To think the modern obsession with people's height is crazy?

[HeightObession]

NC for this.

So, I'm aware this might be an unpopular opinion, but hopefully I'm not the only one who thinks like this.

I was talking to a friend this morning who is OLD at the moment. She was telling me about a guy she'd recently met and had been getting to know. Generally everything was positive - he was kind, funny, they had a lot in common...but the deal breaker? He was 5 ft 10. To her, that was "too short", so she's not progressing things any further. Okay, chances are there were other things that she's not told me about, but am I being unreasonable to think rejecting someone purely on height is totally crazy and superficial?

But she won't be the only one. It seems quite a modern thing that people are obsessed with other people's height. Some will reject a man for being 5 foot 10, but be perfectly happy with someone who is 5 foot 11. And to me, it just seems so trivial - because ultimately, your height has no bearing on who you are as a person, and it is purely a gene lottery what height you are. Most men are the same height they were after reaching puberty 15, 20+ years ago.

And splitting hairs over such a small difference in height just seems bizarre. Can you visually picture the difference between someone is 5 foot 10, and someone who is 5 foot 11? I certainly can't.

I know men often get criticised on OLD for lying about their height, but I feel like these days it's cause and effect. If people didn't reject people over something so superficial, and in many cases over such a small difference in height, then men would be less likely to lie about it, don't you think?

I'm 5'3 and I prefer taller men. Its not a deal breaker for me though, but a strong preference.

I have a lot of hang ups about my height as a woman who is in her mid 40s at 5'9. I just remember being not only one of the tallest girls, but also taller than a lot of the boys and also about being a size 14 at 16yrs. I felt like I was super huge at the time. Now I meet women all the time my age and the same height as me.
Today, my boyfriend is about an inch taller than me and it makes no difference at all, but that one inch is enough for me. My children are also taller than my boyfriend and I. I feel my daughters height these days is far more accepted, I do honestly think these things can shape us into the adults we are today.

Are you my ex?

You sound like a real charmer either way. 🙄

That’s my point though. It’s alright to pile on to short men in these threads, but overweight women are off limits?

I might need to take a leaf out of her book

I find this so annoying- leave the tall men for us tall women please!

Look on the bright side - the more men she ignores for silly reasons the more likely others are to find a good man

OLD at the moment?
I assume you don't mean OLD and it's an acronym for something. Googled it and nothing came up.

On line dating

I'm 5ft 1. My ex was 6ft 2. Someone said at the time that I should have "left him for the tall women". I didn't know he was that tall until I met him. I didn't expect to fall in love!

Theoretically I would date a man who was shorter than me. Realistically, I've never met one.

Thanks.
I wondered if it was old lady dating.😄

You can't just judge someones lifestyle or how healthy they are visually though- I know two gym girls who visually look very strong and healthy, but they excercise so much they don't get periods, and one has been unable to get pregnant.
A lot of gorgeous skinny party girls eat very little or take too many drugs.

I'm 5'2 and personally prefer tall men, my OH is 6'1 but height wouldn't be a dealbreaker for me.

I personally don't like men to be too tall. Not sure why, but I find it off-putting.

It’s not evolutionary, it’s gender stereotyping. Most depictions of heterosexual couples have the man a lot taller than the woman. Evolutionary would be fight to the death, which thank god is frowned upon now.

Look at how women and men are stereotyped in terms of fashions. From the Botticelli curves, to the Kate Moss skinny, to the more muscular toned aesthetic now. Same with men, they fluctuate from hairy and rugged, to slim and androgynous. It’s not particularly evolutionary, it’s what whoever chooses to put in the media.

People like who they like, they’re influenced by society, but I think it works both ways in terms of men and women wanting a particular characteristic. And, it works itself out, the ‘shallow’ people (if you want to call them that) will find their tribe, and those who focus less on particular characteristics will find theirs.

Im 5ft 6
I prefer tall men so at least 5-10 -6ft
I don’t want to be taller than my partner in heels

My DH is 6ft 3 so perfect height for me I can wear my highest heels and not tower over him

All my partners have been around 6ft plus

And even though he’s 6ft 3 he said he wouldn’t date someone who is tall like him

so it’s not just women that have a preference on height

Most people are dicks. I'm under 5 foot. People forever comment on my height; they like to let me know I'm small.

I'd date whoever. Tyrion from GoT to Aragorn from LOTRs.

And to one of the posters-short man syndrome is offensive, especially to people from different heritages who are not genetically tall.

Exactly this. OLD is a strange, modern thing, where you specify what you are looking for. IRL (as we all know) it's not like that at all

If people didn't reject people over something so superficial, and in many cases over such a small difference in height, then men would be less likely to lie about it, don't you think?

So women are to blame for men lying? Nice one, @HeightObession

I think it’s just what you find attractive surely? When I was OLD I went on a few dates with men the same height as me (5ft6) as it wasn’t a big deal, but I have to admit I do like it when a man is a bit taller than me. Both my long term relationships have been men over 6ft - I just prefer taller men. Same as some people prefer brown hair, skinny people, blue eyes etc. it’s a preference, we’re allowed to have them.

It's not a modern obsession. I'm 64 and a smidgen off 5ft 9 (unless I've shrink - possible at my age, I guess).

I spent my childhood with other mothers asking my mum 'Has she not stopped growing yet?'

I don't think that I'm that tall, but one of my nicknames at secondary school was 'Giraffe'.

When I was at uni, I had male students claiming that I was 6ft tall. Their "proof" was the fact that they were 5ft 9...

No. They were not.

It’s not a modern obsession.

I also don’t care about women’s dating preferences. Men will exclude entire ethnic groups without a second thought. If a woman wants to shrink her dating pool but not considering men of a certain height it only impacts her. Leave her be.

Also men don’t lie because of women being “superficial”. They lie due to entitlement. And that should never be sympathised with.

Also men will reject women for all manner of physical things they dislike. I see no reason why women should be held to a different standard.

This. It’s so pathetic watching women cape for men falling foul of women’s superficiality. As if men don’t pick women for their looks every single day.

Somebody pity the poor men - only they should get to be superficial!

I have no hair or eye colour preference - none that would cause me to rule a man out anyway. It’s the overall package I notice.

If it’s non negotiable, it’s a requirement,not a preference.