To begrudge her perfect little life

[Sistafromanothermista]

I’m struggling to articulate this but I have a friend who I actually really like as a person but can’t help begrudge her life sometimes.

we went to school together and she was a high flying achiever. Type A person who was never in trouble but pushed boundaries if she thought teachers were wrong or there was an injustice etc. She was a workaholic and wanted to focus on her career with no time for boys, alcohol and ‘distractions’ like that.

we lost touch for a few years and got back in touch recently and I feel I don’t know, demoralised maybe, because of how her life has turned out.

when we met up again she told me she’d met someone (I was happy for her because I knew she had been in an abusive relationship for a while) and was happy. She then goes on to show me pictures of his proposal (think movie style every girl’s dream rose petals and swan towels) and says they’ve booked their wedding. Again all good.

she THEN proceeds to tell me shes 16 weeks pregnant and her and her fiancée had bought a house. I without thinking asked how can you afford all this…of course miss workaholic accelerated in her finance role.

since we’ve gotten closer she’s had her wedding and just so happened that her husband has made friends with my friends through a hobby. They all went out recently (as in all the men), including my own boyfriend. They went to a more sleazy part of town and I (and this is so horrible I know) asked specifically about my friends husband to see if he’d been upto anything (a couple of the other men had). Apparently her husband talked about her the whole night, didn’t drink alcohol and went home early because he missed her.

just tonight she text me to tell me she’s expecting another baby and how she would love to meet for lunch. She’s a lovely woman and she has a heart of gold and she should obviously be so proud of herself but for fuck sake I just feel like I can’t catch a break around her sometimes. Aibu?

edited to say: she’s stunning by the way. She was always attractive in school but when I saw her again she looked like a real elegant type of stunning. I’m not bad myself but again I just feel a bit bleugh when I’m with her.

I did not get any of this, which is any different than we all have. What has happened exactly?

😂

Jason Momoa is above my technical pay grade. Daddy Pig is about my level

hahahahaha! not sure if thats really clever or just really disturbing 😂

I think you have a side hustle there…

Is this thread a particularly novel slant on the old favourite, OP pissed off because her partner won't get married?

Fucking Hell with friends like you, innit? You sound spiteful as fuck.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🦢🦢🦢🦢So classy.

Oooooh 100 posters have thanked me for my “swan towels” comment 🦢 Feel sorry for hotel staff having to spend time folding towels into fricking 🦢

All my bath towels are folded into Swan towels.
I have a path then pick up a swan
Isn't that standard?

😂

*bath

Just googled Swan Towels. I don’t know what I was expecting 😂
This is the big romantic gesture is it? Towel origami.

They don't even look like swans.

They're towels vaguely bent in one direction 😂

I was envisaging you walking to your bathroom between a path of swan towels, before picking one to be swan of the day! That really would tip OP over the edge! 😁😁

Haha a swan towel lined path to the bath.

Sure don't we all have one.

Can't you just feel happy for her? Because she is your friend and all? I would probably have had a laugh with my dh e.g. about the swan towel thing, but not in a really bitchy way and would never dream of taking to the internet to slag my friend off when she has done nothing to you.

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I'll be doing all my towels as swans, from this day on!

A plain towel is not good enough for me anymore.

Sounds like you liked her when her life was awful and it made you feel better about yourself. Now that hers has improved it makes you feel worse about yourself.

Why do I need to wise up ? If your post IS TRUE , then improve your own life and stop morning about someone else’s .

moaning

Swan towels are so first series of 4 in a Bed.

Your 'friend' making you feel inadequate isn't really about your 'friend' at all. Its about you. I think you need to do some soul searching OP to find out what you really want yourself and how to make the changes to go about getting inner peace.

Did you see the online comedian Luke hammett do a pisstake of four in a bed.

He walked into a clean bedroom and said "well I'm not staying here, there's a fucking pube on the floor!!!"

Now now, you need to reign in that jealousy 😀😂

It's a bit clichéd and boring. I would find folding a swan into a towel shape much more romantic. At least there is some dedication and danger involved.