Rudeness or offensive

[Littlejewel]

Is it rude to spilt a couple up at a reception without telling them and leaving one of them sat a table with five strangers.

I think that you are just as rude.

Absolutely this. I joined a book club and when I arrived at the venue, seats were saved for friends with people's coats or bags and I ended up seating on a single stool and table by myself away from the group, despite their being space for me. Then at the discussion, the woman who ran the group seemed surprised when I wanted to join the discussion and everyone just fell silent and looked at each other.

I sent a message saying thanks but I wouldn't go back as my work hours has changed and she messaged back and said no worries, we are quite a close group of dear friends and it's very hard to get into our circle.

I don't get why people are purposely rude and isolating in real life, they need to step away from the Internet I think and regain their manners. This were women in their 40s and 50s so not exactly unfamiliar with life pre Internet.

Yet the consensus over your two (!) threads about this seems pretty definitive that you were in the wrong.

What is the point in you posting if you won't take any other viewpoint on board?!

Yes. Why would you???

Bet OP is fun at parties. Oh wait...

Depends if the fish is cooked properly and there's coffee after 😁

If the idea was to follow official etiquette (e.g. 'man, woman, man, woman' seating plan), then married couples should not be seated together. If I remember correctly, you're seated together if you're engaged or within your first year of marriage, but after that you're split up
This! I thought it was common knowledge.

Eh?

We have always sat together at any function in 60 years together,

I rarely go to weddings where I sit with my husband and often we have been on different tables.

It's considered not making an effort if you sit people with the people they live with.

BUT, a lot of time has gone into making sure people are placed with other people they will be comfortable with. I've never been placed with anyone I found hard work or difficult. And it's good to get to know new people. Perhaps I was lucky mine were nice people.

It would have been better than sitting there with the insults from these people that I was sat with, Hubby had a word for them "social morons".

Problem was there were no other family members there and these people had already been rude to hubby at the bar when he tried to talk to them. Just turned away from him.

They do sound like an unpleasant lot, that's for sure!

Thank you for replying yes they were during the meal. Insults and total lack conversation from them. I have no memory of several parts of the evening including the cutting of the cake. What happened to me I would not wish it on anyone else.

Moron is one of those words that tells you so much about the user isn't it.

explain

Why are people giving genuine responses RTFT … this has been posted about before.. the OP was dreadful in that thread, it became very obvious that she was lucky to her invited at all.

The only people I feel sorry for are the people landed with her on thier table .. and the B&G who had to pay for her meal …

You have no idea what you are talking about.

So what happened other than being sat away from your Husband, fish not cooked properly, no tea or coffee and asked if you were taking your Dad to bed?

Is that's what caused your memory loss from the night?

This

We were the only couple not to sit together, Hubby hated sitting at the top table and could wait for the meal to end to get away from them,

I feel like I've read this thread before

I love that you're still here hours after you said you weren't going to post again @Littlejewel
If you like them as little as you say why did you even go?

You were very unlucky with your table mates, it sounds awful!
But putting some family members at the top table without their partners isn't rude in itself. You should have been seated with people you know and like, and it would have felt quite different.