Do all men cheat?

[yungnluv]

I found out my boyfriend of 6 years cheated on me a year ago and I genuinely mean this wholeheartedly it's the last thing in the world I thought he'd ever do to me. He was mad about me, adored the ground I walked on, showed he loved me everyday, he talked about marrying me every single day and starting a family. Talked about growing grey and old together. He would cry because he loved me so much. Would regularly bring me flowers , plan date nights and he genuinely made me feel like the most loved girl in the world the whole 6 years.

When I found out, shocked wasn't even the word.

And I'm sure there's women out there now who would say "my husband would never ever do that to me" and this is scary because I said the exact same thing.

It's an awful question but do most men cheat? Why do they cheat? Have you been cheated on before?

Disgusting. Ruins life's and family's. 💔

No.

I know women have affairs, too - but not on this scale, and not as causally as man usually do it.

So who are these (straight) men having all these causal affairs with?

I think its something to do with their testosterone, tbh, and it seems like its something they find hard to control.

Ugh.

There are usually quite a few steps between seeing an available person who is not your wife, and ending up naked in bed with them. Men can 'control' themselves at any point along the way. It's just that some of them choose not.

This is where my life is right now too. I'm so sorry you are living it too.

No

’He would cry because he loved me so much’ That’s … unusual.

But to answer your question, of course not. Also, some women cheat too. You just can never know really if someone could cheat. Sometimes temptation is very difficult to resist.

That's because divorce is less taboo and people don't stay in abusive or unhappy marriages anywhere near as much as the 'olden days' .

A husband cheating was often seen as him not being looked after well enough at home, and not spoken about. Certainly not a reason for divorce.

This.

My ex-inlaws hated each other but still stayed married for 55+ years. Everyone on the outside thought they had a great marriage. In reality, he had an affair 20 years into their marriage, and got them into £20k worth of debt which MIL spent thirty years paying off.

Now, nobody would put up with that would they?

Yes, and the social taboo would have been particularly strong for women, who initiate the majority of divorces.

So who are these (straight) men having all these causal affairs with? - Usually single much younger females, like, doh. I probably should have specified "married women" in my first senesce.

Re: man "controlling themselves" - I think for a lot of men the urge is too much to handle. Lots of them literally slaves to their cocks. In addition, a lot of males grow up with a massive sense of entitlement and expect to have whatever they want without any consequence.

Usually single much younger females

Your average middle aged married man is not at all attractive to "single much younger females". What exactly is an unattached young woman getting from an affair with such a man?

Have you any evidence for your claim or is it just a cliche you're repeating?

Re: man "controlling themselves" - I think for a lot of men the urge is too much to handle. Lots of them literally slaves to their cocks.

Sorry, no. You're just making excuses for male infidelity. 'Urges' can always be controlled if the will is there. And as I said, you have to go through quite a few steps before doing the deed, so it's not like it's just giving in to a momentary impulse.

In addition, a lot of males grow up with a massive sense of entitlement and expect to have whatever they want without any consequence.

That I agree with.

Have you any evidence for your claim or is it just a cliche you're repeating?

Yes, my research papers are in the post. You should receive it next week.