There's something weird going on in my house

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For the last couple of weeks I've been noticing lights on when I come in when I'm 100% sure I've turned them off. Milk out on the side when I'm sure it's been put away. Stuff moved around but not in an obvious way, just a "huh, I could have sworn I left that somewhere else."

Put it down to rushed mornings and my cats playing with stuff.

Been out most of the day, just went into the upstairs bathroom for the first time since this morning and there's blood on the loo tank. Thought it could have come from a cat bringing something in but the door has been closed all day, and it's on the third floor so it's not like they could have got in and out like that. Windows have been closed too.

I have already bought carbon monoxide detectors in addition to the wired in ones. They're all over the house but haven't picked anything up.

Have a loft but the hatch is tiny and doesn't seem to have been disturbed.

Have an internal camera which shows the front door and hall - no activity though it did show my dog going bonkers barking at something outside a couple of times today (though the external camera isn't up yet so I couldn't see what)

Only direct family have keys and they wouldn't do stuff like this. Will be changing the locks tomorrow!

I'm properly creeped out ATM! Husband will be back shortly from work thank god! I'm in the bedroom with the door wedged shut for the moment!

Please someone give me a rational explanation!

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Misplaced items aside, I'm a vet nurse and if we want to detect flea dirt, we can brush the cat over a wet piece of kitchen towel and it looks like that because the flea sucks blood and their poop is digested blood that looks like blood when it gets wet.

The most likely explanation is you didn't notice the spots on the cistern when you were in there and you didn't clean it. But you think you did, because you normally do. So you remember cleaning the bathroom because it's something you normally do. But you're not actually remembering this time. Even though you think you are. You're remembering the act of cleaning, which you do on a regular basis and your brain has entered it into that day's memory for you.

Our memories simply cannot be relied upon. That fact is proven in study after study after study.

You've said your husband doesn't have set spots for his stuff, so that's easy. He knows all the regular places he puts his stuff but not exactly where he put these things the last time. So it all gets muddled up and he remembers all the times he's put them in all the different places.

You are rushing, or not fully awake in the mornings so stuff gets left out.

You"dont ever" do something so you don't remember the rare times you actually do do it. Because you are 100% convinced X is something you never do so your brain disregards it.

You're doing some stuff and not realising.

He's doing some stuff and not realising.

youve noticed a few things he's done.

He's noticed a few things you've done.

You've both thought that's weird, I don't remember that and are now looking at all these little things as though they are part of a big mystery.

Then you've compared notes and convinced each other it's not a combination of autopilot and mixed up memories and given it serious significance and now each and every time you think you remember that you left the milk out or forgot where you put a book or didn't put something in the bin has been put into this big mental file marked Big Weird Thing.

Bit patronising there I think. There are so many things OP and her DH are mis remembering/mistaking according to you 🙄🙄

It's not patronising. It's fact.

Memory is proven beyond any doubt to be so unreliable that it's ridiculous it's accepted in court.

If I'm patronising the op I'm patronising myself and every person on the planet.

Memory is part reality and part fiction. We can't trust it. The most boring explanation for anything odd (when you rule out other people fucking with you, animals and shit breaking) is always your brain fucked up when filing your memory.

Yeah C/0 detectors only detect leaking carbon dioxide nothing else and certainly not intruders, or dare I say it...ghosts. I used to know a guy who was a decorator in Bath. He got a job to paint a converted bakery after hours. He was given the keys and went in, he was like that's strange there is member of staff still here? Then the man dressed like an old fashioned Baker then disappeared through the wall. He threw his kit down and legged it. He went back the next day and told the new owners. Turned out where the 'baker' went through the wall, years before there was a door, since bricked up. He said he was clear as day not like how you would imagine a ghost to look! Personally, I've never seen one and I'm not convinced they exist. However, he was adamant and not know for lying, so who knows? Definitely check the loft!

Love you state it’s fact when you don’t even know the OP. You don’t know her case is fact as you’ve stated it 🤷‍♀️ So by your fact and reasoning, all the other cases on her which have proved otherwise would have been your incorrect fact too 🧐

This made me laugh enough to crawl out of bed finally, so thanks.

@Andthesky I do agree...A lot of autopilot stuff and we get interrupted and forget.
Definitely not ghosts.

BUILTFORSPEED "Yeah C/0 detectors only detect leaking carbon dioxide nothing else"

They detect carbon monoxide, not carbon dioxide which we're breathing out all the time.

Have you arranged to have the locks changed, OP? You could just give a key to your sister and nobody else.

That's a bit rude OP. You didn't make it clear in your previous posts. Maybe say: "I'm sorry I didn't say earlier but I've specifically asked her and checked she wasn't removing the milk because she's vegan " etc

This is going to be one of those threads which go on forever and we never get a proper answer.

I do hope not!

Already two days in, nearly a full thread and we are no further along.

Was there any answer re extractor fan above cistern?

OP said sister doesn't drink milk yesterday - on the second page of her posts. Easy to miss, in the same way I missed that the house was detached.

Op, do you or your partner sleepwalk

I'm more boggled by the thought of someone managing (bothering) to clean the cistern in the midst of wrangling a busy family with 4 pets and at least one child out the door in the morning than I am by the possible presence of phroggers, poltergeists or bleeding toilet-dwelling rats.

Hi OP

I remember a stage when I was finding weird substances on the toilet, really weird. I then realised it was coming from the air vent/fan in the ceiling and muck blowing in when the weather outside was bad.

Following your thread with interest.

Please keep us all updated!

Had you coming i was in there with her.

100% flea dirt and forgetfulness.

cant believe you called 111 😅

Memory being unreliable is fact.

I don't need to know the op to understand that memory is scientifically proven to be completely unreliable.

You seem to believe I was saying my opinion on the most likely explanation of the op's situation is what I was referring to as fact.

You are wrong.

I was referring to the proven unreliability of the human memory as fact.

Which it is.

Sorry, I missed it being asked.

No, it's not above the loo.