Rudeness or offensive

[Littlejewel]

Is it rude to spilt a couple up at a reception without telling them and leaving one of them sat a table with five strangers.

What a lovely individual OP is.

The happy couple must be utterly beside themselves

I will not miss them

Good hope that they get everything that they deserve.

The lack of self awareness here is outstanding 😅

It happened to me at a wake, I was really offended.

Aren't you in your 60s/70s? You're acting like someone with zero life experience or resilience,and quite frankly, very childish. You really should be more mature by now.

Yes Demonhunter. When I read her first post, I initially assumed it was a very young and immature person writing. Hardly the behaviour of a 'mature' adult.

As you have said.

Repeatedly.

Imagine spending your life being this bitter and twisted.

Certainly not bitter and twisted so you have the wrong end of the stick here.

Oh go on. This is riveting, cannot wait for the next instalment.

Didn't this actually happen ages ago?? I think I remember that from the previous post.

Why on earth would it ruin a wedding having to sit next to new people for dinner? I'd quite like that.

If one of the couple is in the wedding party fair enough but I’d make the effort to place the partner with people they know.
if it’s done on a whim because the bride and groom want everyone to mix - I’d find that too controlling. Going to a wedding means a big financial outlay so I’d expect to be with my partner and feel at ease - not to have to make small talk with strangers.

The only end of the stick I have is the bile you're spewing here.

You must be 80 if you have been with your h for 60 years, but you're posting as if you're much younger. And immature.

I can't say I'm surprised that you found it hard to make conversation. It sounds as if you're looking for offence all the time. What an exhausting way to live.

Not everyone likes to sit with strangers on their own.

It's isn't rude, OP. It's a shame you didn't get on better with your table mates but it's quite usual to seat couples separately if one is at the top table. Why has this upset you so much, did one of them say something personally rude to you? Jokes about not drinking alcohol may have been an attempt to break the ice.

That was the problem we knew nobody else other than the Bride, Groom and Mother Bitch. So I was sat with five strangers who were rude and made insulting remarks at me. To end it all one of them made a very offensive remark which my husband heard and was appalled by it, He got me out of the room quick before any else happened,

Well it did not come across as a joke, Also it was clear from them that they did not want to engage in conversation with me. So sat in silence most of the evening. My husband called them "social morons"

Oh my, the irony.

The more you post the more obnoxious you sound. Rude, ignorant, immature, and not exactly the brightest button in the box, to say the least.

Why won't you answer the question as to why you've started another thread about this months later?? Is your life that miserable you seek out drama online? You seem to be deliberately trolling with your posts...

OP, why not acknowledge that you’re likely to have contributed to the unwelcoming dynamic on your table, if your behaviour towards the other people reflects the attitudes you’ve demonstrated here? And frankly, now that you’ve clarified your relations with the people you knew at the wedding, it’s clear sitting at the top table wouldn’t have improved your evening (or anyone else’s), as you hate everyone you knew at the top table too!

You say on your other thread that the ‘offensive remark’ made to you as you were leaving was ‘Are you taking your father to bed?’ I’m not sure I understand this. You say your husband is 82 — are you visibly far younger or something? Either way, this rude remark can’t be blamed on the bride and groom or your SIL. Especially as it’s clear you would have found food for complaint wherever you were seated. The meal would still have been wrong, and the tea and coffee still lacking, and you wouldn’t have been any happier with the company.

Not bitter and twisted?!

You've started two posts, months apart and a nice word has yet to leave your mouth.

But absolutely not bitter and twisted
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Across two threads and three pages of responses from the OP, there are still some pretty pertinent questions that haven’t been answered:

Why, if there’s such a long term split in the family, did the bride not only invite her uncle, but ask him to give her away? That’s a pretty integral role in the wedding. Unless the bride is super-traditional, there’s no obligation to choose a male relative or a man at all - her mother could have done it. She must have actively wanted her uncle.

Why, for the same reasons, did OP’s husband say yes? Why would you actively choose take part in a wedding when you have a terrible relationship with the people involved?

The OP didn’t want to sit with strangers - but there wasn’t anyone there who she knew, other than those at the top table. So did she expect to be there - even though she describes the mother of the bride as a bitch and a cow, and apparently she’s hated her for 60 years?

One obvious answer covering all questions comes to mind - that being that the OP’s husband doesn’t have any issue with his niece, and vice versa. And as such, she wanted him to be part of the wedding, and vice versa. And the issue is actually with the OP, who came as part of the package.