9 year old served ‘birthday drinks’ at sleepover

[Calpi]

My daughter recently attended a birthday sleepover. The girls are 9 years old which I thought was slightly on the young side so I was a little hesitant but agreed.

I have just seen some pictures and I really am not happy. The girls were given ‘birthday drinks’. They were only squash and obviously no alcohol was used but they were served in actual plastic flutes. The drink was bright pink with fizzy sweets in the glass but I’m not happy.

The mum in question parents very differently. Her 9 year old gets bought VERY expensive skincare products. And her daughter acts like a
full on teen - we’re talking crop tops, Stanley cups, skincare, TikTok dances, eyeshadow etc. I have been in the girl’s bedroom and she has a dressing table completely covered in drunk elephant etc. The mum is into that overconsumption stuff she sees online. Fine, parent how you want but I want my daughter to have a childhood and to not be adultified.

AIBU in thinking this was massively inappropriate? Why couldn’t they have just made milkshakes or smoothies? Or an ice cream sundae?

Lol have a great day.

I don't do or allow sleepovers because I don't know who else will be spending the night in the unknown house with my child, not because her friend likes makeup or wears crop tops. It's not the other child that's the potential problem.

Nobody agrees with you OP @Calpi

My dd best friend had a full on pamper party age 6. Dd loved it. They had similar drinks. With an 🌂 in it.
Dd still talks about it now a year down the line.
It was things like the face masks. Foot massage , nail Polish. Hand massage . ' hot masks' warm .

She’s gone very quiet. Are you ok OP? Have you clutched your pearls too tightly?

You are unreasonable

I think this is fine.

Don’t let your daughter go to sleepovers if you are likely not to like what happens there, you will just stress yourself out

Yabu.
my dd is 9 and she would love this entire thing. She had “mocktails” on holiday and sometimes asks to put fizzy in a champagne flute…. it’s just a bit of fun.

If I knew someone was being this bitchy about me after I'd hosted their child overnight, I'd be so upset 😞

OP is a f**g idiot. That is all.

Thank fuck 96% of you don't think I'm a terrible parent for giving my 7yo 'pink gin' (watered down fruits of the forest squash with large ice cubes in a gin glass)!

We went to a holiday park in France in the summer and they served kids' mocktails.

DD and Dneice have shloer in a wine glass when my DS comes round and we have a wine.

The HORROR!!!

I still can't get over your outrage over fizzy juice and plastic flutes when you've let your 9 year old have sips of alcohol!

I actually laughed aloud when I read what you were irritated by.

I used to like those candy cigarettes you could buy, that had a red tip like they were alight. Me and my friends used to swan around with them hanging out of the side of our mouths like we were so grown up 🤣🤣.

It never encouraged me to actually smoke.

Whilst I do completely understand your sentiments, this is, in my opinion, a bit of an overreaction. Secondary School will along before you know it.

I bet no other 9 yo there had tried alcohol. I wonder what all the other parents are saying about you.

Even longer for the poor daughter 🤦🏻‍♀️

I’m calling the police

Ha ha my mum used to give that to my daughter and told her it was "Nanny Champagne". They had a great time together 😆

I think OP should be careful another parent doesn’t report her. Go around saying things like this when you give your kid wine at 9 - ain’t good.

You might not be, but a lot of PPs are and are focusing on that rather than the actual issue which is that OP is acting a fool about this whole thing. And judgemental to boot.

To be honest I think OP had already decided to hit the roof before DD even got back, on account of something to do with Stanley Cups and drunk elephants which marks DD's friend out as very much "not her kind of people."

My 9yo recently had a party, squash and soda water with (shock!) flashing 'ice cubes'. They loved it, I await the phone call from social services for my appalling parenting.

Report her to whom?

As much as I think the OP is batshit, it's perfectly legal to give children alcohol from age 5 at home, so there is nowhere to report to that would give a crap.

It’s not about the sips of wine. It’s about the absolute hypocrisy of being annoyed about mocktails because you think they normalize alcohol, while at the same time you’re giving sips of wine!