Should I shag the 25 year old

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NC for obvious reasons.

Long story short, I'm 6 months out of an abusive marriage. Not in any way ready to date or for a relationship, I'm still far too hurt to even contemplate that. But I do miss sex.

Last week, a guy randomly approached me and gave me his number. We've chatted a bit, it turns out he's 10 years younger than me. From his messages, I get the impression he's only after one thing.

I'm really, really tempted. I could really do with a good shag. But I'm also worried it could go horribly wrong and leave me feeling terrible. So, please help me decide. WIBU to shag the 25 year old?!

It would have been gross if I’d done anything about it but guess what? I didn’t.

I said I don't think 25 is horrific it was the 34 year old shagging a 20 year old and others agreeing that I find gross

It's not about doing anything about it I'm struggling to understand why so many middle aged women are attracted to teenage boys and not just seeing a child when they look at someone in that age group

I think there are women who believe no decent man would be sexually attractive to women significantly younger than them.
I'll be honest, I find that naive and a bit delusional.
I think they can be potentially attracted to any female post puberty; but no decent man would indulge it or act on it if he's significantly older, she's below a certain age etc.

When I was in my late teens and even early 20s, I looked very young. No decent men over about 25 came on to me. Only young men around my age, or older creeps.

I wouldn’t personally. I’m the same age as you. My sister is 10 years younger than me. Her boyfriend and friends seem so young to me that it would give me the ick. Maybe I’d feel differently if I didn’t mingle with 25 years olds!!

When guys randomly approach strange women to give them their numbers, it's usually part of a pickup game. Could be about just any woman, could be about "bagging" and older woman. You may have been filmed in the street and he may be filming your replies to him.

As long as you're fine with all of that, do whatever you feel like.

Just what you need after a divorce a bit of fun and endorphins

You keep reducing the age for effect lol.

It started comparing 20 and 40 (or 20s and 40s), then it was late teens and early 20s, now it's just teens.

He approached her where he works, she was a customer ...which makes it a bit different.

I also initially thought he was doing pick up industry stuff.

Iv been talking about a 34 year old sleeping with a 20 year old all along. Then a poster is saying they've been sexually attracted to their friends sons and I asked are you talking about 16/17 year olds or younger and she said its ok if you don't do anything about it

Because they have eyes. They are not talking about boys with undeveloped children's bodies. An attractive man is an attractive man. It doesn't matter if he is 18 or 80. There is nothing weird about noticing it. You don't seem to understand that there is a difference between finding someone attractive and wanting to bang them.

Go for it!! I did at your age. I had sex with a young man and it was wonderful. He had a very large appendage!! If it will make you feel better do it.
Just make sure you tell him that's all you want. I did and didn't see him again.

I think its because I was sa and groomed as a teenager by older men I became pregnant at 15 by an older man. Now I look at 15 year olds and see children and how disgusting it really was. Like at what point is a cut off a 34 year old shagging a 20 year old but then why not a 19 year old barely any different so why not an 18 year old etc etc. Then a poster on here agreeing she's sexually attracted to her friends teenage sons. And the fact so many are agreeing and normalising finding teenagers and early 20 year olds sexually attractive. I just don't get it

Go for it if it's what you want to do. You're both adults. I recently went on a walk and kissed a guy that is 15 years older than me. I dont even think about his age, we just get on.

But she’s not interested in your boyfriend, so your back is fine…

I'm sorry that was your experience. I had a similar experience so I know it does change your perspective on things. But people here aren't talking about grooming young people. They're not talking about underage teenagers. No one here is looking at a 15-year-old boy and thinking they want to bang him. There is also a difference in the way men pray on girls. Their age is part of the attraction. That isn't what people here are talking about. They are simply talking about looks. The majority of 20-year-olds look like the adults they are. The ones that don't aren't the ones people are talking about. It is not their age that makes them attractive.

Nope. Not a good idea. Don’t do it.

You do realise that you are a teenager, dating a full adult? How long have you been together? Did he know you when he was 18 and you a child?

Then a poster on here agreeing she's sexually attracted to her friends teenage sons.

I said I used to be. Those teenage sons are now in their late 40s!

Do these teenage sons now have teenagers of their own that you fancy

Politely, please do one 🙂

Politely, no, I'll continue to challenge posters who are just unpleasant for the sake of it, as you have been.

Don’t be ridiculous. You’re obsessed.

I've thought a bit more about what I'd consider okay vs creepy, and my conclusion is someone age 16 is okay with up to maybe age 21, 17/18 up to 24/25 and after 21 you're all adults and can have whatever gap you like.

I maintain that freaking out about who a 25 year old adult has sex or a relationship with is insane.

😂😂

Are you genuinely concerned that this may be your boyfriend because he is also 25?

You said you found your friends teenage sons sexually attractive before so why is it now ridiculous