022 but have been dismissed and ignored with it. At parents evening recently, looking through her books, I noticed her English book was simply full of negative, demotivating comments regarding her work. I enter the parents evening meeting, and they start by telling me how good she is at English, with reading level age of 11 and reading comprehension age of 12.
So I asked about the comments in the book, and they go on to list all the signs of ADHD for why she's not finishing her work etc etc and receiving such comments.
I haven't been able to let it go since, I'm absolutely fuming that they've let her struggle and even more so I'm devastated that my daughter is being left to feel shit at recieving such negative comments in a subject she is so highly capable at. She's so sensitive and I have noticed more recently that she gets frustrated and embarrassed now when she's not able to do something right first time. I feel like all of this has to be contributing.

I want to pull her out of her English classes until they accept and support her properly with an ADHD diagnosis.

To add as I think it's relevant, I also have suspected ADHD, and was expelled from a school age 14 following an incident in English class re me not finishing my work on time. I won't let my daughter face what I had to go through.

I have ADHD which has been agreed by the ADHD nurse I had my assessment with. I'm just waiting for a diagnosis.

Also, I'm not sure where you've got that from that I blame the my old school for trying to make me finish the work when I've given absolutely no details on it. You're making a lot of assumptions on my life in your comment.

A nurse would never tell you after an assessment that you gave ADHD. S/he would do the assessment but s/he woukd not make a diagnosis

You also say you've been pursuing this for 4 years but she's only in year 3? So since reception? Gave you thought some of these aspects/traits are just developmental things she needs to learn?

You've still not given any examples of these negative comments

Respectfully you need to work within the system if you choose to have your child educated in the state system. That means engaging with a proper assessment to get a diagnosis. Only then will the school be in a position to offer more support. We are fortunate that we are able to have free assessments to assess our children (it's not perfect but far better than many other countries). You could pay for a private assessment which would speed up the process and it sounds like it would be a great investment for your daughter to really understand what the issue is. Other responses posted all the reasons why pulling her out of lessons is the wrong thing to do and will only make it a bigger issue for her and likely not resolve anything for her. The demand on SENCO resources is running at ridiculous levels, without wishing to offend you I think parents need to take action personally at times and not rely wholly on the sparse resources available or bite the bullet and pay to go private to speed things up. Many won't like that I say that but we have to be realistic and work with what there is and either join the queue with all the other children needing a diagnosis or pay to go private. She is clearly a clever girl and I would focus on what can be done to help her rather than be angry about it. Just my view and from experience of choices I had to make with my own son and schooling.

This does sound like adhd.
My DD was given a wobble cushion which has massively helped her to stay in her seat more.
Before Easter break I had a call with her teacher to discuss the results of the tests the children had done. The teacher was giggly and I knew why.
My DDs results were exemplary and the teacher couldn’t believe how well she had done seeing as my DD seems to not be paying attention, getting up and wandering around, drawing or something else. Or DD wants to tell her something and she just can’t wait to tell her. For some reason DD finds it difficult to wait but is getting better.
Teacher said that my DD is clearly paying attention, it’s just that she doesn’t want to be seated for the whole lesson. It’s not every lesson that DD is like this. It’s not a particular lesson. She doesn’t disrupt the class when she gets up. But the wobble cushion has been a big help for her.

I have adhd too. Diagnosed in July. I’m 47.

She is definitely causing disruption if she is getting up and wandering round during the lesson.

In the beginning (a year ago) some of the kids asked what is she doing and the teacher then dealt with it. They aren’t phased by my DD now plus since she has had the wobble cushion, she remains seated and engaged much more.
At Easter her teacher told me on the phone that she doesn’t disrupt the class. I’m good with that.