To begrudge her perfect little life

[Sistafromanothermista]

I’m struggling to articulate this but I have a friend who I actually really like as a person but can’t help begrudge her life sometimes.

we went to school together and she was a high flying achiever. Type A person who was never in trouble but pushed boundaries if she thought teachers were wrong or there was an injustice etc. She was a workaholic and wanted to focus on her career with no time for boys, alcohol and ‘distractions’ like that.

we lost touch for a few years and got back in touch recently and I feel I don’t know, demoralised maybe, because of how her life has turned out.

when we met up again she told me she’d met someone (I was happy for her because I knew she had been in an abusive relationship for a while) and was happy. She then goes on to show me pictures of his proposal (think movie style every girl’s dream rose petals and swan towels) and says they’ve booked their wedding. Again all good.

she THEN proceeds to tell me shes 16 weeks pregnant and her and her fiancée had bought a house. I without thinking asked how can you afford all this…of course miss workaholic accelerated in her finance role.

since we’ve gotten closer she’s had her wedding and just so happened that her husband has made friends with my friends through a hobby. They all went out recently (as in all the men), including my own boyfriend. They went to a more sleazy part of town and I (and this is so horrible I know) asked specifically about my friends husband to see if he’d been upto anything (a couple of the other men had). Apparently her husband talked about her the whole night, didn’t drink alcohol and went home early because he missed her.

just tonight she text me to tell me she’s expecting another baby and how she would love to meet for lunch. She’s a lovely woman and she has a heart of gold and she should obviously be so proud of herself but for fuck sake I just feel like I can’t catch a break around her sometimes. Aibu?

edited to say: she’s stunning by the way. She was always attractive in school but when I saw her again she looked like a real elegant type of stunning. I’m not bad myself but again I just feel a bit bleugh when I’m with her.

Thank you sorry I need to calm down 😀

I'm at the age where my Instagram is filled proposals... Never once have I seen a swan towel.
Rose petals definitely but not this.
I googled 'swan towel proposal' also nothing
It's like you said just a hotel thing.

Only by the OP, not by her friend’s husband, who may well think they’re naff too as I’m assuming he didn’t actually do the towel origami himself 😁

I'm curious now how pictures of the proposal turned up on Instagram. Surely it was the 2 of them in a hotel room? Who took the photo? Or was it the aftermath, so basically they were on holiday, she took a selfie and a made up bed with Swan towels were in the background? Presumably it would have been worse if there had been evidence of vigorous post proposal sex with the swan towels and 40 cushions flung around the room, crumpled sheets and both of them flushed and semi naked?

I can’t believe you asked her how she can afford her life! I would have backed away from you then and there.

But try to imagine the swan towels, strung from the rafters. Billowing elegantly in the breeze. Glorious.

You can keep your paper swans.

How do you make a swan towel by the way.

I presume that you need a long thin towel.

You take a swan and wrap it in a big bath towel. Fold in the sections tight enough to stop any unwanted movement.

The rot set in when human beings became capable of capturing moments for posterity. There would be no FOMO if seeing swan towels and rose petals meant you were directly experiencing them.

It would fall apart unless sewn.
Now if a man did make me a swan with moving parts, robotics etc...mmm.
Some of us have high standards

Where’s your sense of romance!

To be honest, OP, it sounds more like you're envious over her choices (eg to work hard at school, while it sounds from your words like you chose otherwise) - and, more to the point, regretting some of your own.

Where's your sense of beauty???
Although... I did come home to DH having written ' I ❤️ u' on the bed with all the laundry he'd done once...

This thread reminds me of why I prefer animals to people. You have a "friend" who has come though domestic abuse and now has a happy life. Instead f being happy for her you are actively looking to see if things will go wrong- if her husband went to a strip club for example and appear disappointed when he has not. Do you have no self awareness as to how awful this sounds?

Did he fold them all himself?

Just leaving this here. Swan towel folding turns out to be quite an enterprise. I take it back!

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Lv4HLUy4xnQ

Oh and there’s always squirrel and elephant towels

Truly the stuff of nightmares dreams.

Good grief it’s like something from a North Korean mausoleum…

@Sistafromanothermista start comparing yourself to women in Gaza, or Afghanistan. Then you will feel a whole lot better about your life.

You actually dont sound very nice. Im really happy for my friends when things go right for them

Keep away from her. You don't deserve her

Can anyone make Jason Momoa out of a towel?

That would impress me

Comparison is the thief of joy! Weirdly your post is mostly about what your friend has, or aesthetics. Stop being shallow and just enjoy what you have and make plans to improve your own life. Be happy for her. You are the creator of your own life style and can make changes..

Not quite Jason but almost.