to think that my partner should not have sexy vidoes of girls in his...

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office on his computer?? I looked through his email tonight and found a video forwarded of two girls from his office stripping in a lift that he had forwarded and lots of pictures of psuedo lesbian and tits out shots and videos that he had searched for online during his working day. He is the boss of the UK and exchanging emails with salemen. I truly thought he had grown up in our ten years and three, another on the way, children. I am so angry that I asked him to leave the house or I would beat him with the laptop until it broke. I have no idea what to do. It brings up the trust issue and that my dp is not, by a long way, the man I thought he was.
Shall I just kill him?????

No, my analogy. Sorry!

I guess a catalogue of things have lead me to this point of kicking him out, staying out 'til three when he said ten, going back to people's houses at the end of a night instead of coming home, snorting a line or two and denying it when I know he has, general lying... pretty pathalogically. This is just the straw really.

If my life were someone elses I would think I was an idiot. By my dp not having respect for me, I have none for myself.

Can I double post/ start a thread?

Dittany - a video was of 2 office girls stripping. I hardly think they had the boss waving their P45s and a camera in front of them whilst getting their kit off. Tell me how that particular example can be classed as sexual harassment?

In an environment like that - I can't see people being forced into watching and forwarding various porn clips.

"By my dp not having respect for me, I have none for myself." are you serious??
then this is about much more than if dp looks at/seeks out porn.

It wasn't my dp filming, however if a superior is involoved in sexual behaviour with a subordinate even if the subordinate consents it is sexual harrassment as the power is implied and therefore, cannot be excluded.

"By my dp not having respect for me, I have none for myself."

Sorry, but by having non for yourself, how can you expect DP to have any for you?

It's like the saying "You can't expect someone to love you until you love yourself".

I have made commitments to this man and if I stay with someone who has no respect for me then how can I have any for myself. not that how I feel about myself is reliant on how he feels about me but if I stay in a realtionship where I am not respected then how can I have self respect???

I had self respect long before I met him.

Phew at least after posting the thread I am not so angry that I can't sleep, just wish I'd put the whites on so I could hang them out!!!

Morning PP, how are you feeling this morning? Did you get any sleep?

I think some people on this thread are not noticing or ignoring the fact that what is going on in your husbands company is highly illegal, it's a sackable offence to partake in sexual behaviour like that on company premises let alone sending it round on company networks/ email. Your DH is skating on very thin ice there regardless of the moral, porn is disrespectful to women question.

If you feel you cannot trust this man it would be silly to stay with him. You'd be constantly looking over your shoulder wondering if it's happening again, I was.

Big hugs, thinking of you.