9 year old served ‘birthday drinks’ at sleepover

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My daughter recently attended a birthday sleepover. The girls are 9 years old which I thought was slightly on the young side so I was a little hesitant but agreed.

I have just seen some pictures and I really am not happy. The girls were given ‘birthday drinks’. They were only squash and obviously no alcohol was used but they were served in actual plastic flutes. The drink was bright pink with fizzy sweets in the glass but I’m not happy.

The mum in question parents very differently. Her 9 year old gets bought VERY expensive skincare products. And her daughter acts like a
full on teen - we’re talking crop tops, Stanley cups, skincare, TikTok dances, eyeshadow etc. I have been in the girl’s bedroom and she has a dressing table completely covered in drunk elephant etc. The mum is into that overconsumption stuff she sees online. Fine, parent how you want but I want my daughter to have a childhood and to not be adultified.

AIBU in thinking this was massively inappropriate? Why couldn’t they have just made milkshakes or smoothies? Or an ice cream sundae?

Are you joking?? Nobody can be this uptight, surely?

Young kids in soft drink shocker

Don't be ridiculous.

Oh, the horror!

Yabu.

9 isn’t young for sleepovers either.

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It’s the concept of birthday drinks and the fact they simulated cocktails. There is all the time in the world for birthday drinks.

Christ Almighty, it's going to be a long few years for you OP

I think serving soft drinks in champagne flutes is rather sweet and fun so I do think YABU.

I used to take photos of my DS pretending to drink his dad/grandads pint - he’s an adult now and tee total.

Youre being ridiculous

Ideally birthdays though, otherwise it's a bit weird

I thought this was going to be very different and they were given alcohol not squash.
I don't understand what the issue is.

Yabu, it sounds cute. You're very judgemental, it's not going to help

YABU

Knowing how differently the parents of the birthday girl are raising their child in comparison to your own style, surely you knew the birthday party would throw up things you might not be comfortable with?

Having fizzy soft drinks in a plastic flute for a birthday really is no big deal.

Fancy glasses are fine. If you really, really want to overthink it (which it appears you do), then comfort yourself with the fact that your 9 year old is being taught that soft drinks can come in as fancy and celebratory fashion as can alcohol.

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You're right to be concerned, it's well known that drinking juice with sweets in it is the start of a life of vice.

Good grief.
Me and my friends made drinks like that in circa 1983 😂
(milkshakes were nesquik and smoothies hadn't been invented back then......)

I thought this was going to be about actual alcohol…

My kids had mocktails off a kids menu recently, little umbrellas, fancy straws and an unholy amount of e numbers. I really don’t think it’s going to turn them in to underage alcoholics.

So they were served soft drinks at a kids sleepover? Shocker!

Surely this is a joke?! Your upset that your daughter had fizzy drink/cordial/lollies in a plastic cup at a friends birthday party?? I really don’t see how this is any issue unless there are actual allergies or dietary requirements the mum didn’t adhere to. I would let my 5 year old have a drink like this for a friends party. You really need to loosen up, I thought I was quite uptight but this takes the cake.

😂😂😂😂

You are kidding right?

As long as the kids were aware of the sweets (choking was a big worry of mine) really don’t see the issue.
Why is one shaped glass somehow more deviant than another?

😂😂😂 this.

Your daughter wouldn’t know that it’s simulating a cocktail though would she? Does she even know what a cocktail is? So not glorifying alcohol imo. It’s just a fun drink

FGS lighten up. They were drinking soft drinks, not passing around a crack pipe

Her style is very different. I wouldn't like it either, but you've been the biggest influence on your DD's life and will be for a couple more years yet, so don't stress about pretend "grown up" drinks.