Do all men cheat?

[yungnluv]

I found out my boyfriend of 6 years cheated on me a year ago and I genuinely mean this wholeheartedly it's the last thing in the world I thought he'd ever do to me. He was mad about me, adored the ground I walked on, showed he loved me everyday, he talked about marrying me every single day and starting a family. Talked about growing grey and old together. He would cry because he loved me so much. Would regularly bring me flowers , plan date nights and he genuinely made me feel like the most loved girl in the world the whole 6 years.

When I found out, shocked wasn't even the word.

And I'm sure there's women out there now who would say "my husband would never ever do that to me" and this is scary because I said the exact same thing.

It's an awful question but do most men cheat? Why do they cheat? Have you been cheated on before?

Disgusting. Ruins life's and family's. 💔

I'm a firm believer that many people cheat because the opportunity presents itself. Modern life has more of those opportunities. People who are protective of their marriages and want to stay faithful to their partners avoid opportunities that could lead to cheating.

Some people are more likely to cheat, due to many factors, so those people need to be honest with themselves, work on themselves and be hyper vigilant in staying away from temptation.

Most of the cheating men I've known of (and there are a lot) have been cheating with single women. Not all, but most.

In my experience in an affair, usually one of the parties is single

I would NEVER say my husband would never do that on me because I don't ever know that for sure ! I've a good idea he wouldn't.

I'm with him 18 years and am 98% sure he never has and probably never will but I'd never say he would NEVER do that on me as u never know what unusual situation may present itself

Sorry this happened to you. Some men will cheat some won’t - same can be said for women too

Honestly?

The only man I have know not to cheat is my brother. My dad did, my grandad, uncles, friends, close neighbours and my EXdh.

It's made me look at them differently, I don't trust them at all. Especially after I became single and was incredibly fragile and heartbroken but that didn't stop married men coming onto me.

I will never live with a man or get close enough for him to destroy me like that again.

When it comes to sex there are significant differences in the behaviour of the sexes. How many men have you known that complain that women on dating sites are only after sex and keep sending unsolicited pictures of their genitals? What is the comparison between the number of women who have recieved unwanted sexual attention compared with men? Who've been sexually assaulted? How many of your sons have been leered at or catcalled in their school uniforms by women? Are there many middle aged women leaving their husband and children and marrying the young lad in the office? Mail order husbands? A huge sex industry aimed at women who want to pay to watch male strippers and have sex with prostitutes?
Yet when we discuss one form of sexual behaviour, the extra marital kind, suddenly we are pretending that men and women are EXACTLY THE SAME!!

No all men dont cheat. My father did, which many were shocked about at the time. It is true you can't 100% predict.

But the last thing in the world I expect is DH to cheat. He is extremely socially awkward, spends all his time at home, doesn't have many friends etc

There is no inclination or frankly opportunity.

My husband can't lie to save his life...every little thing he does I know about, even attempts at a nice surprise present or bunch of flowers. He's also not the cheating type. I know I sound naive saying that but after 25 years I think I know best

My experience is different - including myself. Both parties always married.

Yes, that was my experience when I was married and now that I'm not. Far more "interest" from married men.

No, I’ve been married twice, over 50 years, and I don’t think (am really sure), that neither cheated. 🤷‍♀️

No not all men will cheat but everyone and anyone has the capacity to. It’s foolish to believe 100% that someone “never would”. I don’t think I will, I don’t think my partner will, we trust each other, but who knows? Neither of us are planning to as far as I’m aware but it’s not unheard of for anyone to do something out of character.

I believe anyone can cheat given the right circumstances.

My feelings exactly. A lot of women think there's a "type" (wearing sports jackets and driving open top cars no doubt) but there really isn't. I'm not saying most men would have an affair but I do think the vast majority would drop their trousers on the sly if they thought they'd get away with it - whether happily married or not.

Not all men cheat imo

'More than a few men go their entire life without the slightest opportunity to cheat, attractive to no one but their partners (if they're lucky) so no, not all will cheat because for many the chance would be a fine thing.'

Totally agree. Sadly, given the opportunity and if they believe they can get away with it I'd guess many would. Throw in extra dynamics like sexless relationships and separate bedrooms and the 'many' would then become most.

"Do all women cheat?" Nobody asks that question when there are plenty of women that cheat too. Who do you think these men are cheating with? It's not always single women!

I really lost my faith in men when one of my male friends was completely heartbroken over his wife leaving him for another man - he was almost suicidal, cried, and everyone was talking how much he loved her and adored her. He seemed lovely, meek, quiet and decent. Like, the perfect family man. Everyone supported him.

Later, I found out he had a new GF - when I asked another friend where he met her (as he was not going out much and basically not socialising), it transpired they had an affair when he was married. She was someone from his squash class. But it went nowhere as he loved his ex wife so much.... FFS

How despicable! Men (many not all perhaps) just have this ability to compartmentalise. I've known the most unlikeliest suspects cheat. The nice ones, whose spouse believes 'would never do it'.

I actually think it’s more about opportunity in a lot of cases. I think most people would say “I would never cheat” ….. until they do because the opportunity has arisen.

I think the number of people actively going out of their way to find sex outside a relationship are actually probably very low.

I know women have affairs, too - but not on this scale, and not as causally as man usually do it.

I think the issue here is most man only go by who they "would do" - and its usually A LOT of people, because they hardly ever take anything other than sexual attraction into consideration - and sometimes not even that!

I also have the impression that women, as a rule, stop looking at men around them as potential partners once they pair up and happy - their "rowing eye" is sort of switched off/ dimmed so very often they would miss when someone shows interest or they would project vibes of not being interested or available.

Men, on the other hand, never stop and they are constantly checking out other females around them, consciously or subconsciously looking for an opportunity or a sign of interest - and most act as soon as they see their chance. I think its something to do with their testosterone, tbh, and it seems like its something they find hard to control.

Edited for clarity and spelling))