Should I shag the 25 year old

[NotmyrealNC]

NC for obvious reasons.

Long story short, I'm 6 months out of an abusive marriage. Not in any way ready to date or for a relationship, I'm still far too hurt to even contemplate that. But I do miss sex.

Last week, a guy randomly approached me and gave me his number. We've chatted a bit, it turns out he's 10 years younger than me. From his messages, I get the impression he's only after one thing.

I'm really, really tempted. I could really do with a good shag. But I'm also worried it could go horribly wrong and leave me feeling terrible. So, please help me decide. WIBU to shag the 25 year old?!

I agree with this men look better with age and lose their weedy baby faced looks. But then I'm an adult who likes men and not boys

When you hit 30 imo

The majority of men most definitely do not look better with age imho.

I don’t think the age difference is huge at that age. As we get older the difference lessens. I have a friend with a partner over 10 years younger and it’s great. At 25 his brain has finished developing. He’s not in anyway a child and presumably not vulnerable.

if you are worried about leading him on then be honest and up front. You have just come out of an abusive marriage. You definitely don’t want a relationship. You are not sure if you want anything physical because you are still a bit raw from it all but would like to meet him to get to know him better while you figure that out. Said matter of fact, no need to open yourself up emotionally.

And if it feels right make sure you are safe. STI safe and physically safe - may be let a good friend know what’s going on and have your phone close with a code word or phrase you can text her if you need help. Then have fun!!

If at any point you change your mind then that’s fine. You can let him know you may ‘bottle it’ if you want to so he is pre warned, but even if you don’t it is your right to change your mind and pull out at ANY point. You can do it kindly so he knows it’s not a ‘him’ thing, but if you need to stop, stop. He should be fine with that.

I think that’s a bit ridiculous. A five year difference is nothing. Would you say the same to and 40 year old and a 35 year old? Or an 80 year old and a 75 year old.

At 25 your brain is fully developed. You are a fully fledged adult.

Under 25 and it needs more careful thought.

But it's obviously personal preference I look at a 20 year old and see a 12 year old I like men to look like grown men that is what I'm attracted to

@lololulu no, if anything he looked older. He's a body builder and at the time had a side job as a topless waiter 🤷🏻‍♀️

This is a 20 year old actor and a 40 year old actor I don't understand how grown middle age women are more attracted to a 20 year old. Chris Hemsworth looks so much to better as he looks like a man and not a boy

Definitely do as this poster says. Have your phone close in the event this sweet man is a rapist or worse. You may just save your life. The risk is worth it for an exciting no ties.'shag' with a total stranger,especially when you find out his favourite fetish is tying you up. All very exciting.🙄

Some men still look better than people half their age when older ime. The lucky ones are those who don't lose any of their hair. But most men have already receding hair by their late 20s.

No that's gross

1 - he's not a 'poor boy' - he's a 25 year old adult.
2 - he gave you his number (not the other way around
3 - you are definitely over thinking this.

Go for it. Use protection but go for it. You both want the sex so go for it.

That is definitely not Chris Hemsworth at 20! He looks about 14 there!

I just googled 'Chris Hemsworth aged 20' and got this:

Different starts seems to have some strange kind of agenda 🤣

The other picture isn't chris Hemsworth it's a 20 year old actor but even 20 year old chris looks like a baby their

What agenda being attracted to adult men instead of uni kids

Yeah but you've deliberately chosen a picture of a 20 year old who doesn't look their age. I bet you trawled for ages to find that

This is Tom Cruise at 20.

I think he was in Risky Business at that stage...definitely a must watch movie if you're interested @NotmyrealNC ;) ;)

Oh - and fyi, Chris Hemsworth was actually 25, yes the same age as this 'poor boy', when he was in Thor (the first one).

I'm still in team "Go For It"

20 is very different to 25. At 20 your brain still hasn’t fully finished developing. You could be at college or Uni or just in your first entry job. At 25 lots of people already have a family of their own, a steady job. I do think in those 5 years a huge amount of development happens.

Don't be ridiculous. He's a full grown man

If you want to do it go for it but be prepared for him to brag about it and don't be surprised if other young men come on to you .

Oh - and fyi, Chris Hemsworth was actually 25, yes the same age as this 'poor boy', when he was in Thor (the first one).

Very interesting information indeed

Yes, the type of 'full grown man' who picks women up for sex without having to pay for it. A win win for this particular fully grown man.

There are literally hundreds of doctors and nurses running around hospitals treating people and saving lives with their "underdeveloped brains". 😱

Aww look at his little baby face he looks like a child there